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It's such a hard thing keeping in all your feelings and thoughts, but it's just how I've always been. I have no idea why. I started lying to my parents about my feelings and things I did and stuff like then when I was like 5 years old. I can't think of any real reason why. but I'm still that way as of today and it's so hard to keep up with. I have all these feelings and thoughts stuck inside. I do really want to have someone to talk to about my problems and everything because I know how bad not talking about anything is making me feel. the thing is, I can't even think bout some things without crying. I don't want to try and talk to someone about these things and then end up crying. that's embarrassing and I'm not tryna **** up my makeup lol. seriously though, I don't know what to do.
there's this guy who I know would let me talk to him any time and I feel very comfortable with him and his family, but I don't wanna cry.
my small school recently hired a counselor and I wanna talk to him, but I definitely don't wanna cry at school.
I don't know what to do
what do y'all think? anyone else feel this way? what do I do..

also this is my first post, and it's on the tapatalk app, so I don't even know if I'm posting correctly lol.

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[nowhere46]

I cant tell you what is right for you and I understand not wanting to bust out crying in front of someone. But maybe you could schedule an appointment with the counselor and just keep it casual and get to know him/her. Then, if you feel comfortable, you could always schedule an appointment either before lunch or at the end of the day and take a touch up makeup bag just in case???? Its really hard to keep everything inside and I don't think that will get easier. Just a thought. And its totally just my opinion, but I think a counselor is a better option than a guy friend. Sharing pent up, highly emotional feelings in "friend" situations, particularly with the opposite sex, can get really complicated and awkward even with the best of people. Good luck to you.

[striking]

Sounds like you learned that the adults in your life would not properly respond to your needs so you adopted coping skills to avoid those unwanted responses. It could be that crying was something to repress in your family and so now you fear doing it.

Crying is normal. It is an important and healthy emotional outlet. If you have a counselor, take advantage of them because this is what they are trained to do.

Let your feelings out, because you have a world tahead if you to experience

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Originally Posted by striking

Sounds like you learned that the adults in your life would not properly respond to your needs so you adopted coping skills to avoid those unwanted responses. It could be that crying was something to repress in your family and so now you fear doing it.


Crying is normal. It is an important and healthy emotional outlet. If you have a counselor, take advantage of them because this is what they are trained to do.


Let your feelings out, because you have a world tahead if you to experience

yeah you made some really good points I've never been able to see. but I don't know I really don't want to cry in front of everyone. especially at school. that'd be the worst.. I find it really hard to talk about even the simplest things though

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I am a cryer too

Have you heard of 7 cups of tea? You can talk there. I am not affiliated in any way, but I've heard good things (it's an online chat thingy so no tears to be seen by anyone)

Just a suggestion.

[i dont matter]

Quiet *hugs* of support

[Shakespearmint]

I want to recommend a coping mechanism my sister and I invented over the last few years. We call it the "Cry-lympics".

I understand, completely. I'm a highly sensitive and emotional person and it's easy to make me cry, which is embarrassing. For example, when I used to go to church, one Sunday a family friend came up to me and said one sentence: "You miss your dad, don't you?" and I burst into tears. My dad wasn't sick, hadn't died or anything. He was a truck driver and just spent much of the week away, but it was enough as a 12 year old girl to make me bawl like a baby.

So through the years, my sis and I needed a catharsis--a way to relieve the pain and stress and built up tears without trying to get out coherent words through our blubbering. Thus, Cry-lympics was born.

Crylympics itself is a combination of the words "crying" and "olympics." Basically, it's a "contest" between the two of us to make eachother cry. It sounds really mean, but hang with me. We pick a time when we don't have any plans. Usually there is drinking involved. Then we get cozied up in front of the TV and take turns watching really emotional music videos, ultimately ending in a big cry fest all around. Between videos after wiping away our tears and laughing at our silliness, we're able to share what's really bothering us without all the emotion.

It's possible it works as a single-player game as well, just a way to relieve yourself of that pot-about-to-boil-over feeling every time someone asks if you're okay. But if you have someone you trust, I recommend giving it a try. It's silly, but it works. Sometimes silly is the best way.

Subject matter doesn't really make a difference, as long as the songs speak to you. Here's some examples that we listen to:

"The House That Built Me" Miranda Lambert
"Iris" Goo Goo Dolls
"Lay Me Down" Sam Smith
"I Never Told You" Colbie Caillat
"Hide and Seek" Imogen Heap

Anything works, these are just some songs that mean something to me and so elicit the desired emotional response.

[blacklight]

Originally Posted by sophiesmom

I am a cryer too

Have you heard of 7 cups of tea? You can talk there. I am not affiliated in any way, but I've heard good things (it's an online chat thingy so no tears to be seen by anyone)

Just a suggestion.

thank you, ill check it out!

[blacklight]

Originally Posted by i dont matter

Quiet *hugs* of support

thank ya ♡♡

[blacklight]

Originally Posted by Shakespearmint

I want to recommend a coping mechanism my sister and I invented over the last few years. We call it the "Cry-lympics".

I understand, completely. I'm a highly sensitive and emotional person and it's easy to make me cry, which is embarrassing. For example, when I used to go to church, one Sunday a family friend came up to me and said one sentence: "You miss your dad, don't you?" and I burst into tears. My dad wasn't sick, hadn't died or anything. He was a truck driver and just spent much of the week away, but it was enough as a 12 year old girl to make me bawl like a baby.

So through the years, my sis and I needed a catharsis--a way to relieve the pain and stress and built up tears without trying to get out coherent words through our blubbering. Thus, Cry-lympics was born.

Crylympics itself is a combination of the words "crying" and "olympics." Basically, it's a "contest" between the two of us to make eachother cry. It sounds really mean, but hang with me. We pick a time when we don't have any plans. Usually there is drinking involved. Then we get cozied up in front of the TV and take turns watching really emotional music videos, ultimately ending in a big cry fest all around. Between videos after wiping away our tears and laughing at our silliness, we're able to share what's really bothering us without all the emotion.

It's possible it works as a single-player game as well, just a way to relieve yourself of that pot-about-to-boil-over feeling every time someone asks if you're okay. But if you have someone you trust, I recommend giving it a try. It's silly, but it works. Sometimes silly is the best way.

Subject matter doesn't really make a difference, as long as the songs speak to you. Here's some examples that we listen to:

"The House That Built Me" Miranda Lambert
"Iris" Goo Goo Dolls
"Lay Me Down" Sam Smith
"I Never Told You" Colbie Caillat
"Hide and Seek" Imogen Heap

Anything works, these are just some songs that mean something to me and so elicit the desired emotional response.

oh my god that is seriously amazing lol. i love that idea, thats such a smart thing to do. thank you soo much for sharing this with me ♡ i appreciate that a lot! i will have to do this next time im home alone lol