[earthangel1]

They have now suggested I stay 90 days at the refuge in Florida due to my blackouts/dissociation/lost memory. They received my records from the psychiatrist and different psychologists about how I wander out in the middle of the night to places, and the Refuge is in the Everglades so they are worried about me wandering away. I have to spend the first 30 days at night in the locked and monitored medical unit. I guess I never knew my condition was this serious but there have been times I was picked up by the police for wandering in the middle of the street at night, and for trying to hit on people walking into Walgreens. I guess this is for the best, but I don't know how I feel about 90 days. They first told me it was 60. My ex-boyfriend wants me to just come live with him and he said he doesn't care about the alters, but I want to be healed. Ugh this is kind of disappointing.

[amandalouise]

Originally Posted by bpenniman

They have now suggested I stay 90 days at the refuge in Florida due to my blackouts/dissociation/lost memory. They received my records from the psychiatrist and different psychologists about how I wander out in the middle of the night to places, and the Refuge is in the Everglades so they are worried about me wandering away. I have to spend the first 30 days at night in the locked and monitored medical unit. I guess I never knew my condition was this serious but there have been times I was picked up by the police for wandering in the middle of the street at night, and for trying to hit on people walking into Walgreens. I guess this is for the best, but I don't know how I feel about 90 days. They first told me it was 60. My ex-boyfriend wants me to just come live with him and he said he doesn't care about the alters, but I want to be healed. Ugh this is kind of disappointing.

sounds like this place has your best interest and safety at heart,

their primary treatment options are PTSD and trauma, depression\anxiety and addictions. dissociation issues are not their primary focus. they do treat pathological dissociation symptoms. by that it means they treat dissociative symptoms that have developed into a habit. but they do not treat DID, just a guess here but maybe thats why they are setting these strict rules\ boundaries for your stay. may be because they are not a DID treatment facility, their non locked wards \areas may not be equipped to handle something like DID.

here is a link that tells more information on what mental disorders that they do treat and how, maybe this will help put you more at ease with the program....

http://www.therefuge-ahealingplace.com/

[peaches100]

Hi Bpenniman,

I understand your concerns, but considering that you've actually wandered away from home and interacted with others in ways you don't remember that resulted in police intervention, I strongly urge you to follow through with your doctor's recommendation and go stay at the facility, where you will have the best chance of getting the treatment you need and deserve. I know your boyfriend would rather you not go, but in the long run, if the result is better mental health and an increased quality of life, surely a person who loves you would want what is best for you. Maybe you could discuss it with him in these ways. Yes, going will be difficult for you both, but ultimately, it could improve things greatly for both of you in the long run.

[earthangel1]

Originally Posted by peaches100

Hi Bpenniman,

I understand your concerns, but considering that you've actually wandered away from home and interacted with others in ways you don't remember that resulted in police intervention, I strongly urge you to follow through with your doctor's recommendation and go stay at the facility, where you will have the best chance of getting the treatment you need and deserve. I know your boyfriend would rather you not go, but in the long run, if the result is better mental health and an increased quality of life, surely a person who loves you would want what is best for you. Maybe you could discuss it with him in these ways. Yes, going will be difficult for you both, but ultimately, it could improve things greatly for both of you in the long run.

Yea that's true. I am excited to go, he just keeps describing it to me like it will be a concentration camp or something. like how it's locked in at night.

[Nammu]

I suspect the 90 days will go by much quicker than you think. There will be groups, appointments, tv and other distractions. On top of all that you'll be getting the help and support you needed long ago.

Your ex boyfriend is not really thinking about what is the best long term solution for you but what is an easy solution.

[earthangel1]

Originally Posted by Nammu

I suspect the 90 days will go by much quicker than you think. There will be groups, appointments, tv and other distractions. On top of all that you'll be getting the help and support you needed long ago.

Your ex boyfriend is not really thinking about what is the best long term solution for you but what is an easy solution.

yes that's very true!

[yagr]

Given a choice between listening to your ex-bf who has not always had your best interests at heart and Officer Hansen - I'd listen to the one who has been nothing but kind and helpful.