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Old Jul 31, 2019, 11:30 PM
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Hello all. I hope everyone is well.

I graduated with my degree in mental health counseling and I have been trying to find a job that will give me my mental health counseling license. The issue is that no one wants to train people anymore. You have to start working immediately after you get hired. It's like there's no training period anymore.

The job I have now is stressing me out. It's like the employers want to suck the life out of us and the micromanagement is ridiculous. I honestly DO feel like the life is being drained out of my body. I hate it there. I'm grateful for the money because I get to help out my mom by being more independent but my sanity is taking a major hit. I can't quit because I have expenses to pay and who knows when I'll find another job?

It sucks. Society tells you to go to school, get a degree and then you'll get a job, but that's not true. I am losing hope in my becoming a counselor because I cannot find a job that is willing to train new counselors. It also doesn't help that I don't think I want to be a counselor anymore. I am a peer on a crisis hotline and it is getting too intense for me. This job really messed me up. I'm finding myself becoming colder and less empathic and that's not me. I'm not that kind of person but it's made my patience run thinner and thinner. I don't know what to do.

I am just extremely stressed out. How are any of us supposed to live happy lives when we're forced to do work we do not want to do? How are we supposed to be happy when we're surviving but not living just because we have a horrible job that has horrible pay? How are we supposed to be happy when we are forced to stay late at our job? What was the point of me getting this damn degree anyway if it is not helping me?

I'm angry. I'm furious. I'm tired.

Thank you for reading this.
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Old Aug 01, 2019, 06:19 AM
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I hear you, @starryprince! It's REALLY hard! Please NEVER give up Hope. Can you find another job while you're doing the current one? Surely there must be something a little bit less stressful for you. I also understand you having doubts about your career choice. It's PERFECTLY NORMAL! However it's important to decide what you want to do with your Life. Do you have some ideas in mind already? I hope you won't take this as an offense but perhaps it would be a good idea for you to see a therapist. There's no shame in that as even therapists have to see other therapists. That's just a suggestion though! You decide. Either way, I hope you'll at least be able to find a less stressful job soon. It is hard to start up but once you do it it gets easier. I'd say keep working and doing what you can, try to look for something else if you can and perhaps think about what you REALLY want from your Life, perhaps with the help of an experienced therapist. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME! I'll be happy to help you! I'm sure PLENTY of others will help youout as well! Please keep positng and keep us updated if you want! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING!
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Old Aug 05, 2019, 06:34 PM
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Hello all. I hope everyone is well.

I graduated with my degree in mental health counseling and I have been trying to find a job that will give me my mental health counseling license. The issue is that no one wants to train people anymore. You have to start working immediately after you get hired. It's like there's no training period anymore.

The job I have now is stressing me out. It's like the employers want to suck the life out of us and the micromanagement is ridiculous. I honestly DO feel like the life is being drained out of my body. I hate it there. I'm grateful for the money because I get to help out my mom by being more independent but my sanity is taking a major hit. I can't quit because I have expenses to pay and who knows when I'll find another job?

It sucks. Society tells you to go to school, get a degree and then you'll get a job, but that's not true. I am losing hope in my becoming a counselor because I cannot find a job that is willing to train new counselors. It also doesn't help that I don't think I want to be a counselor anymore. I am a peer on a crisis hotline and it is getting too intense for me. This job really messed me up. I'm finding myself becoming colder and less empathic and that's not me. I'm not that kind of person but it's made my patience run thinner and thinner. I don't know what to do.

I am just extremely stressed out. How are any of us supposed to live happy lives when we're forced to do work we do not want to do? How are we supposed to be happy when we're surviving but not living just because we have a horrible job that has horrible pay? How are we supposed to be happy when we are forced to stay late at our job? What was the point of me getting this damn degree anyway if it is not helping me?

I'm angry. I'm furious. I'm tired.

Thank you for reading this.
I am sorry that you are struggling right now! I do understand how you feel because that how I felt at my last job! You are not alone! Can you take some time off?
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Old Aug 05, 2019, 07:20 PM
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I hear you, @starryprince! It's REALLY hard! Please NEVER give up Hope. Can you find another job while you're doing the current one? Surely there must be something a little bit less stressful for you. I also understand you having doubts about your career choice. It's PERFECTLY NORMAL! However it's important to decide what you want to do with your Life. Do you have some ideas in mind already? I hope you won't take this as an offense but perhaps it would be a good idea for you to see a therapist. There's no shame in that as even therapists have to see other therapists. That's just a suggestion though! You decide. Either way, I hope you'll at least be able to find a less stressful job soon. It is hard to start up but once you do it it gets easier. I'd say keep working and doing what you can, try to look for something else if you can and perhaps think about what you REALLY want from your Life, perhaps with the help of an experienced therapist. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME! I'll be happy to help you! I'm sure PLENTY of others will help youout as well! Please keep positng and keep us updated if you want! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING!
Hey, Mickey! Thanks a lot for always being so encouraging. And no offense taken! I've been in therapy for 5 years. My job changed my insurance, which meant that I had to leave my current therapist and I am currently in the midst of waiting to get an intake to see a new one. I do have a psychiatrist, though. I'm currently trying to find a job but it is not going well because I do not want to be in this field anymore, or at least right now. The mental health field is draining and it is just so sad how little it cares about the community it is supposed to serve. I already know what I really want to do in life but it is so hard to get into the creative field. I'm taking steps towards my dream but it may not take off for a while, however. I am going to continue trying my best! Thanks so much! -hugs-

