best friend :(

now my best friend doesn't even think it is good for us to talk anymore. i'm hurting everyone. i dont even have her anymore. why is this happening to me???

lmg, I have lost more than one best friend myself, because they couldn't deal with my 'hermit' mode when depression got the best of me. If I were to look at it objectively, I can understand how hard it must be on our friends. But when I'm in the middle of the anguish, I just can't answer the phone or otherwise 'be there' -- it takes all my energy just to keep going.

I don't have any answers for you, but wanted to offer some support... ((((( Hugs )))))

MHH

Holy crap!!!
Are you two reading my mind ?Damn that has happenend to me. Lost a friend and most recently lost my girlfriend because I was isolating and she needed more attention. I even told her about my depression, called her and told her I couldn't go to her house that weekend because I was stuck in the darkness and she couldn't handle it.
1, I need to remember that their behavior is about them. I know that I'm working on myself and don't want to stay sick.
2. I deserve to have people in my life who love and care about me and have patience w. me. This is really hard. People get pissed. So sometimes you will lose people but not all the time. I have to make a conscious effort to call them so when I get low they won't know or get as effected if they do know.
3. True friends will stick through it with you as you would for them.
4. I do need to look at it from their point of view and think of how I'd feel if i was them. I have major abandonment stuff so this hurts seeing that they might feel abandoned. i had to make an effort to be available for their pain even when I'm going through *****.
Sometimes it helps when I help other people
take care,

being alone isnt always bad thing. Artists and creative people crave time alone. You do need a support group, somebody to get you when you fall but when your alone find something to fill the void. Do something that will make you a better person. Learn someting, anything. Do crafts, read some books, etc. Or better yet find somebody that needs you. There are lots of people in the worl that just need somebody. Go to a homeless shelter or animal shelter and volunteer. Go find out who your neighbors are, have a block party. Good luck and much love.

WOW i was thinking of the same thing right now...my best friend is leaving me all alone because my mind doesn't work very well and cant think clearly and i do many things that piss her off...i told her a thousand times i have this problem and she told me i am okay and is just an idea that has stuck in my head and she compares herself with me and says that she might have more reasons to have depression than me but she hasn't so im ok by her...i really love her and want her by my side she is like the sister that i never had but i cant...i dont know what to do and im losing her quickly...anyway i feel you there mate hang in there...we have to...

I just went through the same thing with someone (leaving because of my issues). I have abandonment issues as it is, and this has been very hard on me. Please don't feel like you are in this alone.

that's exactly whats happening with me. im saying things that piss her off and she thinks that im over exaggerating my problems and that i always make things seem worse then her. which is not true...i can't help it. i cant lose her now....i tell her everything i need her there for me. but we just keep arguing and not getting anywhere. UGHH its so frustratingg

*hugs*

I just wanted to say that if you need anybody to talk to, you can talk to me. I am a very good listener and have read a lot of books about this stuff, and I love to help people (sometimes not always a good thing!).

For me, I am finding it hard to make friends that I trust right now. It's hard to think about happy things when my mind is so wrapped up in the things I'm not doing, etc.

I think depression is a part of people who don't love themselves. I have a very hard time loving myself, and I don't know why. Other people seem to like me, but I can always find something wrong with me. Also, I can always find something wrong with somebody else for some reason. I think I do it to keep myself distant (as more like an excuse to keep myself distant). Also, I have a really hard time letting people be who they are. I think I am controlling, and when things don't go exactly how I want them to, I become very anxious and hurt, and when they do go my way, I feel guilty. So, then, I just end up deciding not to make friends because it's too hard. Also, I am a huge perfectionist.

I don't want to take medicine, although I have tried several medications. I really feel like this is a spiritual thing and want to get stronger from the inside out. I think that involves some serious family and self evaluation with a counselor/therapist.