[dexter]

i have been talking with my therapist about the extreme difficulty i have been having staying out of bed during the day.

one thing he keeps suggesting is that i try to find a way to limit my napping without giving it up. Fighting the urge to sleep has been very stressful and exhausting in itself. While it is important for me to stay out of bed, my T thinks that i should also acknowledge that right now my body is really needing this because the urge is so strong.

I am just afraid that if i let down my guard i will end up in bed all day every day. he wants me to try to find a compromise, like setting a timer for one hour so that when i nap it will limit the amount of time i nap. I am willing to try this but it is quite likely that i would wake up and stop the alarm and then get back into bed if i am in that sort of "compromise" frame of mind.

this whole thing is a huge issue for me. the point my T makes is that it might help to find a compromise so that i am not fighting against myself every day.

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[dexter]

(I went back to bed for about 2 hours today shortly after returning home from my appt today)

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[SeptemberMorn]

I was checking out some new smilies and I came across this one. It reminded me of you and made me laugh.



"snore yorik"?? hahahahaha





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[krzyk101]

Just a thought, I know of some people who had similiar problems with going to bed during the day. Alot due to depression. Sounds like your T has a plan that is good.

Have you ever had a Sleep study done? I know of people who suffered from depression and some who did not, only couldn't stay awake during the day. They had a Sleep study done, and found that they had Sleep Apnea, something that they didn't get enough oxygen when they slept at night. Causing them to be overtired and sleepy during the day. My case manager was one he had it so bad that I would be talking to him and he would be sitting there asleep. He started falling asleep everywhere even during my sessions with the pDoc. He had minor surgery and stays awake all day now.

I just wanted to tell you about that and I hope you are feeling better.
Best Wishes

Take Care,
Kris

If you think you have totally gave up, you haven't, because you are here!

[jbug]

I am fighting that urge right now. I didn't sleep real well last night due to the fact I slept on the couch with the T.V. on. But anyway...I am finding that distracting myself is keeping me out of bed. I have scrapbooked, took a shower, surfed the web, petted the cat etc. Then in about 2 hours my parents will be home and that will keep me awake because my dad has the T.V. turned up really loud.

Don't Blame me I just do what the Voices Tell me to do

[texdave]

I have been taking 50 milligrams of Trazadone for many years now to help me sleep. Without it, I sleep little or not at all, and feel exactly like you describe. I think Kris may have something there with the sleep apnea thing too. I know a guy that had it so bad he had to go on disability because the lack of oxygen had actually damaged his brain.

[somebody]

Dave, I have the same problem you are talking about. I can go days without getting out of bed... I don't care if I eat or drink anything, I keep a water bottle next to the bed and my meds are also right there...I can sleep for up to 18 hours a day or more... then I have the times like now that I can't sleep at all. I had no choice this week about getting up because I had my grandson all week... it was good for me because I had to stay on a set time to get up and when I could sleep... when he slept... two naps a day... I slept... but I had to get out of bed and interact with him...Next week I will try to do what I did this week but without an incentive I don't think it will work to well. Without that reason to get up I don't bother... even the dogs get frustrated with me because I make them wait till I'm ready to let them out and let them back in. Hope your able to have more control then I have. WIthout a reason I don't move. If I could I would even have my computer in my room next to my bed so I didn't have to get out. Thought about a laptop...T tells me that if I do that he will come and take the wall out of my bedroom personally so that my room is open to the living room so that I have to be out of my room. He makes my appointment for in the morning so I have to get up and break up my day and he even has me back a few times a week just to get me out of the house and out of bed... the trip to see him is three hours at least out of my day.
If you find anything that really works for you please let me know I will give it a try... Thanks
somebody

[dexter]

I slept till noon today

i'm trying to stay out of bed. i wish i had someone here that i know and trust. i think i am beginning to feel more scared than depressed lately. i feel like i should be ready to start looking for work but i just don't want to. it is very confusing. staying in bed is the easiest solution. today i want to go back to sleep because of anxiety rahter than because of depression.

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[Fuzzybear]

I can relate to that dex. Most of the people in my 3D life, and there aren't many, kind of "suck". For me, sleeping until noon isn't bad (((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))

[dexter]

now i am just full of anxiety

i can't stay on top of anything i'm just getting more and more buried and no change in sight.

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[SeptemberMorn]

Dave, it's obvious you're not ready to go back to work. Your symptoms prove it.

I do wish you'd stop being so hard on yourself!! I am positive you are causing your own anxiety because you won't relax with yourself, Hun. Just allow yourself to be sick. You're working on it, it will get better in time. For the time being, just be.

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<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[LookingForMe]

Dexter I don't know your situation and please let me know if I'm intruding or crossing any lines but what things do you feel you must stay on top of? From what I've read of your posts, you have been doing what you are able to do.

You offered me assistance in trying to open the article on Understanding Depression and I appreciate it, dexter. And I also appreciate that it takes more effort for someone who is depressed to extend a hand to someone else. I admire you and others on the board who have been able to set aside their own pain to do this.

<font color=green>Once in a while it really hits people that they don't have to experience the world in the way they have been told to.</font color=green> --Alan Keightley

[lalo53]

Tell me about it. Now it's 3:00am and I'm wide awake. A couple days ago I had a hard time getting out of bed and staying awake during the day. Anyhow, it's just another ride on the bipolar rollercoaster.
Take care.

[Butterfly_Faerie]

I agree with taking away napping.

For me if I nap I just feel like @$$ when I wake up again, it actually makes me more tired and I don't ever feel refreshed. The only time I nap is when I'm really sick.

I find that it disrupts my sleep patterns when it comes to bedtime.

<font color=red>~Sundance~</font color=red>

<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

<font color=black>Norman Vincent Peale</font color=black>

[SeptemberMorn]

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There's not much else I can do, Hun. Wishing you all good things.





<font color=blue>"Our doubts are traitors and make us lose the good we oft might win by fearing to attempt" --Shakespeare</font color=blue>

[dexter]

>> Just allow yourself to be sick. You're working on it, it will get better in time. For the time being, just be.

It is comforting to hear that. My T says the same. The only other feedback I get is from my credit card bills and mortgage bank etc. It is hard to escape the fear of losing everything... and I know the the fear is feeding my depression and lack of motivation.

My T has been doing a good balance of helping me relax and address my illness but also work with the actual limits of reality. I do have to get some bills paid afterall, the world won't stop because i'm ill. the last few sessions though i have been pretty distraught and we haven't had time to work on some of the "practical" issues. i hope to get back on track with that pretty soon.

thanks sm


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