[MickeyCheeky]

i am supposed to study for my exams... do you guys think i have put any effort into it? The answer is no. i haven't studied in months. i feel completely discouraged and lazy to even try to open up a book. i don't even HAVE many of the books i actually need! Yet my parents are still convinced that i am trying my best. They couldn't be more wrong. Though they are aware of my own struggles with university, they're still giving me much more faith and trust than i deserve. i don't deserve empathy or compassion because i brought all of this on myself. it's no one's fault but mine and i'll forever have to live with this fact. i am too weak to do anything about it.

i am so sorry, Mom, Dad, and anyone else i have disappointed!

[NatalieJastrow]

You deserve all those things. You are not a disappointment.

You are just unmotivated. Been there.. done that.

Your parents are convinced you are trying your best because they will always think the very best of you because they love you. If it turns out you aren't trying they will know you had your reasons. Doesn't make you an evil person.

[Fuzzybear]

Hi MickeyCheeky, you are not a loser I'm sending many safe and warm hugs, love and much respect. Please be gentle with you

[WastingAsparagus]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

i am supposed to study for my exams... do you guys think i have put any effort into it? The answer is no. i haven't studied in months. i feel completely discouraged and lazy to even try to open up a book. i don't even HAVE many of the books i actually need! Yet my parents are still convinced that i am trying my best. They couldn't be more wrong. Though they are aware of my own struggles with university, they're still giving me much more faith and trust than i deserve. i don't deserve empathy or compassion because i brought all of this on myself. it's no one's fault but mine and i'll forever have to live with this fact. i am too weak to do anything about it.

i am so sorry, Mom, Dad, and anyone else i have disappointed!

You totally do deserve empathy and compassion. I am sorry you're feeling this way. Can you break it into small steps? Like that you'll study for 20 minutes and then take a break. Don't forget to be gentle with yourself.

[RoxanneToto]

It’s never too late to change things or get going again - are you procrastinating? Are you afraid of failure? Don’t beat yourself up over this, but it might help you to move forward if you look at things from a different perspective.

[Breaking Dawn]

I'm so sorry you feel this way about yourself, MickeyCheeky! You are a good person, just overwhelmed because of personal problems that weigh you down. Things will get better later on, & you can catch up then. God bless you, wonderful MickeyCheeky!

[Deilla]

My dear friend, you're such a wonderful person. You're not a loser. I think you are trying your best. It sounds like a difficult situation. Maybe now is the time to focus on healing. School will be there when you're ready. I'm sure your mom and dad will understand. Everyone loves you. We're pulling for you.

[Thirty shades]

Mickey you support so many here. Not the actions of a loser.

Maybe you feel like a loser but that doesn't make it true. The evidence suggests that you have been unmotivated of late and you perhaps lack energy to catch up. I would say you are one of many who are in this situation just now.

Try and be your own best friend like you are to all of us here.

Sending hugs and respect

[MickeyCheeky]

Thank you so much guys for your support! i feel like the reason i am unmotivated is simply because i don't really like what i'm studying. i have been feeling like this long before the pandemic even started, although that likely made things even worse like for many people i assume. Sometimes i feel like i am really just making excuses for my laziness. i am still not quite sure what to do with the rest of my life and it has been going on for years now - in some ways i haven't been able to decide since my high school years... in any case, thank you all for Supporting me!

[RoxanneToto]

That’s really difficult, I’m sorry you feel you’re not going in a direction you really feel is right. That happens to the best of us!

[Akron172019]

I am the same way. I will do anything to avoid schoolwork at all. Every day I sit on my phone and watch videos and think about all the stuff I have to do for school. I have been in a better mood recently so I got caught up on all my work. I am working ahead because I already know I am not gonna open my books for another couple of weeks. I just get so lazy and my parents think I'm doing my best but I don't even care at this point. It helps me to think about how I only have a couple years of school left for the rest of my life and I will finally be done!! I'm sorry you feel this way and I wish I could tell you what helped me but I don't even know to be honest. I hope you are able to finish your school work and graduate and never have to go to school ever again.

