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D. girl · Dec 05, 2014, 05:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Claritytoo

My t wants us to all get together and talk but we don't have one host/part that is in a position to facilitate that. There is a wall between my groups. I don't know how my groups can talk to each other. My head hurts just thinking about it.

One of the methods that my therapist advised me may help you, it helped me understand my alters and how they are and how they think.
T asked me to buy 6 different notebooks, one for each one of them and that each one of them likes. There they write their things or they write to me, I don't always read them but from time to time I sit down and I read.. maybe this could help you identify any aspect of them that might help you when you visit your t. Good luck!

Claritytoo · Dec 05, 2014, 04:04 PM

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Originally Posted by amandalouise

Im wondering if we are using two different definitions of the same terms?

here in NY the definition of dissociation is ......a mental detachment from ones suroundings, events, awareness, switching from one state of mind to another...

examples of dissociation...feeling numb, spacy, detached, feeling like we are not all there, losing track of time, feeling like the environment or events are not quite in sinc with us, switching from host to alter, switching from alter to alter, switching from alter to host.....

here in NY the definition of a trigger is anything mental or physical that causes dissociation to happen....

examples of triggers......boredom, repetitive/habitual actions, strong emotions, events that we feel we are unable to handle/or do, stress, anxiety, life events....

when i am using the term ........trigger..... I mean there is something mental or physical that has caused the dissociation process to happen. I dont mean just something traumatic. I mean in the broader definition of the term that we use here where I live and work.

here where I live and work.... the needing to function is considered a trigger and resulting action of switching into the alter that has that job, purpose reason for being to complete that function is dissociation.

"when i am using the term ........trigger..... I mean there is something mental or physical that has caused the dissociation process to happen. I dont mean just something traumatic. I mean in the broader definition of the term that we use here where I live and work.

here where I live and work.... the needing to function is considered a trigger and resulting action of switching into the alter that has that job, purpose reason for being to complete that function is dissociation."

Ok so when I need to drive, the need to drive is the trigger for my alter who drives to come forward and take control. That is fine. I was stuck on the word trigger as it meaning something negative had to happen or be felt. I see what you mean.

amandalouise · Dec 05, 2014, 09:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Claritytoo

"when i am using the term ........trigger..... I mean there is something mental or physical that has caused the dissociation process to happen. I dont mean just something traumatic. I mean in the broader definition of the term that we use here where I live and work.

here where I live and work.... the needing to function is considered a trigger and resulting action of switching into the alter that has that job, purpose reason for being to complete that function is dissociation."

Ok so when I need to drive, the need to drive is the trigger for my alter who drives to come forward and take control. That is fine. I was stuck on the word trigger as it meaning something negative had to happen or be felt. I see what you mean.

exactly here in NY a ....trigger.... does not have to be traumatic or negative. its just that physical or mental thing that causes something to happen....

one thing that helps me to remember triggers do not have to be negative or traumatic is to think about something positive that I have done today. that thinking of a positive thing triggers my brain into remembering sometimes on a visual level. or for example turning on a light switch is a trigger for a lamp to come on,.... or when I think about a favorite food this triggers my taste buds and other physical reactions to happen.

I kind of had the feeling we were not quite on the same page definition wise.

now that you know what my locations definitions are you can understand what I posted.

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