I want to talk

I want to tell my parents that I think I have depression, but I can't. I feel scared that they wont believe me. I want to tell them that my soul feels numb, that I feel nothing, and that when things happen to me, that I soon forget it. I need to talk, because I feel this may get worse.

lelem135

I don't know your parents but I do understand how scary it is to reach out. Maybe if you tell them all you are feeling they will be able to understand. Please take care. I am sorry you are feeling so bad.

BB

lelem, what is it specifically about talking to your parents that is scariest? Have you ever had a good conversation with them about anything in your life? Sounds like maybe you haven't.

Talking to anyone about any mental health issue can be very intimidating at best. Maybe we here in PsychCentral can banter the topic around with you until you find a comfort zone that will factilitate your discussion with you parents.

I bet they would be happy to have such a discussion with you.

((((((((lelem))))))))

Carolyn

Lelem - I completely agree with finestitcher - coming here is a good thing - we DO understand. If you don't have a therapist I would recommend that you find one. They will be able to understand and provide you the ongoing support you need. Hang in - depression is nothing to be ashamed of - - there are thousands of people who belong to that - not-so-exclusive-club. Many blessings, Etheria

Hi Lelem... I completely understand you.. I was scared to tell my dad about the whole depression thing, but i think he pretty much figured it out because he noticed a difference in me. But, if they dont know, then try to tell them, and I'm sure they will believe you and be there for you. I hope it works out..let me know how it goes. peace out, Ally.
((((((((Lelem)))))))))

finestitcher
the scariest thing about telling my parents I might have depression, is that they wont believe me. I have tried to tell them in the past, but they thought I did not love them, which was not true, my soul just feels numb. And I have had many good conversations with my parents, they are the people I talk to the most.

Thank you all for caring

lelem135

Hi Lelem,
I was depressed when I was your age and didn't feel able to tell my parents. It took another 10 painful years to work out how to get help, and I really wish I had got into therapy / found a psychiatrist earlier.

It sounds like it might help to have someone to talk to before you talk to your parents - do you have a school counsellor? Alternatively we may be able to help. How did the conversation go when your parents said they thought you didn't love them?

Debbie

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Debbie, great suggestion...school counselor. Sometimes school counselors will offer to be mediators in such discussions, inviting the parents to come chat and then you are also there. I am trying to understand though why your parents would think you don't love them because you are having depression. I would think they would consider that you do love them because you brought the problem to them.

I would like to suggest maybe you can do some research about teenage depression, print it and take the document(s) into the discussion with you. Does this sound reasonable?

I did some research, but I am not able to post the URLs (against the Guideline rules)...search engine "teenage depression" also "teenage depression talking to parents." There is lots of information out there on the Net.

Hm, to talk to parents is hell on earth. That is why a good parent should be sensitive and understand by himself/herself. You also say that you tried...
But how old are you?