I could really use some support right now

I am now living in an assisted living facility due to my internal problems. I am getting alot better, but not everyone sees that. All they see is that I am cut up and stuff. Though things are getting better some things are just getting harder. I am having a really hard time with one of the head people here. She is being quite rude to me. Though I do understand that the staff cannot restrain me and I am ok with that. But she is just saying that I need to stay downstairs when I am having problems instead of having the staff help me. They are now supposed to just call the police if one of my parts wants to hurt me. I am really uncomfortable with the idea because I know that going to the hospital does not help me at all. Really I know I am not telling you the whole story because well that would take me a long time. But I really could use some help, support and input on all of this.

does the woman understand about your alters?
have your pdoc talk to the staff and maybe they can come to a compromise and help better

Thank you really, I have just really been having a hard time. We unexpectantly had a meeting today, all of the head staff people and me for an hour. It was so hard, I think I left for part of it actually. I don't know though. It was rather difficult though. Thank you so much for responding, it really means alot. My T actually came and did an inservice when I first moved in for all of the staff. I am thinking that maybe things are getting settled right now though. I hope anyway.

Jennifer

I am now living in an assisted living facility

(( Jennifer )) I know it's been really hard on you lately. You've been through so much.

Are you receiving any psychiatric care there? You really need to take your well-being into consideration.

If you are not getting proper help or feel threatened by them calling the police, what are your options?

Keep posting. We're here, even if all we can do is listen.

(((hugs))) Is there any way to give any alter an alternative way of self harm because of the added stress? "Just for now" maybe...make a deal or whatever... rewards for going each hour without? Sorry, trying to brain storm here.

I wouldn't worry so much about the staffers.. IF they want to help at all, just keep quiet if you can... maybe they will too? Try to act like you are doing better...even better than you know you are... like, I would be so much worse at home.... comments? IDK...

This is temporary, yes? Any more you can share would help. But I understand. Tell us some things you have tried, and what you want to try and want our opinions... maybe the ideas you get won't work but they might lead to something that will!

TC

How about following the chain of command. I have a sister thats in assisted living home and they have aids and stuff but there is also supervisors and supervisors for the supers. My sister says every professional in the assisted homes has to answer to an ethics committee and there is always a complaint procedure form that is handed out at intake that explains who to contact outside the assisted living home for complains about the employees. the opaper gives name of the "district supervisor" or local supervisor outside the home that over sees the people working in the homes. Call your local mental health government office and they can tell you who to contact. They may even be the ones overseeing the therapists in the assisted living homes. if you are there because of medical health call your physt\ician he can tell you who outside the home is overseeing the medical employees of the home.

(((((((((((((((((((((Jennifer)))))))))))))))))))))))))) I am sorry I have no good suggestions but wanted you to know I am here and I care.

thank you all, really. I am probably going to be here for a year or so, until things get more stable. If I continue to have problems with this person I think I will contact someone about her. It was very scary having to meet with all of the head people today. I had no clue that it was going to happen, they just called me up there. It's pretty pathetic though, I am 20 and I am living in an assisted living facility. Though it is helping me, so maybe it is not so pathetic after all. There is some staff here who I have really kind of bonded with. And one of them is getting in trouble for helping me. They think she is talking to me too much, well to my parts too much and me. I really give her some credit for the changes that have been going on, others too, but she has really helped me. She is just an aide, no degree, no nothing, but she has a big heart and that's what matters. There are no therapists here actually, though maybe there should be. Again thank you all for everything and I will do my best to continue to post things, though it may be difficult for me.

Jennifer