So let's just some things aren't working for me as they could... so I was searching the internet for memes (okay, let's put my behaviorism down and say 'Science memes' to be more precise) and... before posting the picture. I want to tell you some words of experience.

Science taught me to distant myself from emotions, be skeptical -- evidence demanding -- and always adapt to situations. Of course it won't end here. I may even retrogress. Let's just say someone is not talking to me and I am a mentally ill chemist.



Except, 'um' refers to my emotions.

[mote.of.soul]

Yes TLC, very funny joke :/

I think temporarily setting the emotions aside in terms of evaluating things from a scientifically objective standpoint, is the right way to go because oftentimes the emotions can be a real distraction and even an influence, in my experience, on the thought processes. But the emotions are very much part of the human being as well, a very passionate even fiery part sometimes, and so maybe a person should try to find a good balance between thoughts and feelings, knowing the difference, not losing focus, and acting in a positive way. Something I'm yet to master satisfactorily [depressions, anxieties, mood swings] but we're all on our separate journey's through this very strange and beautiful life.

I think if you can learn to handle the emotional impact dealing with people inevitably brings - and it can be a positive thing as well - then you're halfway to your dreams and goals.

Originally Posted by mote.of.soul

Yes TLC, very funny joke :/

I think temporarily setting the emotions aside in terms of evaluating things from a scientifically objective standpoint, is the right way to go because oftentimes the emotions can be a real distraction and even an influence, in my experience, on the thought processes. But the emotions are very much part of the human being as well, a very passionate even fiery part sometimes, and so maybe a person should try to find a good balance between thoughts and feelings, knowing the difference, not losing focus, and acting in a positive way. Something I'm yet to master satisfactorily [depressions, anxieties, mood swings] but we're all on our separate journey's through this very strange and beautiful life.

I think if you can learn to handle the emotional impact dealing with people inevitably brings - and it can be a positive thing as well - then you're halfway to your dreams and goals.

I really think we should distance ourselves as needed. I cannot tell anyone when it's the time to distance ourselves. Everyone has to observe and conclude themselves.

[Raindropvampire]

Love the joke LC

Bury the emotions Rain... and live your life best possible way.

[mote.of.soul]

@TheLonelyChemist

I hear you TLC and I think what you're saying does carry a certain level of merit. BUT, unless you're a person who already has limited emotional activity within the brain - is it actually possible to bury the emotions [without using alcohol or drugs]? Because it might be similar to trying to bury the sense of touch or taste, smell. Very difficult because they're integral parts of the person. I mean, I wish I could bury or switch off certain elements of my own emotions but I've not yet found a way. So, the next thing is, for me, learning how to manage them. And I'm still learning[!] - or growing, depends how you look at it.

TLC, are you personally able to switch off your emotions? - serious question. Because if you can, I'd like to learn the secret.

Originally Posted by mote.of.soul

@TheLonelyChemist

I hear you TLC and I think what you're saying does carry a certain level of merit. BUT, unless you're a person who already has limited emotional activity within the brain - is it actually possible to bury the emotions [without using alcohol or drugs]? Because it might be similar to trying to bury the sense of touch or taste, smell. Very difficult because they're integral parts of the person. I mean, I wish I could bury or switch off certain elements of my own emotions but I've not yet found a way. So, the next thing is, for me, learning how to manage them. And I'm still learning[!] - or growing, depends how you look at it.

TLC, are you personally able to switch off your emotions? - serious question. Because if you can, I'd like to learn the secret.

What I believe is, even healthy scientists and doctors - who have healthy brains - learn to be the become "emotionless and cold."

As of my secret, I just try not to think about it too much (personal problems that can affect my effciency) Also, I am already emotionally numb due to many health reasons...

As for other's secrets, the one I've observed is my psychiatrist. He just doesn't give a damn about anything related to his patients and he's a damn good actor so he does know when to act like he cares or not. Scientific method requires you to 'bury' your wants of becoming famous, rich and the like. So you need to do your work the most efficient way possible. Simply it is, "Don't think about it before achieving it." It can be learned and although everyone's psyche is different I believe it takes time and practice and you're good to go.

To be more precise, i.e. "What to learn", just practice yourself showing little emotions. Practice remaining calm. Rationalize your fears. Rationalize your hate. Rationalize everything.

[saidso]

Hey Lonely Chemist,
I think you said that you are studying for exams - so yeah that's a priority.
Afterwards when you get some rest and some spring sunshine eventually comes your way perhaps the burial ground will push up some flowers...
or a bush...
or a tree...
or an earthquake, or underground spring would be nice for summer time.

Take care of you and good luck with passing those important exams!

P.S. there is a third option which is hold the emotions in a bigger space. i always imagine looking down from the stars when i feel overwhelmed by someone's behaviour, but there are other techniques breathe, relax & so on. neglectful parenting forces kids to hold on tight to their emotions, and doesn't give an example of holding emotions with space and kindness.

starry thoughts to a star!

