[sammi]

I'm stuggling a lot now with finding out who i am. Like in the last few months i've really started changing. Of course been changing for the better. but at the same time like i don't know who i am anymore. Does anyone else know what i mean?

Like i just feel like i need something more now. I just want something more with my life. You know like i'm fighting depression yet at the same time i'm felling more active. I really want to get out there and try new things and expand my horizen. Yet at the moment i really don't even know how to. Its just my depression came at a point in my life when most peopler were discovering who they were. I'm several years late. SO where to i go on? How do i really let the past stay in the past? i mean i guess its hard to forget what was.

You know the truth is i guess i really did learn who my friends were. Which is always a good thing to know. But now i need to learn who i am again. Because it feels like somewhere down the road i lost that. And losing urself isn't really a good feeling. How do i get me back again?

[dreamrunner]

The only advice I have is "take it one day at a time".
If your young,ready for new things go for it,however dont overwhelm yourself with trying to figure it ALL out.

Im 40 and I still dont know what I want to be when I grow up!

You get YOU back with baby steps before marathons.

I hope that helps some.

[Wants2Fly]

Hugs and hugs.

[Direction]

Yes, I know what you mean and dreamrunner said it best.

[Perna]

Sammi, I think I have felt similar to what you are describing. It struck me once that I was like a "new house" ready to move into? That helped me a little bit sustain the good feelings and excitement of getting better and contain the frustration of not having anything "going" yet, just walking around the empty house. But I could picture different rooms/scenarios and realize I wanted "certain" pieces of furniture or art work and it was taking some time to experiment with just which ones :-) Wall color too! There's going to be a few things that appear to set you back, they're just pieces of furniture that aren't "right" for you and your new house. Paint the wall a "wrong" color and experiment; you can paint over it!

[sabby]

I can so relate like many others to your dilemma sammi. Life is full of changes both externally and internally. We all have to work through them the best we can. I like to take the approach that it is all a learning experience and we grow from those experiences. I like to believe that each experience has a purpose and a meaning to our lives.

What has worked for me during the process of finding who I am and defining who I am is volunteering. It may or may not work for you. But I have found that when I give of myself to a friend, an organization, a stranger, a child, what I receive in return from that gesture of volunteering is so much more than I could have ever dreamed. What I receive fills me up and helps define who and what I am. It opens me to more possibilities for myself to learn and grow.

I hope that soon you can find something that will bring meaning to you, that will help fill you and help define you.

Hugssss
J

[sammi]

Thanks guys ur words helped. Now its just a matter of really getting rid of the depression. Somedays it feels like it will just never end

[Pejorative]

Send me a PM if you want to talk. I am in your shoes.

Best wishes!

[dreamrunner]

Sammi,
No one here is really a stranger to depression.Just know your not all alone.

All the best