Feel Like Such A Loser

I have been having some issues with my job, as posted under the General Forum, lately. Well, yesterday, I was terminated. For not getting permission to miss work due to icy conditions and for not having the grill area properly clean.

I am so depressed now and feel worthless. I was almost there a whole year. That seems to be the longest that I hold down a job and then something happens and I lose it. Before this, I was managing a Dunkin Donuts, my boss took me out for coffee and laid me off.

I am the sole support for my family and have bills coming out my ears. I called and started an unemployment claim immediately, but that takes time if I even get approved. I called for an appt. for food stamps and have been applying online for a few jobs.

Through it all I feel like just crawling under a rock. I am so tired of giving my all to a job and then having it taken away from me. I just can't seem to do anything right long term. Something must be wrong with me. I thought I was doing okay with my meds, so it's not that.

I just want to disappear.

Mary Alice

((((Mary Alice)))) I'm so sorry to hear this!

Ok, you are not worthless. Look at how far you have come! Don't think that you are right back to where you were before, in that you are unemployed... because that is what depression will tell you.

You have accomplished much in this time frame. There are bumps in everyone's life. Please work hard to not crawl under that rock. Keep your head up as best you can, continue on what you know is good for you... reach out for more help...

I'm glad you are doing good with your meds, that will be a plus to help you get through this tough patch. Nothing is "wrong" with you; you are suffering and working to improve while suffering. That's a huge task!

Please don't disappear. You have worth. Use your other talents in the meantime.

I'm so sorry hon, you absolutely aren't a loser
grrrrrr at being laid off at work...
You have great value (((((((((((( Mary Alice )))))))))))))

(((( Mary Alice ))))

I'm so sorry this happened to you. You are not a loser.

You still were there nearly a year and that's an accomplishment no one can take away.

I hope this is an opportunity in disguise for you. Once I had to turn down my first good job to get off public assistance because my babysitter quit before she started. I was devastated but it turned out that it made it so I was free to go to another interview and that job was a good one and a keeper. You never know how things might turn out.

I hope something comes along for you very soon.

Thanks, Sky. I am trying so hard not to let this get to me, I mean it's only the day after and already I feel this awful.

It just gets harder and harder to find jobs because I go thru them quick and employers don't want to take chances on a "job jumper".

Thanks for caring.

Mary Alice

Thanks, Fuzzy. It just doesn't feel like I have worth when I am let go for something so silly. I do have an attorney's appt. next week so maybe I'll get some answers.



Mary Alice

{{{{{{{{Echoes}}}}}}}}} thanks. My parents are telling me the same thing, that God never gives you more than you can handle and that when one door closes, another one opens.

Being the sole provider is very hard when you have three people to do it for. The dark clouds just start rolling in and it's hard to see any light.

Mary Alice

(((((Mary Alice))))) I'm so sorry, I hope this situation resolves itself soon.

Mary Alice...

I just wanted you to know I feel for you at this time.
I have had the same thing happen to me but I didn't have anyone else to support. (My husband on the other hand had three of us as well, when it happened to him.)
Just try and keep your head up!!! As each day goes by your spirit will be restored and better things WILL come your way.
Take Care.

{{{{{{{{{AAAAA}}}}}}}}}} I need something good to happen soon. There just isn't any good jobs out there and each day gets harder for me to get up and moving.

{{{{{{BrnEyedGrl}}}}} thanks for your support. I'm trying to keep my spirits up - it hasn't even been that long since it happened. It just completely took me by surprise I guess.

Mary Alice, you are an experienced vet with disapointment.... im sorry this is a rough time for you.... i know you will regain your balance again and keep on fighting the depression...

sending good thoughts and hopes your way that this passes quickly and that you will quickly make a connection to the position meant especially for you...

((((Mary Alice)))) You are not a loser. It's hard to lose a job, but it happens to lots of people. Being unemployed is scary - I know I am too, but I have to believe that by proactively looking something will come along for both of us.

Try to keep your spirits up.

splitimage

{{{{{{Nowhere}}}}}}}} I hope you are right. I just need things to go right for me.

Thanks, splitimage. I know alot of people are unemployed. And I know it's a tough market out there right now, esp. for managers. It just gets rougher everytime this happens to me.

I'm sorry you feel so terrible. It's ot completely your fault. You are trying your hardest obviously. Maybe talk to your community or neighbours see if anyone will help. Explain your situation. [

I feel for you; managers are many times just emotional dorks. To them it's business; doesn't matter the world comes crashing in.

Don't disappear; you have friends here.

Shope

Thanks Shope. Right now I am waiting on unemployment comp. and have gone to see an attorney to see if I have a case. I should know next week. I just wish I'd receive some unemploy. as I have no money coming in.

Mary Alice

Mary Alice, how'd it go with DVR? They should be able to help you.

Hugs,
Candy