[dreamgirl30]

Today i asked (requested) my husband to go to marriage counsellor. he said " i don't want to go, i am happy what i am. if you want, you go" I have been depressed almost 2 years since i moved to USA. but i had not notice what was depression or i was in depression. but from few months, the symptoms are worse than ever. I think about suicide almost all day, and cry all day...... I told him that i think of suicide, he said that you are going to do what your brain says, nothing will change my advise..... i feel i am all crap. any advise to work my relationship? i can not live him because of some social and religious issue and i can not live like this - live without soul.......... what should i do to overcome my depression and work my relation? ( i am Dependant on him financially)

[disorders]

Well one dont depend on him. You have to be able to depend on your self not someone else. To make you feel like you are worth a crap. That is how I see it anyway. Trust me on that one I have been there done that and life is better when you know you can do it on your own. If you are not happy with him so be it leave him. Yeah it is reason you have but no man or reason is worth your life. If your family does not talk to you anymore big deal they will sooner or later. You have to think about you sometimes and not what everyone else wants. Your life should mean more to you then some man. Do you have kids with him. IF he is not there for you and make you feel good about you then find someone that will. If you dont want to leave him and I know this sounds really bad but stay with him and find a man or woman that does make you feel good about you. I know it is cheated but you know what sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make you safe and happy with you. You can not make anyone else happy if you are not happy with you. And tell him that if he does not go to consuling with you you will not have sex with him until he does. That sometimes works. And if not then make him sleep on the couch or heck in the garage. Whatever you have to do. Go get a job that way you can buy what you need and rely only on you. It will make you feel much better about your self and your life. Let me know if this helps.

[dreamgirl30]

I do not have any kid. and now the question is about sex....... He has no feelings for that towards me. i am full time student and i cook 3 times a day, all cleaning of house by myself, buy a grocery by myself. so i can not find time to do work..... what the hell....... sometimes i hate my culture, it does not allow specially married woman to have any kind of relation with any other man.... i am religious person. I am new to USA. i thought that if i study here, i will get good job and take care of me. i tried to find work on weekend but it did not work....... life is so miserable. what should i do with work? i really want to work so i can get money,,,,, but if it is the case, i might have to quit college. thanks for listening.

Please do go and get help even if he doesn't want to. Go for yourself, for how you are feeling, so you can feel better.

[(JD)]

((((hugs))) First, I would go for myself. Any place is better than where you are at right now emotionally. You can make the other hard decisions once a T has you stable enough to think about them. TC

[disorders]

yeppers that is what I was thinking to but added alot more stuff then that to it lol