I am very scared. No one takes my concerns seriously.

Two more days until I move back into my dad's house with my abusive sister. She has been threatening to get gang members to kill the entire family for a while, and my dad doesn't take the threats seriously at all. He just says, "Oh, I know for a fact she will never do that." There's no reason to believe she WOULDN'T do that. She was dating a gang member very recently, and she has already done all kinds of violent things including stabbing my mom. In addition to the gang-affiliated boyfriend, she hangs out with people who have guns because she has pictures of herself holding them.

I don't want to go back to living in her filth and being afraid to go to sleep at night. I'm a nervous, anxious, depressed mess and just wanted to vent. It is so frustrating that no one will take the situation seriously and that I have to live there because I am too stupid to make enough money for my own place. Okay, I'm done. Gotta go pack and clean now.

I don't understand why your dad won't take the threats seriously. Your situation worries me. It certainly doesn't sound safe. I can understand you not wanting to move back there. Is there another family member you and your dad could move in with, though older people are hesitant to leave a place they have lived at for a long time. It sounds though like someone needs to reach out to your sister and get her away from the people she is hanging out with because gangs are just a road to death and destruction. Is there a trusted local minister or counselor you could confide in? I pray for you and wish you the best. Keep us posted.

The situation with my sister has been getting worse for over a decade. Everyone who could have been contacted already has been. There have been hundreds of counselors, psychologists, psychiatrists, police officers, social workers, ministers, you name it involved. She has been removed from the house a few times, but nothing permanent can be done legally until she actually does do something really bad like kill someone. Even when the cops came over to the house the time my dad had blood rolling down his face because she punched him, the cops asked my dad if he wanted to press charges, he said no, and they left. The only one who can really do something about it is my dad since she lives in his house, and he refuses to.

I don't think there's anything anyone outside can do about it. I just wish I didn't have to go back there. No, there isn't anyone else I can move in with. Thanks for your kind words.

Hard situation. I think parents have a hard time putting their foot down to their kids. Parents won't press charges even when their kids beat the mess out of them. It is just a parent thing. Your dad has probably had his poor heart broken so many times from all of this. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this though.

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Your dad is sick at this point. Have you considered to be a personal attendant to a disabled person? That job could give you housing and a number of arrangements can be made ( working hours etc). Also, perhaps you may want to slow your studies to be able to explore other types of arrangements. My brother locked up one of my dogs without water or food and took the keys with him. Then he left the house. He did it because he is a bully and has a serious mental health condition. Also, he does this to me because I am in a wheelchair and cannot defend myself. I had to call a technician to break the door so the dog could be freed and install a new lock. My brother came back at night, did not say a word. I am waiting for my pension resolution to start the process of selling the house we share. It will be a nightmare with him for sure because he never cooperates despite I pay all the bills. My parents passed away already but they could not deal with him. If I move out now the risk he will destroy our family house but staying is risky as well. I am older and with many health issues, but if I could, I would leave this house immediately. I was thinking of you today, as my brother had his rage

Your brother sounds a lot like my sister in ways. A bully for the sake of being a bully. A lot of people do not seem to get that or believe that such people exist in the world, which is very frustrating. I am glad you were able to get the dog out and will be leaving the home soon. Where will he be going?

I have slowed, or more accurately stopped, my studies already. Can't afford to be in school anymore. I haven't considered being a disabled person's attendant. I don't think I could handle that job. Maybe.

If we sell the house he will get his share of it and can buy a smaller one. But he does not want to do that because now I am paying all the bills. He has to get food only. In the past, he said he would only accept selling the house if we get above a price that is ridiculous. Nobody is going to pay that amount for the house. He would like to get money to buy several properties and live on the rent coming from those properties but it is not realistic at this point. I have started a process to get him out of the house by legal means but it has not been easy and I dropped it