Struggling with depression because of mom

Hello everyone,

This is my first post here. And it's a long one, so sorry about that.

I am depressed. So depressed that it's hard to just keep going so.etimes. And it all started with my mom. My family was a happy family. Even though we had our fair share of struggles, we were still happy until I was old enough to understand that, we had lots of problems. First of all the problems we're my parents fighting all the time about just little things. And during the fight them involving me and my siblings. It was always like this, them fighting and me and my siblings trying to fix it. But it never worked, because no matter what happens you can't fix something that they don't want to fix.
But somehow for 1 year my parents seemed to get along my senior year in high school and so we thought finally they decided to try. Until one day it all went down hill and my parents started to fight again out of nowhere. From then on my mom started to just blame me for some really stuff and making it into my fault that everything is wrong. She made it I into a disgusting thing that I might be having some gross relationship with my dad. For which she always fighting with my dad and abusing me mentally. It just came out of nowhere that all siblings think she is losing it. Not only that she blames me for all the things going wrong in her life. Telling me that I am nasty and that she shouldn't have given birth to me and what not. And by doing that she literally ruined my relationship with my dad and made it into something that I am afraid to even go near my dad. In all these my siblings have been with me helping. But my mom is such a manipulative and mean and abusive person that I can't even take it anymore. And I can't even leave yet. She is been making things up that doesn't make sense. She don't trust anyone not even her own mom or kids and just hates me. She thinks I am ruining her marriage. I don't k ow what to do or why she is think like that. Why is she suddenly like this to me? And why does she think such nasty stuff? I never even gave her any reason. I had the most loving and innocent relationship with my dad but now his relationship with all my siblings and me is like strangers. She hates my dad too. I need help but don't know what to do. :’(

Hello Milablanche: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum, here on PC, that may be of interest to you would be the relationships forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/

I'm sorry you are caught in the middle of such a difficult situation. Honestly I don't think there would be any suggestions I could offer that would be of help. (Perhaps there will be other PC members who will have some insights & suggestions they can share.) My personal opinion would be the circumstances you describe are sufficiently complicated that the best alternative may be for you to seek the services of a counselor or mental health therapist if that is something you could do. A mental health professional is going to be in a position to help you figure out the dynamics of this situation as well as to develop strategies for coping with it.

Here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives. The first 2, on the subject of depression, provide links to additional articles on the subject. The next 3 links are to articles that deal with the subject of toxic parents. The second to the last link is to an article that offers suggestions for dealing with difficult family members. And the final link is to a blog titled "The Knotted Mother-Daughter Relationship". (You didn't mention your gender in your post. However I'm assuming you are female.) Not all of the articles in this blog are going to be relevant to your circumstances. But I think there are enough that will be to make the blog worth taking a look at:

Depression: Symptoms, Types & Treatments | Psych Central

Living with Depression: A Guide for Coping with Depressive Feelings | Psych Central

Are Your Parents Toxic?

15 Signs You Have Toxic Parents | Happily Imperfect

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imper...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...amily-members/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/knotted/

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I agree with Skeezyx, Millablanche. Definitely try to get help sorting this out, as soon as possible.

Do you have to live with her?

I agree with Skeezyks

@Milablanche

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I hope you can find some support and some help for such a difficult situation.

I think if I were in your shoes I would really, really need some shoulders to lean on and some wise advice to help me stay on a healthy path in life. A good counselor who is supportive and compassionate could really help you out right now.

Welcome to PC and I am sure you will find some friendly people here who are good listeners. I wish you all the best.

Yes, I am living with her because I have to help them financially and all. She is never happy or let's us be happy.