Lonely, depressed and scared

Hi,
I am at the doorstep of middle age and I'm quite lonely and worried about finances. My days and the future are pretty bleak. I'm feeling pretty low and afraid that things will only get worse. I joined this forum with the hope of talking things out and hopefully getting some relief and learning some coping, communication, and people skills. Because an employment opportunity fell through, I can't afford to go out and meet people.
'M so depressed . . . All suggestions are welcome.

I can't offer suggestions on making it better because I'm in the same boat. All I do is post on here and try not to think about my life. But somehow it helped me to read this and know that I'm not totally alone: others are going through similar situations. I watch Gossip Girl and pretend I'm Blair Waldorf without a care in the world...but that's probably not good advice, because that's just denial in disguise. I guess what I can offer is that you aren't alone. Here's a hug.

Thank you, Rayne.
I'm sorry to hear you're in the same boat, but appreciate you reaching out to let me know I'm not alone in this. I watch tv to distract myself rom the pain as well, but it's all there and maybe a little worse when I turn the tv off. That being said, I'm thankful for the tv so that when I wake up at night and can't go back to sleep I can at least turn it in for company.
I have to believe or Well, it's not hope more like a longing . . . I am longing for their to be hope and a solution.
Anyway, thank you for your reply and hug. I appreciate you.

Hi JanyeEli,

I'm sorry you're in the situation you're in. I'm in much the same boat. I'm 47 and haven't worked in 6 years due to a combination of mental illness and addiction struggles. I've been living off my retirement savings for those past 6 years.

Most of my friends all have jobs and partners so I don't get to see them, often, and even then I can't really afford to go out. Recently, I've started attending meetup groups that put on low cost or free events. those get me out of the house, I meet new people, and I generally have a good time.

I'm in rehab now, but as soon as I finish, I'm going to start looking hard for work. I honestly believe that I can find a job, if I just keep trying.

But some days it's really hard to find the motivation to keep going.

I try not to think about retirement, since I know it most likely will be on very limited funds, but I have 20 years before that happens and a lot can happen in that time frame.

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I don't have much advice to tel you, I'm not even in the same situation.

But you have my support, and I wish the best for you. It may not be what you need the most in this moment... but please, take it.

Like others have posted, I am also middle aged and worry constantly about finances. My husband supports me 100%...if something should happen to him I'd be without any resources. It's very scary. I wish I had some great advice for you.

i know that feeling too - its scary and mostly without any answers which makes it worse... we always seem to imagine the worst .. but i know from reading my positive stuff, that most of what we worry about never happens - i hold on to that very hard - sometimes a minute at a time.. Wishing you peace

How are you feeling today?

Thank you all for replies. Your words really mean a lot to me. I didn't realize more people had responded it's late though so I can't give a thoughtful reply relight now and will have to return tomorrow for that.