I'm such a loser!

After 6 weeks of doing well, I had to go back on Zoloft.
I could feel my anxity going off the chart. I started taking it 2 days ago.

I feel like such a failure and a weak, loser.

Maybe 1/6th of the situation is something you can "change." There's nothing weak about losing to 5 other guys ganging up on you at once :-)

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(((((((((((((( 50guy ))))))))))))))

You are NOT a looser!!! Many times through our illnesses we take steps forwards and steps backwards. It doesn't mean you are loosing the battle or that you are a loser.....we are all a work in progress through our lifetimes. We just have to go witht he flow and do what we need to do to get there in one piece

Hope you are feeling better soon!!

Hugsss
sabby

50guy. A few months ago I went off zoloft convinced I didn't need it anymore. I went completely off my rocker. I'm still dealing with the after effects now (it's when my current psychological low point started). I was so sure I had gotten past the point of needing meds.

So don't think you're a loser. Because if you are then I am and I think it would be horrible of you to run around here calling me a loser.

Meds are a tool to keep our chemistry in check, that's all. If you need it fine, if you don't fine. But don't judge yourself by it.

Cyran0

you have a chemical imabalance. how does that make you a loser?

personally, i think a loser is someone who just doesnt care. you care enough to notice and to know what you need.

were all friends here so hopefully i wont be offending anyone? i had such irregular periods when i was a teenager. so am i a loser because my body needs birth control to be normal?

50 guy would you feel like a loser if you broke your leg and had to have a cast?

You are a lovely, caring guy definitely NOT a loser.... love ya, Jin xxxxxx

I appriciate the kind words. All my life I strove to be the best I could. Now, here I am facing the downside, 50+ and ending up needing drugs..........a chemical imbalance??? when did this happen? I don't know. My wife is afraid that I might go off the deep end and kill her. She reads about people that have taken Zoloft, like Sid Hartman's wife.
She dosen't want me to take it. I have stopped before for her but, I end up after 6 weeks, being a worrier and nervous all the time. She dosen't understand. We are a tight couple. She thinks she drove me nuts, (well, she did, lol ) But, that isn't true. I just worry over nothing.

I tried natural things and they don't work. We are big into organic foods and thought that natural herbs would work, they did for a few weeks then I just couldn't do it anymore so I went back on. Physically, I am strong, I power walk, Bike, hike and chop wood ,plus exersize. What is wrong with me mentally? How did this happen? When do I get to feel normal again?

I have 6 grandkids, they mean the world to me. It is unfair that they have a Pop-Pop that is wacked out. I know, maybe I'm just feeling sorry for myself but, I have a high position job and what will happen if they find out? I think it is genetic. My Mother has it, my 2 brothers and one sister also. I come from a long line of psyco's.

Ah, you don't wanna hear anymore.......

Okay, you can't be genetically psycho, LOL. Genetically chemically imbalanced maybe. Can your mother or brothers, sister, etc. talk to your wife (their spouses) say how they deal with the problems, reassure her any?

I'm sorry you are down on you. I think you are wonderful for taking good care of your grandkids' Pop-Pop!

I wanted to share with you that I went off meds several years ago. I quit cold turkey, not the thing to do but I didn't know that then. It took a while to find a new way to be without the meds. It was a huge struggle. Therapy made all the difference.

Sometimes our issues can be dealt with for many years, then they need our attention later in life. You are doing just what you need to do for where you are right now. What else could you do? I think it's great that you are taking care of you!

50guy, you're not a loser! Is there anything besides Zoloft you can try to help with your anxiety so you can continue coming off of the Zoloft? For example, could you try something that is not an SSRI but specifically for anxiety, such as klonopin? And combine that with therapy? Please hang in there. You are not a loser. You are doing your best to be healthy.

By the way 50's, both of my parents, now over 60, are taking meds for the first time. This is looooong overdue but they never had a clue they needed it.

Cyran0

My personal view is that meds do not solve anything...

Solve, pach? Nope, they don't solve. They treat. It's an important distinction.

Cyran0

You're judging yourself too hard--but I've been there and still struggle not to do that as well.

Mental illness is like any other body illness--why are you judging it more harshly than if it happened below the neck. If you have diabetes, would it make you a loser to take meds for that?

I come from a long line of relatives with major depressive disorder. They're not psycho. They're mentally ill. The positive thing is I'm managing my chemical imbalance with a good psychiatrist and therapist. Unfortunately, my grandmother and the people before her did not have our modern medicines to help them cope. Nor did they live in a climate of acceptance. In the old days, depression was a sign of weakness.

Guess what, Pop-Pop. Some of your grandkids some day may develop what you have now. The best thing you can do for them is to set a good example for them on how to take care of yourself. You can take some pride in the fact you got help--you'd be a major loser if you hadn't gotten medical attention.

Maybe your wife and you could sit down with your dr. together and 'get on the same page.' I did with my wife and psychiatrist because my wife was so concerned about all the meds I take and didn't want me on them for all my life. My dr. gently explained to her that the goal is NOT to get off meds--the goal is to have a good quality of life. The meds are a tool to acheive a good quality life.

He likened my suicide attempt and 'break-down' to a heart attack. If I had had a heart attack, that would be managed with medication and lifestyle changes. That's what we're doing with my mental illness. A diabetic cannot will themselves better. Nor can you. It's not weakness--it's chemical.

You don't say if you're in therapy or not. Perhaps a few visits might give you a different perspective on your anxiety problems.

50guy,

Not a loser hon, it's a chemical imbalance and you've found a medication that works for you. Dance in the streets!

Let me assure you 50 guy ,
You are not a failure, loser nor weak

Moonlite

Hey 50guy, Your life is alot like mine. I have had deep
and painful struggles and intense emotional pain, complete
and utter failure and the scars to go with them. When I came
to the crossroad of dying or fighting with everything in me,
and then perhaps in the middle of all I went through,
slowly I came to face myself and what a revelation it
was to find this person inside me. Then I knew things
about myself, good and bad, and certain abilities to
change the way I thought and felt. It certainly wasn't
a walk in the park and this doesn't happen with everyone.
But one word my mouth never repeated was the word "loser".
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of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
-Franklin D. Roosevelt

Well, I did it again. Went off Zoloft last week. Feeling good so far.
I am using meditation, music and infrared sauna everyday fo 30 minutes. I feel good and hope to keep on striving to stay drug free.
I know I am back and forth with this but, my doc says to try and stop permanently. He dosen't think I really need Zoloft and should try other methods.
I was addicted to percoset for over 1 year and stopped cold. I have been on Oxycodine for the past month and am stopping that with my Doc's help.

So far I'm doing ok, I have a doc appt on the 18th to assess my success and see if I need further treatment.