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Feb 27, 2007, 08:49 PM
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Why do i always feel the need to be able to have someone to talk to in person? Yet... that person can never be someone my age, always older.
Why do i always need reassurance if i'm upset, always wanting someone to give me a hug and let me know they care? Why do i always feel bad about the things i'm feeling? Like i'm doing something wrong, or hurting someone else by feeling this way? Why am i so attached to the people in my life that are almost impossible for me to keep in contact with? Why does my mind always seem to find its way back to all these thoughts whenever i'm not doing anything? ... or even when i am? Why am i so scared of myself and how i'm feeling? Scared of letting everyone down (myself included) ... scared of being a disappointment or burden to everyone? Why do i feel like i'm making everything up? Like nothing is real, like i'm doing this for attention when thats really the last thing i want? Why can't i tell my T about any of this ... i feel so ashamed.
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Feb 27, 2007, 08:53 PM
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(((((((((jacq10)))))))))
 I don't know but I wanted to give you a hug and hope it makes you feel better. |
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Feb 27, 2007, 08:56 PM
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Why do i always feel the need to be able to have someone to talk to in person? Yet... that person can never be someone my age, always older.
Because you didn't have that when you were a kid? Why do i always need reassurance if i'm upset, always wanting someone to give me a hug and let me know they care? Because you needed that when you were a kid? Why do i always feel bad about the things i'm feeling? Like i'm doing something wrong, or hurting someone else by feeling this way? Because you weren't allowed to feel your feelings as a kid? I dunno Jax. Just the first thing that came to me.  Print this off and bring it to your T. If you can't give it to them during the session...drop it off on the way out the door. 
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Feb 27, 2007, 10:06 PM
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((((((((((((((((((Jax)))))))))))))))))) thank you very much for the hug, much appreciated.
((((((((((Petunia)))))))))) thanks for your response too ... and you're probably right about the whold childhood thing. But, only thing is i thought my childhood was ordinary, and problems didn't come up in my family until more recently ... although thats probably just magnifying everything ...
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Feb 27, 2007, 10:17 PM
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((((((((((Jacq))))))))))
You know you can contact me WHENEVER you need someone to talk to, right? I agree with Petunia, try giving your T a copy of your post. Good starting off point to talk about stuff, it's hard but I know you can do it. Luv ya my friend. 
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Feb 27, 2007, 11:51 PM
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Thank you Christina ... you are a dear friend. Same goes for you.
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Feb 28, 2007, 08:54 AM
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(((((((((((((((( jacq ))))))))))))))) 
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Feb 28, 2007, 06:26 PM
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(((((((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))))))
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Feb 28, 2007, 07:01 PM
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I know how that is....I have that too...and I worry that if I give in to the want/need to get the nurturning from others that I will suck them dry or drive them away and feel ashamed that I can't nurture myself...I can't trust my own opinions about things...I can't believe on my own that I am a good person...so I can't build up my self esteem because I don't believe what I tell myself is true.
It is a HARD thing to change. ANd it feels HUGE I know. the deep want to be cared about and reassured and affirmed. |
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