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Old Mar 17, 2013, 10:00 PM
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So i hadd an extra session with my T Friday as my day was tough. What was figured out was that my little Anna, was getting so tired of getting barraged by my BF asking questions (as was I) that between the 2 of us we sub conciously made up the other 2 alters! In order to protect all of us....those 2 being somatic/conversion disorderish.

All week I knew something was wrong. I couldn't feel them like I've been able to feel Anna almost my whole life. There is a 2nd one I can feel. Don't know her name but I remember her being in my head since first grade. She came closer this week. I think shr did this to help me and Anna.

My T understands and gave my BF a talking too. He can still intrract with my littles but he has to do normal kid stuff with them...not try to fix us.

So we all feel better now.
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Old Mar 17, 2013, 11:18 PM
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I hope your bf understands and does the right thing. Your t sounds good.
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Old Mar 18, 2013, 09:29 AM
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Thanks. She is awesome. I've had her for 5 years i think. But this is the first time my littles have been out. And usually i runaway from therapy when it comes to working on abuse stuff from when i was a kid but I'm not going too tjis time! And I do think my BF has a better understanding. His intentions are good. He can support me in other ways.
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Old Mar 18, 2013, 10:30 AM
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So i hadd an extra session with my T Friday as my day was tough. What was figured out was that my little Anna, was getting so tired of getting barraged by my BF asking questions (as was I) that between the 2 of us we sub conciously made up the other 2 alters! In order to protect all of us....those 2 being somatic/conversion disorderish.

All week I knew something was wrong. I couldn't feel them like I've been able to feel Anna almost my whole life. There is a 2nd one I can feel. Don't know her name but I remember her being in my head since first grade. She came closer this week. I think shr did this to help me and Anna.

My T understands and gave my BF a talking too. He can still intrract with my littles but he has to do normal kid stuff with them...not try to fix us.

So we all feel better now.
sometimes the creation of what we call false alters here where I live and work happens, which is why this state and the American Psychiatric Association has strict rules about how to work with people with mental disorders, which came about years ago when many mental health treatment providers were accused of doing the same thing your boyfriend did.

your therapist sounds like she knows what shes doing and Im glad this situation with your boyfriend is now resolved in a way that you and your alters will now be be safe from this kind of emotional abuse.
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Old Mar 18, 2013, 04:23 PM
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Thanks for letting me know Amanda! I was surprised to find out that this was emotional abuse. I always think i am going to see those red flags because ive been through it before. Sigh.

At anyrate I thought everyone was going to think I was in the WRONG. i am so glad you understand it was not me!
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Old Mar 20, 2013, 04:11 PM
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maybe it wasn't emotional abuse but maybe just a misunderstanding of how to be with Anna? people who care about us sometimes want to help so much that they jump in and do what they think will help but sometimes its just not helpful. its good if we can tell them that so they can stop doing it.
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Old Mar 20, 2013, 09:02 PM
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Yeah. I had a T session today and talked with her about all that. I agree emotional abuse is too strong a word. My BF and I are taking a small break from hanging out daily. We'll probably hang out tomorrow. On the weekend when Anna ca.e out he was appropriate I think. Anna talked with my T todY and T didn't say that Anna was upset. So that is good. All anybody has to do with either of my alters is treat them like kids their age.
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Old Mar 23, 2013, 09:20 PM
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Good you were able to work that all out for Anna Monarch butterfly. Glad your bf was willing to listen too. That helps a bunch I bet.
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Old Mar 23, 2013, 09:31 PM
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Yeah. He and I have a really good relationship. and I think Its good for Anna too. I know she's here to protect me but I feel like protecting her too.
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