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Mar 23, 2016, 02:47 PM
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how is it possible for an illness to be so misunderstood, even by medical professionals? I am having a tough day, week, etc and my supervisor stopped by to check in ( she is supposed to do this weekly) When she gets here, she alternated between texting and telling me that I jsut need more laughter in my life! Are you serious?! I can't get my meds because the insurance company has denied the claim. so I am muscling through this on my own. Easter is coming and i can't breathe with all of the expectations on me. I just want to sleep until .... forever. Yet my nurse supervisor thinks that laughter is going to make everything better. Maybe i really don't feel as bad as i think i do... it's all in my head..... the sorrow, the loneliness, the tears I can't shed, the SI, i just have been handling it all wrong. I just need more laughter in my life. I'll get right on that, as soon as i stop bleeding...
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Mar 23, 2016, 03:09 PM
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Mar 23, 2016, 03:21 PM
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Hello guiltier65: I'm sorry you are having such as difficult time. My experience has been that, as long as I don't make trouble, everyone around me has always been more than happy to pretend everything is hunky-dory, as we used to say.
 I hope you will be able to get things straightened out with your insurance company so you can get your med's. In the meantime, I would simply like to send some warm thoughts your way with the hope that, in some way, you may be able to find inner peace...  
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Mar 23, 2016, 04:50 PM
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Can she see you? Maybe you aren't there and she only thinks she can see you. After all her eyes are only in her head, not to mention vision takes place only in her head.
I know she was just trying to be helpful but geez some should know better. They think such comments are harmless but for a person with depression they are not. Just remember... That stupid suggestion originated somewhere...somewhere... oh yea, only in her head. Sorry you are having such a tough time. I guess it is true that it really is impossible for someone who doesn't experience this to understand. But we here, we understand. Hope you are feeling better.
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Mar 23, 2016, 05:02 PM
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I think they meant well but i came out wrong. People can say dumb things and think they are helping when they are just insensitive without even trying. It's like getting a divorce and told to "get over it". You don't just get over anything. Take your time to process how you feel and just say to yourself, they meant well. Hang in there (((hugs))) tc
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Mar 23, 2016, 05:22 PM
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those comments i feel come from people who seem to think depression is just sadness...
depression is different ... it is not something you can just laugh and get over... when you are sad someone can cheer you up... when you are depressed you might kill the person trying to cheer you up ... right..? not literally , just speaking figuratively... if we could just be cheered up and laugh it off, we would... sometimes i wonder if im making it up too.. because it seems to be something so alien to everyone... but like dexter said, i can feel it... i can see it... its not something that others understand  so sorry you are struggling... i know it doesnt help to say that... but i understand... im new at this stuff.. so i dont know much about insurance and stuff... what does it mean for your claim to be denied for medicine? can you appeal it..? do you have any options..? stay strong.. 
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Mar 23, 2016, 05:26 PM
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I think a lot of people in the psychiatric world, especially those who dispense meds & try to help us with treatment resistant depression are frustrated and/or have lost (at least a little) hope. I've had several 'drug dealers' (my term for them, partly due to my frustration) who seemed as though they didn't care, it was in and out with appointments.
Depression is a big bully that talks loud, but in the end it doesn't have the will power or the strength to beat you. We may get our *** kicked every now and then, but as long as you get up, you will beat it...you will survive. ✌&❤ Sent from my SM-N915V using Tapatalk |
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Mar 23, 2016, 07:24 PM
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I am sorry, those comments just suck! I get those and also other comments and pieces of advice about how to handle my disability from non disabled people, people that have never had severe depression, or people that have even never been at the hospital once! C'mon!
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Mar 23, 2016, 08:03 PM
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Basically, my insurance has decided in their infinite wisdom that they will not pay for my antidepressants. even though I have been hospitalized 5 times in the last 6 years. So my response, in my rather warped thinking, is that obviously I am not worth the fight. |
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Mar 23, 2016, 09:04 PM
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so why should i keep fighting? I am tired of the endless waves of depression that cloud my thinking and rob me of my identity. I have come to the conclusion that I am losing the battle. I truly feel that i am going to surrender at some point. the battle has to end.
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Mar 23, 2016, 09:29 PM
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you are definitely worth the fight
those insurance companies are heartless cold bastards they will deny everyone if they could - they just dont care so we have to stick them with a sharp pen and say LOOK HERE BUSTER - YOU ARE A COMPANY THAT ARE SUPOSE TO HELP PEOPLE LIKE ME! DO YOUR JOB! i can't stand them system folks, sometimes i wish i could give them my symptoms for a few weeks so it would change their lifes for ever! please keep fighting! sometimes we just need to rest inbetween battles, it is so tiring, this is a war though and we are soldiers! damn good soldiers, we are missing limbs and fingers, feet and ears, but we hop around with a bat and slingshot trying to slay what we must to keep moving forwards 
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Mar 25, 2016, 06:49 PM
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