today we had a session after 2 weeks of none and from the start it went poorly. counselor acted like she didnt believe anything we said and berated us often this set off may inside and started a chain reaction that ended with us being so disoriented and confused so when it was over she went and took someone else into her office and thats the last thing we remember until cores husband got us to finally come back he asked if counselor knew what happened and we said we didnt know but she had to walk past us to get out the front door and when he came to get us she had already left so she saw us struggling and in distress and just ignored us and walked out this has us feelig useless worthless and has triggered our already severe rejection/abandonment fears as the night went on we have gotten progressively worse and worse to where we are ready to break down how does a counselor do that to someone?????? there is no way she could have missed seeing us because we were in exactly the same spot we started in when we lost time are we really that much of a bother??? maybe we just dont deserve healing or have any value.....

[Nupoet64]

Poor Trinity!! Oh that makes me so mad. I have no idea how a professional could do such a thing. I think looking for another would be the best thing. If you can do that. It is obvious that the one you have knows nothign about DID or doesn't belive it exsists. Maybe she has no idea what she is doing ... sounds like she doesn't have a clue, to me. I am so mad about the treatment you got, that is terrible, I am soo srry.... I am here and sending safe gentle hugs and support...

(((((nupoet)))) thank you so very much we really need the hugs counselor has a ton of DID experience which is the one of the only reasons we have stayed so long but she uses "tough love" as she calls it and we are willing to bet she either thought it was attention seeking-it wasnt-or else she expected us to solve it on our own but either way we are broken tonight

[Gr3tta]

Trinity
We are very confused as to what possible reason your counselor would have done this???? Even as "tough love" we don't see any way this was supposed to be useful!
We hope you will express to her how upsetting the experience was.
Many many caring thoughts for you! ~Emma

[Nupoet64]

Maybe she was triggered and could not deal with it? But then she should have said something, changed topics or rescheduled.

we just cannot handle anymore of this hurt and rejection

[Nupoet64]

Trinity, I completely understand that. But please do not let her actions keep you from seeking help and continuing to heal....then they win. (they = abusers and their "helpers") WE must continue to fight and get back up and try again...many safe adn gentle hugz. I am so sorry this has happened to you... Trinity

[anderson]

(((Trinity))))
Please do not stop finding help. we had a long streach where we had only those within to depend on but now with outsiders starting to see us for what we really are we are slowly finding a few good friends. Please remember T's are still human and make mistakes. The elders of us have learned to take breakes when things are to dicey for us. Those within come from both sides of the camp we need to protect each other yet find a way to deal with all the pain that binds us. Please come here and post we are listening even when we take time to help bring in our own alters.
safe hugs from all of us to all of you!

[Hunny]

Yes, listening (reading).



Hunny

Do you think you get any benefit from her? I feel so hurt for you. I don't like tough love like that. It seems cruel.

we dont know what to think anymore thank you everyone for responding

[Gus1234U]

Oh Trin,, just for a little while, let everything be OK, safe in the garden of love. Let yourselfs have that time to repair. Tomorrow will wait~! {{{{{{ Safe and Warm}}}}}} Gus

[Nupoet64]

Even with tought love that could be dangerous leaving someone in a state such as that, at least she could ahve called your husband to come help you....makes me furious!! I see no point in the "tough love" approach leaving someone in that state....tought love has some "love" in it...I saw none in that episode.

was sick yesteday and asked counselor if she could possibly see us today sent a text back saying she was booked solid which is a lie as she makes her own hours and could see us if she wanted to. whats the use anymore?

[Nupoet64]

Trin, do not give up...there are others that can help. Maybe take some time to recovery you strength...this is exhausting. Then look at what you need to do adn the direction you want to go, and your options available to you. Many save and loving hugs.....

we had a long and tiring day need to recover all hugs appreciated really full of hatred

[AtreyuFreak]

Tough love for DIDers?? Is she more psycho than I thought? (Hint: YES!!) Ugh. I think just the fact that someone has DID means they've had enough "tough love" for 5 lifetimes!!!!! Makes me mad that she's that stupid. For behavioral problems or a spoiled teen, MAYBE (key word: MAYBE) that would work. But she has to be absolutely daft to try that on people who just need REAL love; nurturing, caring, someone to trust. To me, "tough love" means "I say I'm trying to help you but really just f*cking up your head"! Ugh. Even as a parent I would never use that. It's useless!!!! Sorry, ranting, yet again

do we exist anymore? does anyone hear us?

[Gr3tta]

You do exist Trinity! You are here in the world! We hear you!
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((TrinityDancer)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
~Emma

ty emma♥

[Nupoet64]

Trinity, we hear you!!!

we just posted a new topic we are drowning in sorrow

[Nupoet64]

Many hugs and a shoulder to cry on...hope you feel better soon..

ty the thread was moved to the psychotherapy forum

[nightdreamer7982]

Hi Trinity~ I am in your same situation? I am trying to also not break down. I am so emotionally attached to a man who. I thought who he was isn't who he misrepresented himself??? I was really feeling like maybe he is the one for me. I just don't want to lose him though. I think just maybe hmmmm. I'll just have to suffer the consequenses about his reactions towards me?!? I feel really ashamed with him too!!! I had all my trust,emotions,feelings,love,kindness,respect and heart all to him for a really long time?!? I believe he took me for granted and for anything else as well. I will never forget him for all he has put me through for way too long and even though. I had allowed him to persuade,manipulate,intimidate,procrastinate and verbally abused me???