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just have to vent again. i talked to a friend of mine that i am really close to (or was) in high school. i knew i shouldnt have because (no offense--she is very religious and i am not). pretty much her response was to say that i was selfish for not telling my friends and that i had no right to feel the way i do. i dont know right now....i feel even more depressed and angry after this as well as ashamed. should i feel this way? was she right? please help.

Absolutely not.

Unless you have depression you have no idea what someone goes through.

You should get some sort of support system. I come here to psych central and go into the chat room because none of my loved ones understand what I go through.

I sent messages on facebook to everyone telling them I will be busy for awhile. Fact is I just need some time to heal.

Do what you need to Angely. Fact is do what is best for you and don't worry about what others think.

thanks. i knew my friends wouldnt understand at all but i went against my better judgement to reach out. i guess my friend just sees it from the perspective that couldnt possibly know what it was like. i really appriciate what you have done for me tonight--thank you.

~angel~

No way!!! I have had many Religious people tell me how i should think it just doesn't work for me .They are so blind and close minded that sometimes the things they are very hurtful and they don't even know it or maybe they do.

Example:
I been dealing with depression for many years when my mom died I lost it . took off from work for 3 months and just laid in bed .When I finally went back to work As i was walking in the back door the Religious nut of the company said to me that I should find GOD so i would go to heaven with my family and not burn in hell with my mom
You tell me how he meant it.

That was my last day working there!

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Just a reminder that there is no religious talk rule on the forum. I'm sorry that people have had such a negative experience with certain individuals though, as most people are *not* like that.

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Your friend is wrong, and what they said sounds really hurtful. I'm sorry she wasn't understanding of the emotional pain you're in. A lot of people aren't, unfortunately.

You are completely entitled to feel how you feel, and nobody should tell you otherwise. Your pain is your own, and although it isn't pleasant, denying it can make it worse... which nobody wants.

Take care of yourself. If she bothers you again, try to sit her down and politely explain that you do not appreciate her criticism. Nobody deserves to be criticized.

Blah. Translated, she said: I don't want to hear about it. People have their own problems and, yes, even agendas. I wouldn't worry too much about it, though, and just remember for next time that she's not really a good go-to person for this sort of thing.

If you want to talk, PM me, and good luck! =)