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Old Mar 19, 2008, 11:27 AM
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i am extremely pissed off.
i dont know what i did or anything, but it must be my fault.
my ex was shouting at me today in assembaly, i dont even remem ber whgat we were arguing about. but he was scaring me he was sounding so threatning..
after the asssembalyl i just went to hide in my corner, and he demanded i get up, idk i duunno why we were arguing i got so confused..
but yeah..
i was satin my corner and he ordered me to stand up and i was scared i thought he was gonna hit me there was noone else around. so i stood up and he just tried to hug me and i let him cuz he was sooo pissed off.
i dont know what i did. i must be a *****. idk idk idk.
he wont leave me alone. ii just want him out of my life, i just want him gone. but he wont leave me. never.
now i have to sit next to him all the way to berlin on a plane, cuz my friends thought we were always getting on as happy as a clam (only cuz i didnt want him mad and to hit me) and they said thats how the seats were arranged. i just hope he doesnt try to hurt me.
how much is it to ask that he just leave me alone. wait thats why we were arguing. he told me i was selfish for not wanting to be with him, and not telling him i didnt wanna be with him. cuz i just let him hug me when he asks, so he dont get upset, i just let him do anything. i hate it but i have to or he might hurt me. besides, its not my choice what he does to me. im just sick and i dont wanna hurt myself again. not again.
ive been in such a hostile mood all day too. dunno why.
meh.. i just want this to end its rediculous.
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 11:47 AM
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you dont have to let him do anything , tell its over tell to stay away, if he goes to hit you or hits you you can report it he needs to know its wrong now or he will carry on with this sort of behaviour as he grows up,
if you have a local police station go to them ask them if they would talk to your ex for you explain he is out of order and explain the consequencies if it carrys on
that should scare him to stop

dont feel guilty he is using your feelings as blackmail to get his own way
you are better than him you did nothing wrong
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 12:01 PM
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You have to stop trying to please other people and think of you.....
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 03:02 PM
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</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
Tishie said:
You have to stop trying to please other people and think of you.....

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exactly, and i back up the post above, too!

It`s illegal what he is doing and you let yourslef be a victim!
This is not o.k but ONLY YOU can stop it.

He has to learn to deal with his feelings. He has a problem and you know you don`t have to do anything with it!

He doesn`t have the right to hurt you or demand anything
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 04:28 PM
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Dot, I think you really need to work on giving yourself what YOU want, and what makes YOU happy, not other people. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. If you want your ex out of your life, tell him.
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 04:56 PM
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stop blaming yourself hon! do not allow him to touch you. I am assuming he must have hit you in the past. stay away from him. I don't know how old you are but if you are a teen living at home tell your parents right now. this jerk needs to be in jail.
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 07:35 PM
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nice new widget mandy. yes bee i am a teen and yes he has hurt m in the past. not exctly hitting but hurting all the same. i dont feel like i can tell anyone irl, cuz they just pass it off as a joke or an exaggeration. sooo i gotta deal with ths meself. hence tel lol.
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Old Mar 19, 2008, 07:36 PM
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dot thats awful, i understand how scary it can be, i hear you have told him that you odnt want to be friends with him any more and i think thats a really positive step, try to think of you, leave post it notes lieing around saying, always think of your self, or somthing liek that, maybe you will remember its you you will always have to look after at the end of the day

im thinking of you every day, and hoping this can be resolved as soon as possib;e
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 06:18 PM
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sorry ppl pass this of a joke, as it defiantly not a joke dont let him touch he does not deserve your kindness if he treated you wrong,
i agree with everyone here this is not your fault
it is his, do not let him get you to take the blame for his behaviour
you are a very smart young lady
stand up to him it will take all the courage you can muster but we will be here to listen to you,
he needs to get help if he hurts those he goes out with
its not allowed here or in the us
its a form of bullying

please seek out help

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Old Mar 20, 2008, 06:57 PM
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((((selfy)))))))))))))))))
I agree with Kathy
its not your fault

been in your shoes before
walk away from this person imo
you matter and are worth more
Being backed in the corner is no fun

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Old Mar 20, 2008, 07:08 PM
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Have you told your parents?

Maybe try coming forward like this: Sit down someone you trust explicitly, and explain that what you are about to tell them is real, and very serious, and that you need help. Ask them not to interupt you till you are done. Then tell them that you don't like your ex, you don't want anything to do with him, but you are afraid that he will hurt you. Explain that this is justified because he has hurt you before. Write it out in advance if you need to.

This is not your fault. You are not being selfish. He has no right to touch you, in any manner, even it's just hugging. Don't ever let yourself be alone with him. If he's nearby, then stick with a friend until he's gone. Take steps to protect yourself.

Have you ever taken a self-defense class? If not, you should consider it. It will add confidence and give you a way to protect yourself if you do find yourself alone with him, so you won't have to be afraid anymore.

Don't stop reaching out or looking for help.
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Old Mar 20, 2008, 07:17 PM
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Dot I agree with all of the above, talk to your parents or go to
a guidance counselor, teacher or if you must and are that scared,
let the authorities know!!!

He sounds extremely possesive and Controlling, like muffy said
being backed into the corner is no fun. Make a promise to your-
self you will do something about it for YOU!!

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