[MatBell]

Mickey that is very normal in normal times. Now with a pandemic it is even more understandable to not be motivated.

All the best to you.

[captaineo]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

i am supposed to study for my exams... do you guys think i have put any effort into it? The answer is no. i haven't studied in months. i feel completely discouraged and lazy to even try to open up a book. i don't even HAVE many of the books i actually need! Yet my parents are still convinced that i am trying my best. They couldn't be more wrong. Though they are aware of my own struggles with university, they're still giving me much more faith and trust than i deserve. i don't deserve empathy or compassion because i brought all of this on myself. it's no one's fault but mine and i'll forever have to live with this fact. i am too weak to do anything about it.


i am so sorry, Mom, Dad, and anyone else i have disappointed!

Dear @MickeyCheeky

I am suffering from similar issues, not same , all have their own battles. And emphasize on the world battles. Because it is a battle, and that infers you need to fight it. Or more importantly you have to say “ I decide to fight, and take control of my life” , by this I mean to suggest that this expression will help place yourself in a position of power. Stop using the word “ I need to..” and rather switch to “ I decide too step up to the next level...” .
But here is the pickle, we are comfortable or rather wrongly think that giving up or not doing anything and staying where we are and feeling sorry for ourselves is comfortable place. Please also understand that I say this repeatedly to myself as well, and I see things you write in my self too. And I have suffer now this as you do despite or likely and may be significant age difference , but mental illness is a reality and it does not discriminate in age. And it started when we were born because I think is partly in the DNA and partly the society, and partly the individual.
I lived University in an age with no Internet, and I was not exposed to so much information as you may be, 300 channels tv, Internet attached to your watch, to your phone, to everything you do.
Mickey you know my story more or less, I live in Tokyo, came 21 years ago to get a MS in Finance, met a JP girl and married had kids, she was the love of my life and I was in charge of M&A integration of two huge Insurance companies, lots of stress, backstabbing, corporate cut throat competition and on top of this the actual work, this on the professional front, on the private front since I m colored I am exposed to 24x7 racism by JP, they think here they are white, and is not the melting pot that USA is. Though I’m Latin American. I feel as much American as any, my great grand father came from Spain to Venezuela and worked himself as a farmer and then my family was poor my Dad studied hard and developed a career the IBM the great blue and gave me the gift to live in US New York and study in English no clue did nor understand a word, but picked it up , this was 1984 to 1987 and I enjoy snow for first time and movies, and just loved every minute. The world was simple or may be I was too young.
But my dad was very impulsive and harsh on me sometimes and physical. But that was very much his upbringing it was like this. Catholic... not all is good.
Had good and bad experiences in my life, and is always a fight. And now there is so much information you can be exposed to the danger of your information being misused. So this social paranoia starts.
And I am a danger no one knows who I am , can be African, Asian , Middle East, and South American no one would know. All they know is that they have fear of me or see me as inferior, but I fight this. My sister is schizophrenic and I believe this developed and she already had this disease, but she would have been better if we knew earlier.


See

I don’t pretend to know you, but as a friend and as someone who cares for people with mental issues. I just share my experiences as open book. And I want to tell you your too young to be suffering this, you need to start of using Louise Hays, Tony Robbins, or so many mentors, find yourself a solution and get the help. And find what you really want to do, because if you are not doing well at the University is may be because you do not like what you are studying. Find yourself and love yourself

Let’s start with self love.

