[red_texasgirl]

My biggest obstacle in dealing with my depression is my "letting go" of pain caused by my sister Nancy and her husband, Marvin. How am I supposed to let go of what Nancy did to the family when it still hurts so damn much? Of all the physical pain I've had in my life... sunburns, dry socket, ruptured ovary... EVERYTHING... none of it compares to what Nancy has done. I would rather go through all that physical pain again ALL AT ONCE than to have this heartache. When my mom gets quiet and says that she is not a good mother and was not a good grandmother... how am I supposed to let go of that? If I were to send her a letter, she and Marvin would retaliate. How do you suggest that I let go of a sister that I hate and love at the same time? This has been eating at me for 6 years.

[DOWNINNATICK]

It's very hard to let go, but you have to one seek counseling to help you deal with the pain. You also have to find away to let your feelings out, some suggest to write in to and put it into a box to god and once it's there tell yourself it's not longer my problem it's not gods. Or write a journal of your pain and that is another way to set free your feelings.
They are also teaching EFT (Tapping) to help release your problems.
Check out Tapping.com to find out more about that. But coming here and posting is another way to release your feeling. Take care of yourself first, for you deserve it.

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[nightbird]

...write out your feelings and then burn it!

yup, light a match and burn it up.

if you feel you need to actually do something - otherwise, change your thinking when she pops in your head. i know it's hard because heartache is involved. get busy with something new, or somebody new to care about. put distance between you and these people.

you have to treat this situation as you would any heartache.

it takes time, but it happens that one day you wake up and you are no longer feeling the hurt, or thinking of them, and their actions ... one day you wake up and 'they' aren't there anymore.

so, you can wait it out, and down the road someday when you are not hurting anymore, you decide to start a new relationship or forgive and let them go... your personal power within you will help you all the way, you know?

peace and comfort,
nightbird