Is there any hope for any of us?

I don't want to the negative one here but I'm going to be honest.

There are no real treatment for dissociation, derealization and deperlization at one point you have to accept that this won't go away. You can fight it all you want, but being positive won't make your illness go away. I have tried everything to stay positive and imagine that my derealization would go away someday, but that day isn't coming. You can ask your doctors and they'll tell you that there are no treatment for any of the three illness I listed above.

I would like to hear some feedback from the people who are suffering from this on how you learn to accept this or how you won't accept it.

Thank you , peace & love

I'm sorry that I don't have any answers ... But I do have a whole bunch of empathy and compassion ... And a big old hug (if you're okay with that) ... ... !!!

Sincerely,
BrokenCloud

yeah there is hope...my life is good, i am happy most of the time, most of my peeps seem to have disappeared on their own & i have no desire to lose the few that are left. always have felt that way. my little group works well with each other...i enjoy the view & feelings the kid brings, the wisdom the older one does, etc...it works for me...

actually DID helped me manage thru my work as well..i could multi-task like no one else..which was important. i also could deal with the lost kids, etc. a crisis? no problem...i could think like 7 people at once...emotions didn't get in the way unless i wanted them to.

with a good therapist you can heal..if you want to..others on this board have...it takes time & desire. healing is different for each of us. we each have goals that are unique just like our systems. i knew i was a multiple (only didn't call it that) from a very young age)..some people don't learn that until a therapist tells them as an adult.

but you can heal...it can be scary & hard work..but it can be done.

At some point in every ones life they experience derealization, depersonalization and dissociation. It could be while driving, or the result of a tragedy or trauma. I believe it is a mechanism built into our brains to enable us to cope. When it happens very young we just accept this as a way of living. It has worked for me for years. But now it is time to free myself of my painful memories and allow my mind to heal. I may not have everyone return to being one self and that is ok. I am grateful to all of them for saving me from my anguish. I don't need a cure I just need to free my mind and create new memories. Joyful memories. And that is what we are working toward.

Illness does not have to something to choke the life out of you. Illness can be a kind of stepping stone to better health and compassion. It really is how you go about accepting yourself(s). Use your illness as a stepping stone. Whatever it does to you....try to use it to help. Depersonalization...perhaps you can write about that....or make some kind of art...sculpture, painting, etc...or find out what others have done to manage depersonalization. Dissociation? The real solution to dissociation aka DID is to learn to work together and communicate with all inside. My old T used the smoothie as an example of a goal. Instead of trying to make the different parts go away, why not combine the different parts, blend them, and merge together into something new...a smoothie. All parts can be tasted, but what a wonderful drink has been created. Derealization? Does that allow a kind of freedom from reality that can be enjoyable? Or is that scary? If scary what can you do to make that experience more tolerable? Can you use that solution anywhere else in your life? Can that solution help others?
This is our approach. You may be too tired to consider any of what we have found, that is okay. One day at a time...each day is a chance to make existence better for yourself(s) and others like you.

Sorry to disagree with you but those things can be treated and does go away. it all depends upon the reason behind it..

example

if the reason behind dissociation, derealization and depersonalization beyond the normal levels is happening because of depression doctors and psychiatrists prescribe antidepressants..

if the reason behind those three is because of anxiety antidepressants/antianxiety medications will make it go away

if the reason behind it is because of psychosis that comes with having bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or other mental disorders where the psychotic symptoms are creating the dissociative symptoms then anti psychotics will solve the dissociative issues..

if sleep deprivation is causing the dissociative symptoms getting enough sleep will solve the dissociation, derealization, depersonalization problems..

if not getting enough food or eating a poor diet is causing the derealization, depersonalization, and dissociation problems then a change in diet and eating enough food will take care take away the derealization, depersonalization and dissociation...

if medication is the reason behind those disorders then a change of medications / medication adjustments will remove those problems..

my list goes on..

it all depends on why the dissociation, depersonalization and derealization is there. it may take some time to get the right treatment but there is treatment for them. and a person can live without those problems.

when ever I have dissociation, depersonalization and derealization problems I do consult my treatment providers and we discover what the reason is behind it and treat it then I can and do live dissociation, depersonalization and derealization free.

by the way having a positive out look does help any mental disorder or physical health problems. here where I live and work the treatment providers have a saying... laughter is the best medicine sometimes.

for example if the reason behind dissociation, derealization and depersonalization is because you are sad, stressed out.. taking a few minutes break from what ever is going on, to relax and think positively, the dissociation, depersonalization and derealization can go away. I do it all the time with my work and home life. and it works for me.

its true that with **some** people these three dissociative problems wont go away but there are lots of us out here that treatment does take them away, fixes the problems.

I'm sorry you feel so bad about things. Its hard to feel that badly.
I disagree with you though...there is always hope. You CAN have a good life.
I have DID but do not "suffer" from it and do not consider myself to have a mental illness. DID is a coping mechanism, and a creative one at that. I don't feel badly for having it, I don't feel like it makes me worse off than anyone else. My life is going well. I have a successful career. I also happen to be extremely dissociative. However we've figured out a lot of ways to cope and get along over the years.

Of course there's hope.
Maybe there is no "cure" but think about what you've trying to cure. It's a coping system.
There is treatment. You learn to deal with it.
I've seen more results from therapy since i was diagnosed DID last june, than in the six years before. If I could have told my therapist about some things eariler, it would have saved me a lot of misery.
sorry your feeling so down, but things do get better.

jax

This part of me feels the need to reply to this...so bare with me...it may be rather jumbled...i appologize in advance for any confusion i may cause...
so with all that being said...here goes...i am not sure what all has happened throughout the course of my life...but there are parts of me who feel less real at times than others and more real at other times than other parts...all in all...we never feel complete or real or like we are even existing...which is a constant fear...but at the same time...its all i have ever remembered knowing even when i was like around 3 years old being my earliest memory of not feeling real...sometimes we feel as though we are in a dream...and other times we feel as though we are in a coma...i even have an alter who actually thinks that she is in a coma...which...trust me...can kinda interfere with my life a little...but anyway...after many long years in and out of hospitals...and treatments...we all have come to not necessarily accept this way of feeling...but there are more parts of me that do not fight that feeling as much...so it is all in all a little easier to manage than in the past...where i would just completely freak out over this feeling...so i guess what all of me is saying is that maybe one day...and this is the part of me that holds on tight to hope...maybe one day all of me will eventually feel whole...the only thing I have ever wanted for all parts of me is to eventually not always have to feel seperate from one another...so i must say that having hope and faith within yourself/yourselves...and knowing that maybe there is some sort of hope for you...well hope that this did not upset you...and also hope that this helped at least a little...i just want you to know that all of me does understand these intense feelings and that fighting these feelings will not make them go away...but will sometimes worsen the intensity of those feelings...and such...well big(((*HUGS*)))to you...hope all is well...take care and be safe...
Hope to you

Hope? Depends....... You may get better, improve, survive. But you may get stuck with issues or symptoms that don't go away. Then it all depends on how you live from day to day with nagging.

Thank you for your honesty. It's not necessarily negative;I think we all wonder the same thing at times.
For me, I really don't know if I should keep having hope or if I'm wasting my and T's time. It's more the depression that goes along with the DID that has me stuck. I have no desire to "integrate", but wouldlike to loose some of the dangerous behaviors. DBT doesn't help me at all. I AM very lucky that I have the T I do.
I guess we'll keep putting one foot in front of the other for the time being. I hope you do too.