trigger management

I have depression and fairly managing it.My trigger mainly is arguments with my spouse. I have nowhere to go until I recover a little bit more. I try not to let what he says bother me,but it is like on a loop in my mind playing again and again.

I just want to stop feeling depressed every time he says something. I tried to talk to him but he has his own issues and nothing is working out.

I am fed up with this marriage and I am forced to stay for a while because I need some time to get myself back up from this illness .How do I manage this trigger??

Take it one day at a time. One minute if you have too! Have you considered counseling? Marriage counseling? Talking it out with some skills could help.

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Hi pinkvilla;

It may help to think about it this way, which I think could also be beneficial for you:

That loop playing again and again in your mind is, I believe, the big sneaky trick of depression. The trick is that whether hubby deserves it or not or whether your perceptions are correct or not, that loop is hiding an underlying problem that doesn't have anything to do with your hubby in particular. See these notes for an explanation and something that you might want to try:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

- vital

I am so sorry you are facing this. I dealt with it in my marriage and it was awful so I understand. Keep taking it one day at a time and focus on youre healing.