Worried About Fusing Again

**Hey there everyone! Me and my bros, we three share a body and we're still uh, rather new to this because we recently discovered each other and we've kind of come to be grown to one another at this point. We kind of have some concerns that we're scared about?
*We're here because we're kind of worried that we might end up mentally fusing back together again. It's happened a couple of times and we usually sit there wondering what happened? We wonder why we fused again and we end up getting this empty feeling and we sort of wait it out until we each start talking again.
***Oh God? What do I even say? This is crazy that we're actually here on a forum wondering how the other folks end up doing it. For the longest while, we thought that we didn't need to look into this sort of thing because we thought that we could handle it on our own. I wouldn't even be typing this fast if "**" didn't have the office skills for it. Would I even be able to do this sort of thing on my own? I guess what we're trying to get at is if any of you folks worry about losing each other? We're all the same age and male.

hey guys.

welcome to PC.

i think that's amazing what you've done, come on this site and tried to explain your feelings. it can be very hard (especially for new members who have not used something like this before)

well, we can honestly say you've come to the right place and we hope being here on the forum helps you

Hey hon, first off: welcome to PC!

Secondly: I don't know about fusing, but could they just went quiet for a wee bit? I've heard of spontaneous integration...but that doesn't seem to happen here in my system.

It's good that you all can communicate and get along. There is another way to exist is called co-operation with a system working together for their good.

I hope to hear more of your system so please don't hesitate to write and ask questions.

wondering if maybe its different alters then the same one..

reason i ask is that ...in my location... with dissociative type alters once integrated merged together they do not un integrate again for no reason. usually when integrated alters separate its due to extreme trauma related to what that alters sense of agency (job, purpose reason for being created, who and what they are, how much control they have and such) here in my location dissociative type alters dont unmerge just because they like each other, are friends with each other. in fact the diagnostics for dissociative disorders to be diagnosed at all the alters can not be the kind that are fantasy friends/ invisible friends kind of thing that comes with other mental disorders and normal situations.

given what my location goes by for what dissociative type alters are and all that Im wondering if rather than the same alters constantly coming and going if either these are a different group of alters making their self known after the others merged or if there is ongoing extreme trauma such as abuse of any kind still going on in your life

(I say abuse only because in my location dissociative type alters are created in very young children under the age of 5 due to extreme abuse type trauma such as extreme emotional, physical or sexual abuse then depending upon how ones internal system is comprised come mentally and chronologically evolve as the child does into adulthood, ....

other locations outside the USA may have other standards and beliefs on what and how dissociative type alters are created)

*Thank you!

**We sort of figured that if we were going to understand this better than we would at least have to attempt to connect with the other folks who know what it's like.

*I've been reading up on a lot of past posts so yes, it's been something nice so far. ᐢ｡ᵔᴥᵔ｡ᐢ

*Thank you~!

***"Spontaneous Integration" is probably what we meant. As mentioned earlier, it's happened a couple times before where one of us sort of goes missing and the other two are left questioning what we did wrong until they start talking again. If that doesn't happen for you then can we just say that is very neat.

**"It's good that you all can communicate and get along." *Twiddles thumbs* We sort of -have- to get along. By force or not, we only have this one body with its limited life span and we've come to conclusion that we -really- want to make the most out of things with the time we have on it. We used to have depression and anxiety back in high school but "***" was a driving factor on how we were able to beat it so we're fortunate enough to say that we don't have it anymore. Our eyes are getting glossy just thinking about how fortunate we are to have "***" too haha.

*Thank you again for the warm invite. ✨

*We really can't say if we think it's based off of location for us.

**Again, as we mentioned earlier, the only "trauma" that we went through was depression and anxiety caused by family in high school but we fortunately don't have it anymore because "***" helped pound it down.

*"alters can not be the kind that are fantasy friends/ invisible friends kind of thing that comes with other mental disorders and normal situations.alters can not be the kind that are fantasy friends/ invisible friends kind of thing that comes with other mental disorders and normal situations." We actually have a friend who likes to play pretend by talking to his conscious (He doesn't know that we have this disorder) and we've tried to relate to it somehow but we've kind of come to conclusion that we're more complex than something like that. ᐢ｡･ｪ･｡ᐢ

i dont like touching on it too much because of personal reasons...
but doesnt when integration happen, spontaneous or not.. a sense if knowing is there?
the alter hasnt disappeared but melded or absorbed into..?
so the feeling of missing shouldn't be there so much right..? maybe a missing of how things were, but not of him..?
i dont know...

clearly im just asking questions too and not saying any definitives...

like, i have read many times of alters going dormant... especially when they are not so much needed at the time...? but i dont think that is integration..?
maybe more like them sleeping a while... missing in action so to speak..
until shaken awake or just spontaneously wake up even? i dunno much about dormant either...

im just speculating, and im glad you are here, welcome

have you done much reading up on it..? there are information out there in the net if we just know how to search the right ways..

but of course talking with a good trained professional can help us learn better so we dont take in too much misinformation from the convoluted? internet

This is Not Dissociative ? is it possible for alters to go quiet for a while?...

We may have been like this forever, but it would be wonderful to be a whole person in control of one's mind and body.

I damage control a convo with all of my alters in case of fusing integrating just so that we won't grieve that much...There is always social media or dating sites a hello to sustain us from the loneliness if that is the worry.

**: We know if we come together again. Sometimes two of us talks together at once and the other one who isn't talking kind of sits there and listens. We're kind of glad to find out that some folks feel that their alts go quiet for a bit. *Soft giggle* How curious though. Being the core and having the other two expect you to always come through and when I feel that I can't, I've let them down. *Kicks dirt with foot* Is there any worse feeling? Sorry for getting off track. I'm pretty sure I miss either of them specifically when they go quiet though to the point of tearing up. You're probably right about the quiet not equalizing to that of integration. I'll have to keep an open mind about it next time we have a moment in public.

*: We were at a Library the day before yesterday and I'm typically the one to take a more professional approach towards things to get them done. I'm a little shy though so thats why I asked "**" to step in with a bit of his cheeriness to speak to someone but uh, he actually decided to stay quiet for a bit when the time came and for a while after. We found ourselves outside and I asked him what happened? Our own core didn't give us a response for the first time? Me and "***" weren't as sad as we were shocked we suppose. "**" regained consciousness and started going into tears about the short absence. Thus his words, "When I feel that I can't, I've let them down." We weren't upset though, we were just glad that he was feeling ok after the whole thing was over. That being said, we also kind of came to realize that we can't force one another to come out and speak, and we sort of respect that for each other. ᐢ｡´•ᴥ•`｡ᐢ

**: Thank you for the warm welcome. We're usually sweet to each other so we're not really used to other folks being sweet TO us haha. ᐢ｡ᵔᴥᵔ｡ᐢ So thank you for that.
We really should get to reading a bit more into it. We're just... scared of giving ourselves doubt. ᐢ｡´･ｪ･`｡ᐢ

***: It terrifies me.

**: Have you? That's so neat. We wish we could have known what we were a lot sooner. ᐢ｡￫ᴥ￩｡ᐢ haha.

*: "it would be wonderful to be a whole person" We can't imagine ever wanting to go back to that. ᐢ｡･ｪ･｡ᐢ Of course, to each their own 💕

**: We're sorry that you've grieved before. *Hugs*

*: Urgh, we try not to dabble at all much into social media these days. We’ve kind of found ourselves to be slightly more anti-social upon discovering each other.

***: What’s wrong with that though?