[misladyrae]

For my whole life I remember when my emotions use to overwhelm me, and I had no where to go with them, It would feel like my heart was squeezing, and hold my breath.. I think I was definitely hurting myself.. I am trying to learn new ways.. thank you all for your posts..

Originally Posted by saidso

Hey Lonely Chemist,
I think you said that you are studying for exams - so yeah that's a priority.
Afterwards when you get some rest and some spring sunshine eventually comes your way perhaps the burial ground will push up some flowers...
or a bush...
or a tree...
or an earthquake, or underground spring would be nice for summer time.

Take care of you and good luck with passing those important exams!

P.S. there is a third option which is hold the emotions in a bigger space. i always imagine looking down from the stars when i feel overwhelmed by someone's behaviour, but there are other techniques breathe, relax & so on. neglectful parenting forces kids to hold on tight to their emotions, and doesn't give an example of holding emotions with space and kindness.

starry thoughts to a star!

Of course! It's important to bury those emotions and thoughts, but keep the best version of the person you love in your heart. Cherish good moments, the smiles and all the joy he gave to you. But don't just make obvious you love that person. Actually I am in the same situation as I described. I love someone but they don't love me back. So although I'll stay objective, I'll keep the best version of them in my heart. Like a locket.


Thank you saidso. I'll definitely try my best.

That's a very nice technique. As I said, if everyone follows the scientific method and follows the path which is best for them, we'll have a better world...

Originally Posted by misladyrae

For my whole life I remember when my emotions use to overwhelm me, and I had no where to go with them, It would feel like my heart was squeezing, and hold my breath.. I think I was definitely hurting myself.. I am trying to learn new ways.. thank you all for your posts..

Absolutely not a problem misladyrae... May good happen to you.

[FriendlyJoe]

Originally Posted by TheLonelyChemist

Of course! It's important to bury those emotions and thoughts, but keep the best version of the person you love in your heart. Cherish good moments, the smiles and all the joy he gave to you. But don't just make obvious you love that person. Actually I am in the same situation as I described. I love someone but they don't love me back. So although I'll stay objective, I'll keep the best version of them in my heart. Like a locket.


Thank you saidso. I'll definitely try my best.

That's a very nice technique. As I said, if everyone follows the scientific method and follows the path which is best for them, we'll have a better world...

Exactly the same here too. But I do everything she asks even if she only loves me as a friend. I enjoy being with her and I'm actually happy. I'm working on suppressing my love down to friendship status. Dont want it to fall all apart.

Hang in there to everyone experiencing it, I just keep in mind maybe one day.

Originally Posted by FriendlyJoe

Exactly the same here too. But I do everything she asks even if she only loves me as a friend. I enjoy being with her and I'm actually happy. I'm working on suppressing my love down to friendship status. Dont want it to fall all apart.

Hang in there to everyone experiencing it, I just keep in mind maybe one day.

That's great to hear! Thanks for sharing with us.

[mote.of.soul]

Originally Posted by TheLonelyChemist

To be more precise, i.e. "What to learn", just practice yourself showing little emotions. Practice remaining calm. Rationalize your fears. Rationalize your hate. Rationalize everything.

Yes, well rationalizing doesn't prevent it from arising - it only puts it into a perspective after the fact, in my experience. But as time goes by I'll grow, I'm sure of that. And I shall form into that mighty oak they promised us, ha ;-)

...just practice yourself showing little emotions. Practice remaining calm.

Yes.

Best of luck TLC. Because of your age I think you'll probably get swifter results.

That's what that works for me... also, I just found this 'meme.'

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thank you for replying Fuzzy.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you so much for sharing these, TheLonelyChemist! I agree these are funny memes I agree that one needs to detach himself from emotions if he wants to be a scientist or a doctor. It's not easy, but it can be done. Of course, that's only as far as the job requires. Empathy and emotions are very importanty in our everyday lives. And we must not forget our goal, which is to improve other people's lives. That's very important. I'm sure you'll be able to achieve your goals, TheLonelyChemist. You just have to believe in yourself. Try to hang on. You can do this! You're strong, I know that. I believe in you. I hope things will get better soon for you. Remember that we're here for you if you need it. Wish you good luck! Let us know how it goes. Sending many hugs to everyone

Well... things can get better. Let's remember to not be like this guy...

[saidso]

I think that you are very brave having risked falling in love with someone. That takes good stuff: optimism and courage. Kudos to you for having those qualities.

However, I don't agree that doctors need to suppress their emotions. Perhaps in the sense of people here being victim of their emotions yes. But the two useful, healing doctors that I've had both were emotional, but responsible with that... a great gift.

Originally Posted by saidso

I think that you are very brave having risked falling in love with someone. That takes good stuff: optimism and courage. Kudos to you for having those qualities.

However, I don't agree that doctors need to suppress their emotions. Perhaps in the sense of people here being victim of their emotions yes. But the two useful, healing doctors that I've had both were emotional, but responsible with that... a great gift.

Thanks for your valueable input, saidso. I agree, it takes a gift to be like that.