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I am sorry that you are struggling right now! I do understand how you feel because that how I felt at my last job! You are not alone! Can you take some time off?
I actually have been taking some time off but it just feels like my energy is constantly being drained. The days off help but not much because, since my job is 24/7, I am CONSTANTLY being sent emails from work (they send mass emails to all of the employees) and I have to stay on top of things just in case they email me specifically and ask something of me. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone. I really appreciate that. -hugs-
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Old Aug 05, 2019, 08:28 PM
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Hey, Mickey! Thanks a lot for always being so encouraging. And no offense taken! I've been in therapy for 5 years. My job changed my insurance, which meant that I had to leave my current therapist and I am currently in the midst of waiting to get an intake to see a new one. I do have a psychiatrist, though. I'm currently trying to find a job but it is not going well because I do not want to be in this field anymore, or at least right now. The mental health field is draining and it is just so sad how little it cares about the community it is supposed to serve. I already know what I really want to do in life but it is so hard to get into the creative field. I'm taking steps towards my dream but it may not take off for a while, however. I am going to continue trying my best! Thanks so much! -hugs-


I actually have been taking some time off but it just feels like my energy is constantly being drained. The days off help but not much because, since my job is 24/7, I am CONSTANTLY being sent emails from work (they send mass emails to all of the employees) and I have to stay on top of things just in case they email me specifically and ask something of me. Thank you for reminding me that I am not alone. I really appreciate that. -hugs-
I used to enjoy my job and I finally left after six years. When I realized what was going on with my mental and physical health.
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Old Aug 05, 2019, 08:30 PM
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I hear you, @starryprince! It's REALLY hard! Please NEVER give up Hope. Can you find another job while you're doing the current one? Surely there must be something a little bit less stressful for you. I also understand you having doubts about your career choice. It's PERFECTLY NORMAL! However it's important to decide what you want to do with your Life. Do you have some ideas in mind already? I hope you won't take this as an offense but perhaps it would be a good idea for you to see a therapist. There's no shame in that as even therapists have to see other therapists. That's just a suggestion though! You decide. Either way, I hope you'll at least be able to find a less stressful job soon. It is hard to start up but once you do it it gets easier. I'd say keep working and doing what you can, try to look for something else if you can and perhaps think about what you REALLY want from your Life, perhaps with the help of an experienced therapist. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME! I'll be happy to help you! I'm sure PLENTY of others will help youout as well! Please keep positng and keep us updated if you want! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING!
I wish that I had thought about that myself! That is a great idea!
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Hello all. I hope everyone is well.

I graduated with my degree in mental health counseling and I have been trying to find a job that will give me my mental health counseling license. The issue is that no one wants to train people anymore. You have to start working immediately after you get hired. It's like there's no training period anymore.

The job I have now is stressing me out. It's like the employers want to suck the life out of us and the micromanagement is ridiculous. I honestly DO feel like the life is being drained out of my body. I hate it there. I'm grateful for the money because I get to help out my mom by being more independent but my sanity is taking a major hit. I can't quit because I have expenses to pay and who knows when I'll find another job?

It sucks. Society tells you to go to school, get a degree and then you'll get a job, but that's not true. I am losing hope in my becoming a counselor because I cannot find a job that is willing to train new counselors. It also doesn't help that I don't think I want to be a counselor anymore. I am a peer on a crisis hotline and it is getting too intense for me. This job really messed me up. I'm finding myself becoming colder and less empathic and that's not me. I'm not that kind of person but it's made my patience run thinner and thinner. I don't know what to do.

I am just extremely stressed out. How are any of us supposed to live happy lives when we're forced to do work we do not want to do? How are we supposed to be happy when we're surviving but not living just because we have a horrible job that has horrible pay? How are we supposed to be happy when we are forced to stay late at our job? What was the point of me getting this damn degree anyway if it is not helping me?

I'm angry. I'm furious. I'm tired.

Thank you for reading this.
I quit my second job after one day working when I realized that this is not the job for me and that was okay. Have you thought about what make you happy and turn that into a career!
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I quit my second job after one day working when I realized that this is not the job for me and that was okay. Have you thought about what make you happy and turn that into a career!
Hey there. I definitely know what I want to do as a career but I don't have the experience to get into the field. I still live with my mom and she's very empathetic but I don't want to burden her. I have my own expenses and I need a job to pay for them. I feel stuck, you know? =/ I admire you for quitting and knowing what was good for you. I would do that if I found a job while I had this one. My job search isn't going well so maybe I have to look in another direction? I'm not sure. =/
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