[skyliner]

I'm frustrated with current therapist. When I told her I'm not getting what I need here she said she's aware of my physical limiations and does not want to push me too hard. HUH?
I said to her that not dealing with the issues only makes me more stressed. So whatever stress it is to DEAL with it, and talk about it here, will at least reduce my mental anguish which will in turn help me heal physically.
I think she was just wiggling her way out of utilizing psychotherapeutic tools/intervention to help me. She said to do the real work would really play a number on my level of energy. I said to her that by not addressing those areas it is zapping me of even more energy.

sigh.

I still don't feel she has helped me with what she terms 'complicated grief'.
I think it's time to move on to another therapist but want to do it from a centered place.
sigh again.

Thanks for being here!

[catrules]

Hi,

Find a new therapist. You or your insurance are paying them. This makes them your employee above most everything else. If they are not helping, or are refusing to validate your concerns, then move on. I have worked with two terrible therapists, and know that there are tons of them out there. Get references from friends or family, or ask your pdoc. My pdoc is the one who pointed me in the direction of my current therapist, and she is so great. I completely trust her and feel totally at ease in working with her.

A bad therapist can sometimes be worse than no therapist at all. I doubt that working on your treatment plan is going to make you feel any worse than you already do. Mentally, maybe a bit more, but physically, I am not so sure.

Good luck
Cathy

[skyliner]

Mental stress does take a toll on me physically. Yesterday I called her and asked if she can fit me in for a second session because there was a slew of new stresses for me to deal with and a host of emotions that I was burying as they were too overwhelming to deal with on my own.
She said she had no openings.
This morn I awoke with a terribly sore throat, feels like a strep throat.
Emotional stress affects me physically.

I am looking for a new therapist now. I hate the process. It takes me close to a year to fully open up to them; as I've had a number of negative experiences. And until I fully open up there is no relief.
Thanks for your support

[Perna]

I don't think you can rush the process and yes, it's very draining. I didn't have any physical problems but use to come home from therapy sessions and practically go right to bed (often would go to bed at 8:00 p.m., after we got back from dinner where I'd almost fall asleep in my food :-)

[skyliner]

Interesting that you get tired after a session. That's a convenient sleeping pill for you
I have a lot to think about and process after a session.

[PeculiarGroove]

I always feel absolutely exhausted after a therapy session. I usually have a headache as well and just generally feel very run down. I think some people are more physically sensitive to emotional or mental strain. For example, whenever i'm worried about something i get a bad stomach - even if it's a subconscious worry. Just give yourself a day to recover and be kind to yourself ((hugs))

[(JD)]

Of course, no one can make your decision for you. However, I do think you need to stick with this therapist at this time.
She appears to be very astute and caring as well - for your own best interest.
Talk and work with her as to what areas might not take such a physical toll upon you, and what signs you need to recognize that tell her therapy is going "too fast" for you.
You see, you are ill just from trying to make the effort of covering more ground, proving that this T is correct: You are a very sensitive person who requires a more delicate time of therapy.

This T is much more beneficial for you than what you think you want. Another who will barge full speed ahead in spite of your hurt might set you back years in therapy.
What difference does it make how slow you go, as long as you are on the right path?
Learning to take your time and not cause yourself further injury is key, imo.
Talk with the T about how to perform good self care during this process. That would be my first goal with you, for your own best interest and health.

[shezbut]

((skyliner))

I agree with Sky wholeheartedly.

Over the years, I've recognized that I can only handle one thing at a time. A key example of this: On Sunday, I slipped on the ice and fell upon my head. The pain was intense! The intracraneal hemorrhage caused almost every possible side effect on that list. Not fun Six days later, I went back to work as the doctor okayed it. When transferring a patient from wheelchair to recliner, I slipped discs in my back. Suddenly, that pain became #1! All I could notice from there was overwhelming sharp pain in my back and down my legs.

The point is, we all have limits of what we can take. Exceeding those limits can and do affect recovery time and ability.

Best wishes to you!