Help

This is my first time posting. I am feeling worse than ever.

My husband and I recently split up. He is an Iraq war veteran (3 tours) who has been diagnosed with severe Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It's been two years since he last got back. It's been a rocky two years. His PTSD, my depression and both of us were wallowing in our own things so we didn't nurture the relationship like we should have. He left at the end of August to go get some help at a VA hospital near his family and I just heard from him in the past few days. He left the program and has been camping out of his car. He hasn't talked to his family and he told his war buddies to leave him alone.

I am obviously crushed. I love him and don't want our marriage to break up. But I can see that he is very sick and that he needs help. He hasn't had a moment's rest since he got out of the Marines. So besides being devastated, I also feel guilt that I couldn't help him or "fix" him even though I tried. He says that he can't be married right now, that maybe we can work out our issues someday but he can't deal with much of anything right now. I guess I am having a lot of trouble accepting the situation. I know now that I can't put the focus on myself; it's really about him getting better. He's been through too much and can't deal with my stuff on top of that. I get it, and my heart is filled with empathy for him. However, it is so painful that I can barely stand it.

I don't know how to get through this situation.

My heart breaks for you.
I am so sorry that things are so hard for you and your husband.
My husband is also a Iraq war Vet (one tour... June 07 to May of this year)
and he definitely was... different... when he came back. I am afraid he may
have PTSD too... although he has not seen a doctor yet. So, I kind of under-
stand what you are going through. If you ever need to talk/vent, I am just a
private message away.
*offers hugs*

((((((((((((((((((((((mrscaru))))))))))))))))))))) I am so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. Please take care of you also while you work through all your feelings. I am here and I care.

I don't know if you have seen the subforum under PTSD that is for combat PTSD or not but you may find some insight and support there too.

My thoughts are with you.

BB