I am an introverted, sensitive person. There are times when I really do not like being like that. I feel like lately I have some people who do or say things that make me feel down. It may not be a big deal to others, but it is to me.

I got an message from my friend this morning who is halfway across the country saying, "here you are on vacation with no firm plan on how best to enjoy it". I took that as him giving me a lecture. Very often, he would point out very critical things like that. He's the only friend that I have, so I put up with it.

And the other night there were three gay men that came to the pool area after I had been in for a while. I have nothing against the way they are. But what I really didn't like was that they had seemed to imply that they feel sorry for me because I'm alone. They were telling me how wonderful life is in having each other.

Incidentally, I just had planned to just take it easy today. It's been almost a whole year since I had a week off. One good reason why I planned for my week off now was because I knew that my friend would be gone for part of the week and I wanted a little time to myself. I do have plans for tomorrow and the rest of the week.

I feel like that's the main cause of my depression. That I feel lonely, and when I come across people, all they do is say things that are hurtful.

[lilypup]

It sounds like you need some more friends. One friend is not enough when you are depressed. PM me...I have some ideas for you.

[Rohag]

Originally Posted by will19

One good reason why I planned for my week off now was because I knew that my friend would be gone for part of the week and I wanted a little time to myself.

Nothing wrong with that; sounds wise.

If you are among those who have a greater-than-normal need for solitude (like myself), then the loneliness problem can become massive. Sometimes I envy those who never need to be alone.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Rohag

Nothing wrong with that; sounds wise.

If you are among those who have a greater-than-normal need for solitude (like myself), then the loneliness problem can become massive. Sometimes I envy those who never need to be alone.

I do enjoy my solitude. It seems like later in my years, I can only hold down one or two friends. I had periods when I had a few people going on in my life, but it got overwhelming. I envy those who never need to be alone, too. But on the other hand, if you were like that, being alone can be very difficult. I especially envy those who don't have depression, anxiety, and dreadful thoughts like I do.

I think that the hardest part of being alone is when things go wrong. When I was younger, hardly anything went wrong - with my body, that is. And now I have a health concern (though I don't think about it that much). But what's really hard is that little things come up that seem to be a threat. Such as my body feeling weird, strange marks on my skin, etc.

I had one other friend but we split up. I was the one to let him go. I felt bad about it and I miss him. He was not there that much for me and I felt like he was not a good friend. He talked down on me a lot; and I think he started to like me a whole lot when I wanted to sell my place. He wanted to get in and sell the place for me to make money. I didn't think he was competent enough. He got mad at me when he found out that I used a real estate person to inquire. As of now, I have decided not to sell my place.

[believer55]

My SO tells me all the time that I am oversensitive - usually when he is telling me everything I do wrong I do not know when sensitive become oversensitive or if there is such a thing. I think it is more that most people do not know how to deal with people who are emotional. I also need and try to find "me" time as I am a reflective person and need some time to wind down. I have a couple of really trusted friends who I see when I am ready. I do need to make sure I do not read more into things people say to me than is really there and use self talk to question myself when I feel I am "hearing" a negative that is not realy there. Do not lose your sensitivity - learn about yourself and question yourself and embrace yourself