missing part

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i have a certain part that has not come out in almost a year .. and i need her very badly .. i miss her..she is all creativity ..loves art ..loves to draw and paint and create beautiful things..loves to decorate..have parties etc.. she is the one part that can be happy in most situations ..lighthearted. When she is out she is a bit hyper with so many ideas and projects a little hard to keep up with but she gets things done and makes things look nice and colorful. i havent seen her in about a year..i hear other parts and they come out only occasionally sometimes for minutes at a time once for almost a whole day. The past year has been very hard ..with major depression...everything is lifeless feeling..some days just sit for hours and stare. i really need her back i miss her so much i cant do what she does and she makes me happy..and shes not here anymore i cant find her..do parts just leave and never come back?

perhaps you can ask the others if they know where she went? Sometimes a part might leave because they feel that you ....the host....can handle a certain situation ....perhaps...instead of her coming out...perhaps try to at least ...celebrate her with your own creativity? Try to do your own artwork...so when or if she comes back she will be very proud that you tried...and she will like it....maybe she is just taking a break? sometimes we all need breaks...why not do alittle painting of your own...ask the others...and see what happens...even if the others dont know why she left or when she will be back...maybe they remember an event that she felt she needed to leave? And it might remind you why she might have left ...i hope i helped at least to get you thinking into a better direction....good luck....love, inny

I hope this part shows itself to you. You might have to be VERY perceptive though and look at things you wouldn't normally look at.

I thought the same thing had happened to me, but the part had actually melded with another larger part and it was great. See this part held horrible pain and self-loathing. I thought she simply laid down her head and went away. She didn't.

Like crayons melding together their colors this part and another part melded and became a stronger, more capable part.

I firmly believe that parts inside can meld together. Many of mine did.

KD

i am lost without her and she does not know that. she is strong i dont think she knows the rest of us. when she would come out i let her do what she wanted to. i dont think she would blend. i know most of my parts but thet dont know me. all are unique individuals. She is my favorite and i miss her so bad. she doesnt even know it. she made me feel good. i dont know where she is. grieving.
i cant do art at all i dont even have a desire. i have held her pens and things she has done trying to lure her out just no luck. cant understand why she is gone.
everytime i try to find her another inside me turns rock music up so loud i hear..wants me not to think about her. very intrusive. i will just stop looking and try not to think of her anymore. shes mean.

I so hope she shows herself to you soon. The rocker inside might be keeping her deep?

Thoughts to you.

KD

i dont know .. could be. the rocker is a teenager who doesnt care about anbody uses music to tune everyone out along with other things. i cant stop the parts inside they just come out when they want to..i dont know how to stop them.
maybe that scared her away i dont know..all i know is since she has been away i have been lost. isnt that mean for her to leave like that? i dont know how to talk to everyone inside just know who they are and it makes it so hard. how do you communicate?

In my experience communication takes alot of time and practice to accomplish.

I had to literally learn to "open up" my mind. I couldn't achieve that, though, until all was known to me. In my case, I realized that it was me that was keeping mind closed, compartmentalized. See, I would tap into something, shock and fear, then dissociate...my known way. I had to keep touching it, getting less shocky each time to lessen the immediate dissociation.

Once I had the whole story and touched on alot of the emotion there, I was able to open up my mind...I guess acceptance?

Like with the "average person", there are parts of me that aren't around all the time. With these parts, it's a guess as to whether or not I can communicate when I need to. However, with the regularly used parts of me, it's open doors throughout pretty much...communication.

I guess my answer, in short, would be to "go there"...hear the stories, the ugly, touch the feelings, know what's there.

HUGE thing to do I know. Don't think I'm saying it's easy...whew.

Love,

KD