We broke down & called the T. We are always encouraged to say what we feel to him. We did tonight. We told him we feel something has been lost that will never make things ok again. We feel confused and conflicted. We do not think our talking to him or taking meds or asking for a change in meds will help any more. It feels like everything broke in our world. What used to comfort can't be found. There is no safety. The pain is more than we can take.

He spoke harshly with us then demanded to speak to the husband. He told husband, that, according to his (T's) lawyer , T is required to let husband know how bad we are feeling. T said he was one word away from calling the police on us. We did not threaten, we only told him feelings, sadness, dispare and fear.
T spoke to his lawyer specifically about us!? Are we a liability? A threat? He demanded that we see him Friday. We can't stand any more argueing. What did we do?

somebody ...please? say something.....

[multipixie9]

Calista+12,

Honey I can't advise you because I do not understand enough and don't know the others involved.

Is your husband supportive toward you being in therapy? Is he confident in your T's working relationship with you?

In looking for help in my life I've been to a variety of levels in psych providers. I've been abused by one psychdoc, been to indifferent, cold psych workers and met a few good ones and my own personal hero, Carolyn who has worked with me for 15 years for less than her services are worth.

Sometimes it can be necessary to make a change - uncomfortable as that can be - in order to do what is best for you and/or his sake too.

Read my words with caution. I am someone who needs psych help myself and must not set my beliefs up as anything but personal experiences and thoughts.

I am sorry you are in distress and hope you can find the next right thing for your life. In concern,

Leslie

just sceered

we did somthin rong
he hates us

[crystalrose]

who hates you hun? I don't know what you should do but i just wanted to say i care for you and hope for good things for you.

The husbansd is su0portive. The T hates us now,..we didn't threaten harm to the body; we just told him how we felt.
This talk about his lawyer makes us feel like too much trouble a liability to him. He says I am pushing him away, but if I cannot get help by talking to him & taking meds, what help is left>?
Its in my court now..either I go back with my tail between my legs or I quit. At which point the cops will be at my door.
I had a good relationship with this T for 15 years. Yes, I am more deeply depressed than I've ever felt. But T was overreacting to save his own butt.
I feel worthless and harmful to him & others close to me. I can't wrap m head around why he threw in the remark about his lawyer. That scared me.
This is my birthday and I wish I was never born.

I feel so pathetic and wrong

[multipixie9]

Calista+12,

Sweetie, I'm so sorry things are scarey and messed up and confused. I wish I had wonder-words that would set you free from the fear and the questions and the dread of making more mistakes when you already feel so down.

I will hold some good thoughts in my heart and mind for you tonight. I don't have to know to care and to want things to settle down and get better for you...for me....for all of us who come here. I will pray for you.

Leslie and Pixies

we don kno big werds. we sorre fings is bad 4 u. it get bettr sumday. byby

[DLHsSystm]

Calista + 12,

Oh my Gosh! How scarey! What a yucky thing to have to be going through on your birthday. Perhaps it could be connected with birthday in some way. Don't know at all. I would be so hurt. 15 years! Hmmmm. Has he ever acted like this before that your remember? What was Husband's reaction? I'm (like Leslie said) someone who needs psych help myself so I am just responding from a place in my own heart.

This too shall pass.

[kris9999]

I'm so sorry these things are happening! I can understand your t being concerned but he should not have contacted your husband and spoken so harshly with you. I suggest on your next appointment you tell him exactly how you feel about this entire situation. If you can't trust your t, you should find a new one

[complic8d]

(((((((Calista+12)))))))
Sounds to me like t is frustrated, not knowing what to do. From a legal standpoint, if he thought, read into, what you were saying could mean your safety is in danger, then he "legally" has to take steps. Why he spoke so harshly, I don't know. If he thought you could be in danger he probably told your husband so he could keep an eye on you, otherwise he thinks you need to be somewhere safe (thus the police).
My t gets nervous when I talk about those hopeless, desparate feelings because she may not be sure if I might act on them. I try to let her know that I'm not "threatening" anything, but I know it scares her.
Please know that I am thinking of you, today on your birthday, and always.
Take care....

Originally Posted by multipixie9

Calista+12,

Sweetie, I'm so sorry things are scarey and messed up and confused. I wish I had wonder-words that would set you free from the fear and the questions and the dread of making more mistakes when you already feel so down.

I will hold some good thoughts in my heart and mind for you tonight. I don't have to know to care and to want things to settle down and get better for you...for me....for all of us who come here. I will pray for you.

Leslie and Pixies

we don kno big werds. we sorre fings is bad 4 u. it get bettr sumday. byby

(((Leslie & Pixies)))
We don't need wonder-words. You and all here heard us. Tht's all we need. Thank you.

Those "places in your heart" from which you all responded must be huge to hold all the compassion and care they do. Thank you all.

Well the T is an ***....All the talk in the world won't fix this mess. Now, if we talk, he hears a threat and gets all worked up. We tried....it wont work even with this T ; he tries too but it isn't ever good enough. Nothin is good enough. It sucks. No point in going to T and not saying a word, right? Who needs it?

Right?? I mean like there isn't enough crap going on...?
He'd leave sooner or later anyway...so who cares?

[LivingMiracle]

I really don't know what to say to make you feel better but hang in there.
I hear your pain and wish I could take it away from you.
Gentle Hugs if okay
I'm here for you

[DLHsSystm]

Hang in there Calista (((Calista + 12)))
We care about you.

[Miri]

Callista, my heart aches for you, my dear. I think I have been in a kind of similar bind, but sorry, it won't help except for you to hear perhaps that T's are all too human at times and make decisions in a moment that even they can't predict the far-reaching effects. That's not meant to be a defense, just an observation, but mostly, i just want you to know that you are care about, deeply, and that I for one wish you safe passage through this very difficult and confusing labyrinth of chaos. Miri