[Humpty Dumpty]

So one of my wife's coworkers father-in-law died this past week. They ended up finding him past out in a pool of blood & rushed him to the ER. He ended up telling one of his sons that he didn't want anything done to extend his life. He was done fighting. Everyone seemed to accept this because "he has been sick for a long time". So the hospital disconnected his pacemaker & he eventually died. Yes I know that's sad.

My point/question is why is it OK for him to say he is done fighting & he is ready to die, but if I say that people freak out and say there are things I can do to improve my "quality of life". The same could be said of him. I have been sick for a long time & I just want to give up. Why is that so wrong? Is it because my pain isn't obvious? Is it because I use every ounce of energy I have to force myself out of bed everyday so I can goto work? I'm not here trying to throw a pity party for me but I can feel my mental state slowly deteriorating & it does have an obvious physical effect on me. I have bad to sever tremors in my hand and foot. I tend to drag my foot, & that has gotten to the point now where my wife has even noticed how obvious it is. So when I say I want to give up. I don't want to live anymore. Why can't they just let me die. I am broken beyond repair. There is no magic pill that will ever make me trust again. So I will always suffer and it will only continually get worse.

[Skeezyks]

Hello Humpty Dumpty: Yes, the Skeezyks concurs with your assessment of the situation as far as being allowed to go is concerned. I've been brought back when I didn't want to be a couple of times. Personally I think it would be great if there were somewhere one could just walk in, plop down a grand or two (whatever it takes), & be gently whisked off into oblivion. After all... it's not like we don't have a few human beings on the planet to spare. Anyway, I'm sorry you are struggling, & I send along my best wishes...

[kal1995]

I have wondered the same thing. I have also wondered why assisted suicide doesn't cover those with severe mental health problems, as they can be just as debilitating as a fatal illness.
I am sending you my best wishes, and I hope things turn around for you soon. You are certainly not alone.

Originally Posted by Humpty Dumpty

My point/question is why is it OK for him to say he is done fighting & he is ready to die, but if I say that people freak out and say there are things I can do to improve my "quality of life".

I agree with your identification of a double standard, but while people can't possibly understand your pain, they found your wife's coworker's father-in-law passed out in a pool of blood, which is why he got the legal euthanasia and you won't.

[Humpty Dumpty]

Originally Posted by Lefty the Salesman

I agree with your identification of a double standard, but while people can't possibly understand your pain, they found your wife's coworker's father-in-law passed out in a pool of blood, which is why he got the legal euthanasia and you won't.

I don't care about the legality of it. What gets me is how everyone is relatively ok with it but no one seems to think my pain & suffering is anywhere near equal to that level.

[Clara22]

Belgium authorizes euthanasia for untreatable mental illnesses

[Humpty Dumpty]

Originally Posted by Clara22

Belgium authorizes euthanasia for untreatable mental illnesses

How nice that would be. Unfortunately that would still require me to goto a dr about my problems. But it is still a good idea for those that suffer and want to go that route.

[MtnTime2896]

If only life were that fair. It's not and that sucks. I don't know a whole lot about this but I get the feeling that they care too much to let you go (not including people who barely know you and just think it's wrong). It's selfish to ask someone to stick around, humans are selfish. They were able to let go of that selfishness for this man you describe because his suffering was not only obvious, but in their face, making them see it as cruel to force him to keep going. What you suffer from isn't able to really be seen. They don't understand just how hard you're fighting and they might never see it.
I don't want to add to the chorus but I am sorry you're having to go through this. I'll be thinking about you today.