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I think I belong here. My therapist says I have disasociative disorder. I don't know much about it except what little I read on the internet. I have ???s about what is going on with me.

Hi iris, was there a specific question you were wanting to ask? Most of the time when you start talking to other people with a dissociative disorder too, many people will be like oh yeah I know what your talking about. So if you feel comfortable, I would say if you have a question just ask. Someone will always respond. Might have to dig around for an answer, but there are lots of us here to get you one or get as close to one as we can.
Welcome to the forum, Monty

I wonder if you know your alters or recognize when they are out? I do sometimes. I often seem to be a mouthpiece for one (14 yr old Dee) who won't talk to our therapist because she doesn't trust adults. I am hoping that she will feel safe enough to post because right now she is so fragile and I can't seem to help her. She wants someone to listen to how she is feeling. Does this make any sense????

welcome white iris!

you make perfect sense. how long have you been seeing your t? it takes a very long time to build trust...especially with teens and children. do you know the specific issues Dee has with your t so that you and her can discuss them? journaling is a great way to communicate that stuff.

i understand your fear for her and her fragility right now. what might reach her to help her feel safe? maybe you could ask her that in journaling. possibly she needs something very simple to feel safe?

keep talking. we're here for you. it's good to meet you. i'm kd. i live with dissociative identity disorder and have a 14 yr old as well...very pensive young one.

we're listening.

kd

hello and welcome

KC

we have a 14 yo Pammie
hope you will see her around

KC

I started seeing her about 2 yrs ago. Then I stopped cause everything was going well. I started back again a few months ago because my family Dr. thought that I needed to. Not much exciting until she remarked that I never mentioned high school. I'm 50+ and that triggered me not remembering most of high school. We explored some of the things I talked about and I said that I sometimes wonder if I had multiple personalities because of some of the things that went on. It was never "me" that did things. But it's been over 15 yrs since any real episodes. Little ones but nothing major. Now things seem all stirred up and I feel like I am going nuts!! Somewhere inside there is a really happy little girl (Deedee) that everyone is trying to protect. Dee comes out when she thinks that Deedee or anything or anyone else is threatened. Dee got burned this time and really hurt. Now she blames herself for what happened and is shutting down and talks about hurting herself. I am too happy with my life right now. Have a wonderful husband, 2 sons and 4 dogs. I won't let her hurt herself, but she is so very sad and hurt. I tried the journaling. I think she wants to be able to talk about this, but when she is this hurt she won't talk. I do for her, but it doesn't help.

Never worry about talking here the folks here have helped us alot
Angie

welcome white iris. ask anything you like. we have three teenagers, one about 13 I think, but I can`t talk to her. I am hoping she might post here when she feels safe. The other teens are older & very angry & one is depressed too. They take executive control sometimes so I get some feedback on what is going on with them, but not the 12/13 yo.
I more often find myself in that mouthpiece position with alters closer to my physical age, the body is 59yo. I hate that feeling, but at least you get to hear what they`re saying.
Is your t male ? Could Dee have a problem with that? Even if t female, she may have issues with that. Does she have good reason not to trust adults ?
Just throwing out suggestions here.

welcome white_iris!

Has your therapist said anything more specific than just 'dissociative disorder'? You can still learn a bunch whether or not you know exactly what you're dealing with.

It takes time to figure out how your system/family/circles/alters work as everyone is different.

This is a good place for questions. There are also other sites with closed membership that some DID people feel more comfortable at. The great thing about the Internet is that you can find a place that fits your specific needs as you learn more about what is going on for all of you. I know that I went through a few sites when first dx'd trying to find something that wasn't insulting to my system and safe enough for my system at the same time. Landed here after some bumps.

Be sure to check the archives in this forum to see if any of your questions may have already been addressed. The resource directory up top (link at top of page) has great info and can lead you on a websurfari for hours if you're caught up in reading all those great sites!

Welcome to the forum! Checking the archives might help answer some of your questions, good idea from a good friend here But any other questions you need to ask, please feel free. You can post them here, PM me or others.
Love,
RM

hiya
Welcome to this place
huggles
Pammie

Welcome....yes we know each other. Somebetter than others. Maybe if the others begin to feel welcome and understand they are safe here they will chose to post or pm some members here in this forum.

With the wonderfull group here I can almost assure they will be treated with kindness and respect. You or anybody with you can feel free to pm at any time.

Take good care and stay safe.

Welcome white_iris to psychcentral. This site, and especially THIS FORUM is the safest place around.... I hope all parts of yourself will feel safe to post about their hopes and worries.

Welcome!

Missi

Thank you all for your warm welcomes. I hope some of the confusion and frustration is settled by visiting here.
white iris