Therapist from hell

The only trauma therapist around here advertised that she only works with those who are serious about recovery. Talk about pressure.

We talked to her...but our insurance was changing for the worst like no coverage....so she was like tell me about it later, but she had no problem taking our money.

Would you work with her? Or find another that may not have the credentials?

yes if this was me I would work with this therapist. I dont want to have dissociative disorders so I am very serious when it comes to talking with my therapist about what my problems are and what I have tried to fix them and am open to trying anything my treatment providers want me to try. to me there is no pressure when someone tells me they only see clients that are serious about recovering/ healing.

I think of it this way if I am fine with how I am and how my mental disorders affect me then why am I in therapy. therapy is for getting better not staying the same, stuck in the same problems over and over again.

if I really want to get better then yea I would see the one and only therapist in town that says to me they only see those who are serious about recovering. no pressure, no hard decision for me.

it all comes down to me and whether I like the me I am and whether there are things in my life I want to improve.

another way to think about this is if I had a medical disease that could only get better with a doctors help, if I wanted to get better I would see that doctor that could help me get better and do anything possible to get better.

my suggestion is think about how you are now and whether there are things you really really want to change and get better. or whether you prefer to stay stuck continuing to have the same problems interfering with your life, your answers will lead you to whether its worth it for you to see this therapist or not.

I don't know if I would work with a therapist that says "I only work with people who are serious about recovery." What does "serious about recovery" look like? Who makes the judgement call about whether someone is "serious" or not? Who even goes to therapy if they are not "serious" about it? It's not like we put ourselves through this **** for fun. Trauma especially early and prolonged trauma has a profound impact on development and neurobiology. Traumatic responses aren't a "choice". Thinking about my own traumatic responses in therapy... I would be really concerned about being judged and rejected for something I have little to no control over - without long term therapy.

I wouldn't work with a therapist if they didn't feel like the right fit for me. It sounds like this isn't someone you feel good about. So, I wouldn't work with them.

Thanks everyone. When she asked if we wanted to try integration, we froze....like walking up to a door to another life not sure of wanting to open it.

Mix emotions of fear, excitement, bewilderment, dazed, panic, anxiety all flooded in at once. Last I remember was her putting her scribblings away...

I still have her number. I’m in a much better frame of mind then a few years ago when.

Can one fear getting better? Or being told there is no hope? I’ve heard of that one before.

The fear of getting better is absolutely real.
I would give her a chance.

You said this T “advertised” this so I’m thinking that is was a marketing type ploy or scheme used to say “oh this is a good T bec this T is serious”...& the others I guess are not. ??
Did the T actually say this to you. Face to face.
It sounds kind of gimmick-y, like to get a persons attention....to increase sales etc.
I guess context is missing for me.

I’m with Amyjay about the whole “I only work with people who are serious about recovery” and what does that really mean? I agree with her while post.

Who would actually spend their time and money if they weren’t serious about getting better!?

What does that mean to the T? Is she like some kind of boot camp T who wants to push you without care for your internal world and their safety and yours?

(((Hug))). I don’t mean that I’m a bad way!

I also agree with RIYH and I’ve really never actually thought about it that way.

I guess I’m seeing it as changing a way that I’ve always loved and functioned.

The thought of that happening without someone really understanding me and what that would be and feel like to me, doesn’t feel like a good thing.

I guess if that is a fear or concern it might help to have someone to gently encourage you.

Maybe give it a try and see what comes of it.

I think I need someone to just spout to at times. I get an image of bulldozers and jackhammers....a pressured scenario. The last thing I need is pressure for that leads to frustration and triggers.

I go through love/hate relations with everyone....idk. Put pressure on me I’ll push back- not very therapeutic. Also I have a need to please to the point I can have a breakdown in failure.

I don’t like being pushed, controlled, pressurized, studied, poked and prodded, stressed....they are all triggers. We almost died after talking to her as I was walking around on a freeway ramp dissociated and drained.

I can’t see normality.