Not sure how to post this one

Most of you know I had a breast reduction done on Dec 17 of this month. Well I have lost my best friend over it cause of the "drama' i have cauesed in her life and the anger level she is under in her life she has choosen to walk away from our friendship. She has tried to assure me that the surgery is not the main reason she is ending our friendship, but I have no other reason to come to.
She is one of my only friends I could have counted on in the past and now I really have none in the 3d world.
In some ways I have seen this coming cause we hardly ever saw each other over the last few months, but I did not want it to end cause of my being laid up due to my surgery over the hoidays .

Some part of me also thinks it has to do with my ex- and her dating cause of all the stress he has caused her but she just will not get rid of it. but I am not sure??
I am so confused and deperssed over this issue, I am not sure how to feel?
IN one hand i sorta feel relived cause I do not have to listen to her anger towards her child anymore, or towards others, but on ther other I worry now for that anger ?
IN the other hand I worry for her, cause she is not seeking the help she needs ???
I am so confused.

I know right now all I really should be concerd with is healing and getting better and speinding time with my faimily but we have been friends since 96 and that is what worries me the most..

{{{{{{{{{Trish}}}}}}}}}}}

I am so sorry. You are right, you should be focusing on getting well, but I know this must weigh heavily on your mind.

You know I'm a phone call away, in 3D. I'll PM you my new number............

Oh sweetie, you didn't need this. I would offer that her friendship is probably not worth the worry right now though I am sure you are uncertain and in pain. We can be your friends, no probs with that. I know, 3d friends come when you are barfing and can't move or when you are in so much pain you have to go to the hospital. But we are here. This relationship sounds like it might have been a bit poisonous? I have been thinking a lot about this issue and how we choose our friends etc. Good luck.

((((MY Dragon!)))) No, I agree with the rest, you don't need to be worrying about this too... but maybe it helps keep your mind off all the rest of the stuff?

Try not to think you have "lost" her as a friend. Best friends do break away some times, to come back refreshed later. Maybe SHE is going through something she doesn't wish to burden you with right now? Aw, gee, you just don't know.

Rest and heal now (I bet you're looking great!) and you can sort all the other stuff out later. OK?

That would be wonderful

I would love to chat with you..
THank you
Love you with all my heart..
I miss our phone tags...

your words sound just like my faince's ...
and so many others who have told me the same thing. Do not worry and do not let her get to you. If she is going to do this it was not meant to be.

So maybe I should just let it go.
I am trying to do that. But a part of me says no, but only a very small part..

you know I wish it was that easy. But she said she watned to end the freindship and this time, I am not going to stop her... She has walked away times before and came back but this time I am not going to let her back in. NOr let myself back in to her life.

I really think this time it is for the best. WE talked a little online and I belive in my heart (even though it is broke) we do not belong as freinds anymore.
so I will let it end for good this time.
She wants it this way, she is making this choice not me.. I asked her and that is what she wants so I am not going to stop her.

((((((((((((((((((Trish))))))))))))))))))

I am sorry you have lost your friend, that must really hurt (She doesn't sound like a very good friend for you right now though) Please take care of you and concentrate on your healing... we are all here for you,

Love,
Fuzzy

You know Fuzzy you are correct she does not sound like a very good person to be around right now.

I have made that up in my mind to stay away from people like that for the time being.
I can talk to complete strangers about this and they say You should be home in bed... not up moving about, but you look good for that type of surgery..

I went out last night and listend to "Uncle Fudd" a local Blue Grass band for new years eve and had a blast and i was so tired I did not get to see the ball drop, but Bryon and I have a ball just sitting and listing to them last night for an hour.
and you know he fully understood when I said I wanted to go home at 8pm..
That is the man I love, and that is who I really need in my life people like you and him. to support me and that understand. what I am going through right now

{{{{{{{{Trish}}}}}}}}}}

I am sorry she hurt you, but like Fuzzy said, she wasn't much of a friend then. You deserve to have people around you that are really THERE for you when you need it...........friendships are give and take, and when you give all the time, you aren't getting back.

You know I love you dearly. Always have, always will.

Mary Alice ********hugs and warm support*********

sounds like a keeper to me!

Lady Dragus,
I am so sorry for your loss and pain. As I read through your posts it sounds like you are getting stronger with each one and understanding what is most important to your life right now. I hope your pain keeps healing both physically and emotionally.

Take care of yourself.

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Thank you.
Welcome to the fourms I hope you find what you are looking for and find comfort some where here.

You will find noting but understanding here .

Peach be with you in all that you do

Your warm words and thoughts get me all the time.
I love you just as much as you love me.

YOu above all understand me, and I still in some ways still do not fully understand our bond, but love it in all its glory, and fathom what is has done for my sprit over the last few days.
I still have a few moments when I think to myself why, but not as often as I could hve if I had not come back here and seeked out my freinds on this site.
I now understand what it means to have someone to have and to hold you and to understand what you need when you are really deperssed.
I have never had that, and with you and all the others here on this site, you have helped me once again.
I really am so glad I have found this site.

You are a blessing Mary alice. TO me and to many.
Thank you so much.
I love you..
Trish