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Old Oct 15, 2015, 07:07 AM
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I'm sure many of you can relate to this. How do you handle boredom? I feel so lost in life. The last time I felt I had any sense of direction was at the end of high school and life went downhill from there. I got married young, chose a career that I knew wouldn't make me happy, and here I am, in my early 30s, wondering why I chose the path I did because I'm bored out of my mind and I don't know what else to do. At any given moment, I find that I don't know what I want for any aspect of my life - my career, my relationship, my hobbies. And what's worse is I have nothing to complain about. There are people living in slums who have real, existential problems who are just surviving. I have a well paying job, a house, dogs, a husband who loves me despite my depression. Why can't I just be happy? Other than running, I have nothing else to occupy my free time and honestly can't think of what else I would enjoy doing. My job is boring and I can't imagine spending the next 20-30 years of my working life sitting in a cube crunching numbers. I know that the job is a means to an end but if I have nothing in my life that makes me happy to wake up for, it becomes very difficult to just go through the motions. I wish I had the option to take my own life but I know I would leave my husband devastated so I don't follow through with it. I don't want my depression to destroy someone else's life. Any advise would be appreciated.
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Old Oct 15, 2015, 07:31 AM
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Hello, Anichka83. You've already tried at least one medication and had a little ineffective counseling, yes?

To what extent is the boredom "genuine" boredom vs. an inability - or an impaired ability - to feel engaged in life activities? Depression can drain the vitality out of anything.
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Old Oct 15, 2015, 08:31 AM
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Old Oct 15, 2015, 08:45 AM
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I'm sure many of you can relate to this. How do you handle boredom? I feel so lost in life. The last time I felt I had any sense of direction was at the end of high school and life went downhill from there. I got married young, chose a career that I knew wouldn't make me happy, and here I am, in my early 30s, wondering why I chose the path I did because I'm bored out of my mind and I don't know what else to do. At any given moment, I find that I don't know what I want for any aspect of my life - my career, my relationship, my hobbies. And what's worse is I have nothing to complain about. There are people living in slums who have real, existential problems who are just surviving. I have a well paying job, a house, dogs, a husband who loves me despite my depression. Why can't I just be happy? Other than running, I have nothing else to occupy my free time and honestly can't think of what else I would enjoy doing. My job is boring and I can't imagine spending the next 20-30 years of my working life sitting in a cube crunching numbers. I know that the job is a means to an end but if I have nothing in my life that makes me happy to wake up for, it becomes very difficult to just go through the motions. I wish I had the option to take my own life but I know I would leave my husband devastated so I don't follow through with it. I don't want my depression to destroy someone else's life. Any advise would be appreciated.
Hi anichika83,

Are you in a rut? Is every day the same? Do you say what you always say, do what you always do, think what you always think? Do you have a sense that you are helpless to change anything?

If so, I really suggest that you see if this explains what's going on

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

There's also a thread about this in the depression success stories section.

- vital
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Old Oct 15, 2015, 08:54 AM
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That's a tough one! Just about everything I do to try to get out of depression goes strictly against what I "feel" like doing. Like, listening to upbeat music when that's the LAST thing I want to hear. Or forcing myself to do that chore that really needs done that I've been putting off til I feel better. Or, I'll come here to PC and try to find someone who's hurting too and muster the strength to find something positive to say to encourage them, since I'm so helpless to manage my own problems. But, luckily I have a very special friend that I run to with anything and everything and he has this amazing ability to pull me out of everything. He's truly a miracle worker to me! So, I try to pay it forward every chance I get. I hope you come out of this soon! And if I can help in any way just let me know. I'll be here for you!
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