A love once lost...

My relationship of 2 years has ended tragically 4 months ago and i'm still not over the loss. My already existing depression has gone way down hill. I'm afraid i'll never be the person i used to be. And i'm afraid i'll never get over him. I'm having serious doubts about....well...everything really. I've isolated myself from everyone and everything. And i've lost all hope. Any advice?

((((Anna))))

I think what you are going through is the grieving process Anna. Grieving can take all shapes and forms in our life and is a process that goes at it's own pace. Some recover quickly, others take more time.

I think the only advice I can give to you is to go easy on yourself. Allow yourself to work through the process and accept the feeling of loss. But I hope you realize that it is not the end of the world...by taking baby steps you can help yourself to feel better. That may mean getting some counceling or therapy to help you work through it all. It may mean that every day you make a small goal and do what you can to meet that goal.

I'm sorry you are feeling so lost right now. Know that people here care and are ready to lend a hug or a shoulder when you need it. You are welcome to pm me anytime if you like.

Take good care of YOU!

Hugsssss

((Anna))

DEAR LORD!! I know how you feel. My "marriage" of 7 1/2 years ended abruptly one day in October and I am still reeling and trying to get my balance. I too was already depressed [but didn't know it] and now the symptoms are extremely evident and often uncontrollable.
I am still trying to figure out what exactly it is I need to do [ie: pray, counseling, meds, etc]. But, I KNOW that I am worth much more than feeling like this all the time. That is about all I know right now. But, I still have to remind myself of that many times throughout my day. I have decided to make it my mission to get well and take care of myself. It is a struggle. It is especially difficult when a part of me feels hopeless and worthless. But, I have to remain my own strength. Just because my once beloved didn't see my value any longer doesn't mean that I have to have that same opinion. Well, that is what I tell myself each day anyway. I guess it is that whole idea behind "fake it 'til you make it." Even if I don't believe it, wholeheartedly, I have to tell myself that each day to keep my head up and keep moving forward. My hope is that one day when I wake up, I will truly BELIEVE it, no longer having to try to convince myself of that. You know?
So, I guess what I am trying to say is, stay strong. PLEASE don't give up on yourself. I KNOW it is hard. But, you ARE worth it. You WILL move past this and you WILL get back to you.
I have hope for you and I have hope for me. Let's hang in there together....okay?

You will be okay. It will take time. Being a veteran of two failed marriages and many other failed relationships that I thought I could not live without I want to assure you that you can and will. And if your experience is like mine, you will come to be quite content that none of those relationships did last any longer than they did.

Actually I no longer consider them "failed" relationships. They are relationships that I eventually learned very much about myself and other people from. They were necessary to my finding my way to a better and more health level of functioning and intimacy in my relationships. Very painful to go through, but if you look at what you are going through as a learning experience you will get better. Take care of yourself and be nice to yourself while going through this sorrowful and painful time.

thank you for all your support. it helps more than you know. thank you very very much. i appreciate it with all my heart.

(((((((((((( Anna ))))))))))))

*hugs* I'm so sorry for your loss. I know it's hard to belive but you will love again, maybe not for a few years but it will come!

Sorry to hear this Anna... Words might not be any consolation, but take it one day at a time. If you have people around you who can listen and/or give support, do use this as well. Thinking of you.

Hey,
wow. I am very surprised at how much our stories resemble. I am going through pretty much the same exact thing. If you want to talk...send me a message please. I'll offer all the support I can. Im so sorry your dealing with this. I know exactly how this feels seeing as how im going through the same thing right now. Try to keep your mind off of it, and try to feel better. I'm thinkin about you!!!

i am so sorry to hear that...... god bless you!!!!! i know exactly how you are feeling......