[Eriksplus]

Sharon is Core's Grandmother.

On Monday, Core was out but was mistaken for someone else, because Sharon just picked up on Core's habbit of speaking like her best friend.

Yesterday Sharon & I were getting out of the car to see Jane (T). I made a remark to Sharon & she picked up on the fact I wasn't core by my voice; she bantered with me in a playful manner by telling me to 'hush', & she didn't seem (or didn't wish) to realize it was making me very angry.

Today Sharon came home with supper, I said something, & she verbally lashed out on me, basically saying "You can't even talk like my granddaughter, I have enough BS to worry about without you doing this on top of it."

This frightened, angered, & triggered us terribly. Untill Monday she hasn't picked up on us in a LONG time, & it isn't as if we've been careful! Now we're immensly worried we'll get into fights more often again, & less important, she won't do anything for us anymore because she dosen't wish to deal with us. (Webber)Erik & Jane have been speaking about having a session with Sharon so she knows what we expect from her, & we know now that next week seems like the perfect time to begin.

How do we keep calm untill next week & mentally prepare for it?

(Hill)Erik

[willowtrees10]

Don't know. But can you guys tell her what you need from her and ask her what she needs from you in return?

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by willowtrees10

Don't know. But can you guys tell her what you need from her and ask her what she needs from you in return?

Yes, in our T session next week; we've tried to tell her on our own, but all that does is create a huge fight.

(Webber)Erik

[Miracle1986]

Originally Posted by willowtrees10

But can you guys tell her what you need from her and ask her what she needs from you in return?

I think if you can do this, it would ease a lot of the tension.

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Miracle1986

I think if you can do this, it would ease a lot of the tension.

We do too.
(Webber)Erik

[Gr3tta]

We think you are very brave to have her to to session with you! What a great idea to have T mediate for the two of you. If this can be a peaceful way for the two of you to define your expectations of one another, and to make those expectations reasonable, that could have such a positive impact on your life!! We hope you can stay strong and calm until then, and hope you will update us about how it went.
We send many caring thoughts to you ~ Emma & Gretta

[anderson]

(((Erickplus)))
Please know that we are sending you safe cyber hugs and tyoughts. Hopefully T will be able to bridge between you two.

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Gr3tta

We think you are very brave to have her to to session with you! What a great idea to have T mediate for the two of you. If this can be a peaceful way for the two of you to define your expectations of one another, and to make those expectations reasonable, that could have such a positive impact on your life!! We hope you can stay strong and calm until then, and hope you will update us about how it went.
We send many caring thoughts to you ~ Emma & Gretta

We actully think it's brave on our part as well, with the way Sharon treats us...

Yes, we think this can have a positive impact on our lives as well. As someone mentioned before, everytime we've attempted to stand up to her alone, it's ended in a terrible argument. With Jane there however, our voices are sure to be heard!

You should have your update by Tuseday

(Kay)Erik

[Lillyleaf]

Remember that she doesnt know what happened to make you come to help her granddaughter, she doesnt know what she did, and she doesnt understand. I think that she is thinking it is a fase. It is hard for any adult to admite that there in anything wrong with them or the family. They wish the best for Brittney and are scared of addmitting that something might be wrong.
I hope it goes well,
Lavender

[Eriksplus]

Originally Posted by Lillyleaf

Remember that she doesnt know what happened to make you come to help her granddaughter, she doesnt know what she did, and she doesnt understand. I think that she is thinking it is a fase. It is hard for any adult to admite that there in anything wrong with them or the family. They wish the best for Brittney and are scared of addmitting that something might be wrong.
I hope it goes well,
Lavender

You have some very good points, especially the bits about "I think that she is thinking it is a farse", and "They wish the best for Brittany".

(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

Well, tomorrow's the day. We feel a bit guilty about doing this to Sharon because she's had a rough day today, but we figure this has to stop now before we have anymore repeats of last week and/or another huge argument breaks loose.
We also wish to tell Jane about Deanna, but because Sharon's family and we live together, we figure we ought to do this first.

(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

Well... *sigh* we just got home. All I really have the strength to say is now we feel terribly guilty. She's been terrible to us and we are the ones who walk away feeling guilty, isn't that how it goes?

Jane explained the basics to her. We know it's alot to take in. I tried to be gentel to her on the way home and she blew up at me. I really don't blame her. I suppose we have to continue to treat her gently about this; she's been through alot latley and she's not exactly young.

I was afraid we'd come home terribly angry. Now all we wish to do is weep.

(Webber)Erik

[Lillyleaf]

(((hugs))))

[Eriksplus]

She's been acting the way she does when she is terribly upset all day. Wonderful. I suppose we'll have to get used to this for a while.

(Webber)Erik

[Gr3tta]

We are having a hard time with words right now but we wanted to acknowledge your updates and thank you for them. there will probably be a period of adjustment, maybe a long period while she learns to accept we hope she will get past the anger of it soon we wish you didn't feel like weeping but if that is how you feel we hope you can go ahead and cry

[Rhiannonsmoon]

((((((((((((Eriksplus)))))))))))))))))

[Eriksplus]

Actully, now that we no longer have to worry about Deanna, things will be alot more easier in terms of dealing with this. Only one thing on the plate, you know?

(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

So.
This morning, we heard it stait from Sharon.
She dosen't mind US per say,
she minds what some of us DO!
Well!
Some changes must be made in my system, then
so she no longer has ANY exuse to keep her bow in a not!

(Webber)Erik

[Lillyleaf]

((hugs))) keep going I am so proud of you all for what you are doing.
All of us

[Gr3tta]

I think this is a real sign of progress! At least she is beginning to accept all within you, even if she does not approve of all your actions. I hope you are on your way to working out a better situation with her!
~Emma

Originally Posted by Eriksplus

So.
This morning, we heard it stait from Sharon.
She dosen't mind US per say,
she minds what some of us DO!
Well!
Some changes must be made in my system, then
so she no longer has ANY exuse to keep her bow in a not!

(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

We agree, my dear!

(Webber)Erik

Originally Posted by Gr3tta

I think this is a real sign of progress! At least she is beginning to accept all within you, even if she does not approve of all your actions. I hope you are on your way to working out a better situation with her!
~Emma

[Eriksplus]

Yesterday (the 30th of July), Sharon asked Brittany to cook dinner, probably because I had wrote her a letter recently, explaning how I intended to make changes for the better for our system; one of which was something along the lines of "ask for one of us to cook if you're tired of cooking". Well she did, and I'll give her that, but she asked the wrong person. I should've, looking back as I type this, made it clear that I want her to begin ASKing for us, ect....well she begain laughing and basically she thought we were a 'joke' and an 'exuse' again!
I shall write her another note, and we will DEFENATLY have a chat with Jane (T) about this on Tuseday......

(Webber)Erik

[Eriksplus]

She just did it again; "BRITTANY you made all those promises..." Grrrrrrr!!!!

[anderson]

Originally Posted by Eriksplus

She just did it again; "BRITTANY you made all those promises..." Grrrrrrr!!!!

(((((Eriksplus))))))
BREATH! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !!
Oh! Ya, welcome back it good to see your post again> And Yes you should be able to get respect for all those within.....
Safe Hugs and Thought to all with in you from all that is within me!

[Eriksplus]

I had been promising on making Sharon supper for some time now, sadly to prove of my existance more than anything else, because the core can't cook, at least very well. Last night I finally got around to it.
The good news is she loved it.
The bad news is I don't know if she belives yet or not, because some time afterwords she came into the computer room and said to Core who was on the telephone, "You made a mistake making dinner, because now I know you can do it!" Ah well....at least I know who I am....

(Webber)Erik