"WE"

Some times I feel like the "WE" term create a storm in my mind. Today is not a good day. I feel really lost, is like everyone is there and at the same time there is a lonely place. Who can realate to that? I need your insight.

Edna PR

((((((((((((gennoah)))))))))))))) I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I hope things calm down for you soon.

I know what you mean. When everyone or a mix of ME's are out, Things are lonely. I've often wondered why too? But I know it to be that way for me. Maybe because there is so many or even two out front at a time they need more everything to be happy, to feel loved, and to help that is very hard cause we are in the WE spot and help is hard to find. One wants a bath, one want to have fun out on the town, one just want to go to bed....never ends!

Guys, this is so unbelievably helpful to read this. I'm having teary eyes now. Feeling the same way. Could never express it. But it's so true. I'm like that now. I get up to do something, and sit down right away because I "changed my mind", but I didn't change my mind, I still want to do that something, but then I also want to just go to bed and cry, but then I also hate myself for it, and so each "me" is unhappy and lonely, and, bottom line, I keep getting up and sitting down, and ready to start hitting pillows out of despair. Sorry I'm venting. But, yeah, everyone is there, and it doesn't make anyone happy, 'cause everyone's pulling in a different direction and sulking when it's not working. Whatever I do, the rest will be unhappy, lonely, angry, unheard, etc. ARGHH!!!

Thank you for such a helpful post...

i call this experience, "living life by the committee in my head who can never agree" part of th role of therapy is to teach parts to work cooperatively for the best deal for the whole being or for the host.

unless parts learn how to get along and work together ya'll will stay chaotic and unpeaceful. it takes up too much energy to deal with all the inner fight.

learning to cooperate becomes a win-win situation. i'd recomment you try doing for yourself. hugs,

leslie and her pixies

ps excuse all the typos. i've got super-severe headache killing me.

I know what you mean. Sometimes we hear the storm in our head but we still feel so lonely. I think we even hide from each other inside. Our puppy helps us some with the lonelys. Hope you feel less lonely and more calm soon, lisha

welcome to pc! i find it very difficult with loneliness. we still don't always find ways to cooperate. but, another thing is that as a child the goal of dissociating was to keep bad memories from coming up and showing themselves. if i got upset and started talking about what was happening to me my abusers promised me a slow and hideous death and i believed them 100%. so all my alters had the same goal but did it different ways. they were not necessarily made to "work together" - at least not in my systems of alts. they were made to be chaotic and hidden. it is very hard for them to change all their ideas and suddenly become cooperative and all "sweetness and light". many of my alts were anything BUT sweet. so we have major challenges to get past before we can work together to truly "get past the past". but it is do-able, with time, effort and help. you are here and that is a good thing that will help you some as you use the support here and offer your own. it will build you up inside. hugs!

leslie and her pixies

I know ,tha's why "WE" is big for us.

Take care Edna "Thanks for insight"

I know that's big for many of us
Thanks for your insight Edna(gennoah)

Thanks for your insight!

Edna(gennoah)

Thank you! I'm doing better. Thanks for your support

Edna(gennoah)

Hopefully you are seeing a good therapist and working on integration. After "I" learned we were "we" my life took a downward spiral. I felt like my head was about to explode with 28 different people floating around in there. It was only after integration started and we starting journaling that things began to "corral-up" so to speak.
Even after integration of 11 peeps we still feel lonely so many, many days. Perhaps misunderstood is a better phrase. Wefeel your pain.
Pugnose and her peeps

I'm glad you like my post. I hope you're doing fine. TC
Gennoah

That was a good replay. I know I'm doing much better. Yes I'm seen a therapist, and she is helping me a lot
Tc