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Nov 21, 2008, 04:18 PM
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i know i need to move on from my past relationship but i keep holding on and constantly thinking about her / everything we had and everything i thought we would have in the future. 6 weeks ago she wanted to marry me and now we dont even talk. i have to try and try not to call her text her contact her in any way because i know she wont respond and that will just hurt me more. i never thought this would happen. she was my best friend and i thought i was hers. i know i have to let go but theres part of me that would rather hold on to the feelings i have for and be miserable. i dont want to go back to who i was before i met her. i was very closed off just had fun and never really got to close to women. i had relationships but i never let anyone get to close. so im afraid if i try to close her out im going to close that door again and never really have a happy relationship,wich is truly what i want. am i just not ready to let go? i feel like i need to for my own mental health but just cant seem to. i know theres no magic answer
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Nov 21, 2008, 11:12 PM
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Recently my friends at school have been trying to get me to go out with one of my good friends who is a girl, and I keep saying no. She already knows i like her and she doesn't feel the same. that was 2 years ago, i am still depressed because of it (and other things) and i just can't because i know if i were in a relationship with her, it WILL end since we are only in 11th grade, I would loose her and be sooooo depressed since I would never see her again or at least a long while. So now my friends are starting to turn on me because I'm not asking her out. either way I loose. I can understand what you are saying. It is hard to get over stuff like that. like for me, it has been almost 2 years and we never even went out once, and i was so depressed. I literally love her. I say don't let go. I have several friends who dated close friends, they broke up, stayed away from each other for about a year (i know, a long time) but... now they are best friends again.
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Nov 22, 2008, 12:31 AM
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I wanted to say welcome to PC!!
I don't know how you feel so I'm not going to say I know how you feel. I think that maybe time can help or keep talking it out here on the boards we are good listeners. Jbug
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Nov 22, 2008, 05:19 AM
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(((((((((((((((((( confused ))))))))))))))))))) I'm going through the same thing right now and can appreciate your pain.  All I can really say is that at some point your head will tell you "I need to move on, I need to realise that I can't be with her anymore" because if you don't you'll never be happy... you'll question yourself why all the time, you'll compare others to her, you'll torture yourself hunny.So easy to write, but very hard to do... I know, I'm struggling too. I'm getting some great support here and I'd be a complete wreck without it... you are grieving hun, for a girlfriend and a best friend. Please be good to yourself. Treat yourself, think of you. I wish I could take your pain away, but I can't. I can offer you the warmest of hugs though, a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear (or rather a reading eye  ).Take care confused, Molly
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Nov 22, 2008, 09:18 AM
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((((((((((((((((( confused )))))))))))))))))
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Nov 22, 2008, 09:45 AM
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Do not stop loving or living just learn to move on. Your relationship was meant to be but so was the breakup. This seems to be how we learn.
I'm only a frog of little brain so no sage advice. Remember the good times, learn from the bad and bring the knowledge of both with you into the future.
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Nov 22, 2008, 09:55 AM
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Nov 22, 2008, 04:04 PM
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