How to deal with DID and body dysphoria

Hello.

Though I haven't been diagnosed yet (due to the fact that mental health services around here are difficult to access and generally low quality anyway), I am pretty sure that I have DID, given (among other things) the fact that at least one of my alters is also friends with myself and a few mutual friends (one of whom also has DID) on Facebook.

We're not sure who among us, if anyone, is the host. I (Core) am the most active and in control - for better or worse, and probably for worse, given my condition - as of late. There was an alter which went by the name this body's biological progenitors (whom I cannot call parents, on principle) chose for this body, but we all agree that he only did it to spite us, rather than because he actually felt comfortable with that name. He's not around any more, though, so... no reason to worry about him, I guess.

One thing we all have in common is that none of us actually want to live in this body. None of us are comfortable with this configuration of "human male." All of the alters (myself included) so far have specie dysphoria, and at least one (Samantha) has VERY severe gender dysphoria - this body is, in fact, in the process of transitioning from male to female, to help her (maybe she's the host?), but even then, she doesn't feel like the changes that the transitioning that today's technology could achieve would be enough to resolve her gender dysphoria, and even if it could, she's still not comfortable remaining human, either. All of us, except for myself (I'd prefer a mechanical form to a biological one), feel that we would be more comfortable as one of the species from a fantasy story that some of us had been working on (some of us are actually characters in that story). One other thing that we would also like is to each have our own bodies and lives, but as with changing specie, I acknowledge that the technology for doing so does not, and might never, exist.

Given that we will most likely have to live with each other in this body for the rest of our lives, and that the technology for making the changes any one of us would want probably won't exist anyway... How do we deal with this?

Welcome!

For me, getting to the point where I believe I can live with myself has been a matter of years of therapy. Are you currently seeing a therapist? I honestly don't think I would have survived without their help.

If I had words of wisdom, I would gladly share. Best I can do is say that I kinda relate. Very few versions of me have identified as female, despite the fact that is the body I live in. I don't have dysphoria over it or anything... I mean, while I don't identify as female, I don't much feel particularly male enough to bother with any attempts to change this body I am in. I just kinda am and that's ok with me. I do have versions of me who do not identify as human. That one is more of a head trip for me since, in theory if I wanted, I could change my appearance or take t pills or whatever, but what to do about the not human aspect? I dunno. Again, I am fortunate enough to not be severely disturbed by the fact that even though I have sometimes identify as an imp, for example, I have not always feel that way. For me it has been temporary. I know that was absolutely no help at all, but I guess I am hoping it might be something to know it's not a just you thing. Wishing you well in this.

-Avery