Blessings from Tokyo

Many hugs

EO

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[MickeyCheeky]

Originally Posted by captaineo

Dear @MickeyCheeky

I am suffering from similar issues, not same , all have their own battles. And emphasize on the world battles. Because it is a battle, and that infers you need to fight it. Or more importantly you have to say “ I decide to fight, and take control of my life” , by this I mean to suggest that this expression will help place yourself in a position of power. Stop using the word “ I need to..” and rather switch to “ I decide too step up to the next level...” .
But here is the pickle, we are comfortable or rather wrongly think that giving up or not doing anything and staying where we are and feeling sorry for ourselves is comfortable place. Please also understand that I say this repeatedly to myself as well, and I see things you write in my self too. And I have suffer now this as you do despite or likely and may be significant age difference , but mental illness is a reality and it does not discriminate in age. And it started when we were born because I think is partly in the DNA and partly the society, and partly the individual.
I lived University in an age with no Internet, and I was not exposed to so much information as you may be, 300 channels tv, Internet attached to your watch, to your phone, to everything you do.
Mickey you know my story more or less, I live in Tokyo, came 21 years ago to get a MS in Finance, met a JP girl and married had kids, she was the love of my life and I was in charge of M&A integration of two huge Insurance companies, lots of stress, backstabbing, corporate cut throat competition and on top of this the actual work, this on the professional front, on the private front since I m colored I am exposed to 24x7 racism by JP, they think here they are white, and is not the melting pot that USA is. Though I’m Latin American. I feel as much American as any, my great grand father came from Spain to Venezuela and worked himself as a farmer and then my family was poor my Dad studied hard and developed a career the IBM the great blue and gave me the gift to live in US New York and study in English no clue did nor understand a word, but picked it up , this was 1984 to 1987 and I enjoy snow for first time and movies, and just loved every minute. The world was simple or may be I was too young.
But my dad was very impulsive and harsh on me sometimes and physical. But that was very much his upbringing it was like this. Catholic... not all is good.
Had good and bad experiences in my life, and is always a fight. And now there is so much information you can be exposed to the danger of your information being misused. So this social paranoia starts.
And I am a danger no one knows who I am , can be African, Asian , Middle East, and South American no one would know. All they know is that they have fear of me or see me as inferior, but I fight this. My sister is schizophrenic and I believe this developed and she already had this disease, but she would have been better if we knew earlier.


See

I don’t pretend to know you, but as a friend and as someone who cares for people with mental issues. I just share my experiences as open book. And I want to tell you your too young to be suffering this, you need to start of using Louise Hays, Tony Robbins, or so many mentors, find yourself a solution and get the help. And find what you really want to do, because if you are not doing well at the University is may be because you do not like what you are studying. Find yourself and love yourself

Let’s start with self love.

Blessings from Tokyo

Many hugs

EO

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So Sorry for what you've been through and i Do Hope that things are getting better! Thank you SO MUCH for your Kindness, @captaineo!

[captaineo]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

So Sorry for what you've been through and i Do Hope that things are getting better! Thank you SO MUCH for your Kindness, @captaineo!

Thank you for the kind words. I might apply to the below

Own Your Future LIVE!

Dunno if you can access the link but might be nice.



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[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

i am supposed to study for my exams... do you guys think i have put any effort into it? The answer is no. i haven't studied in months. i feel completely discouraged and lazy to even try to open up a book. i don't even HAVE many of the books i actually need! Yet my parents are still convinced that i am trying my best. They couldn't be more wrong. Though they are aware of my own struggles with university, they're still giving me much more faith and trust than i deserve. i don't deserve empathy or compassion because i brought all of this on myself. it's no one's fault but mine and i'll forever have to live with this fact. i am too weak to do anything about it.

i am so sorry, Mom, Dad, and anyone else i have disappointed!

Start out small. Go somewhere where you would be less likely to be distracted and take breaks in between studying. Have you considered that the subject might be boring which makes it harder to study?

[Travelinglady]

Dear one, I've known you here for 5 years or so, and I've NEVER thought of you as a loser. Could school just not be for you? I haven't checked your profile, but if you're in college, then you might need to do some thing else for awhile--or if not, try thinking how nice it will be to be finished with school--at least by passing--so you can go into something you're more interested in. And get the word "loser" out of your vocabulary.