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Dec 20, 2008, 11:07 AM
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We are new here and just wanted to say hello to everyone. Life is good right now. Everyone inside is looking forward to Christmas. That is nice for a change. Some of the littles still long for the mother that never was and never will be but are learning as time goes on that that is just the way it is. As the old song goes, "some things will never change. That's just the way it is."
Merry Christmas to all, Pugnose and her peeps 
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Dec 20, 2008, 11:34 AM
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Hello ((((((( pugnose ))))))))
  I don't think we have met yet. It's really nice to meet you.
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Dec 20, 2008, 03:19 PM
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((((((((((((((((( pugnose )))))))))))))))))
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Dec 20, 2008, 04:25 PM
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hi
 nice to meet you. i am sitting in the chat room with you right now i am getting close to being in the same place with my mother. am glad you have found some peace on that front and are planning a nice christmas for parts. sounds like you've done some good work  
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Dec 20, 2008, 04:41 PM
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But....we will never know the truth about whether she knew or didn't and somehow, through therapy, we are coming to the place that it doesn't matter. we are learning to forgive regardless. Pugnose and her peeps
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Dec 21, 2008, 04:33 AM
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hi pugnose,
nice to meet you and i'm glad you and your peeps are in a good place. you are always welcome here no matter what. i relate to your story backwards. my dad was mildly abusive compared to all the others. he is 85 years old now and says he had no idea that mom was abusing us when he was at work and that there was satanic ritual abuse going on. how in the world can anyone be that oblivious? we too lived in a very small house and things still manage to go back there. i was the only one who didn't share a room....lucky me-not. i am very happy for you and proud of you that you are beginning to be able to forgive and move on. my mom has been gone since 1992. i do not really miss her which makes me sad, but sometimes we wish we had a mom, we could use some mothering even now. i hope your holidays go well, hugs leslie and her pixies
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Dec 21, 2008, 02:10 PM
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Hi Pugnose,
So glad you are here, doing well, and looking forward to Christmas! It's amazing to me sometimes how much children still long for that mother figure that never was, because that is what they need. Even with protectors and teens inside parenting them, it doesn't take the place of the mother figure, and they grow sad and don't want to grow. So I am very glad that your little peeps are doing well and looking forward to this holiday. Our littlest ones are looking forward to Christmas too! They know they will get something and will have a happy time, with presents and treats. We are going to be with a family that has befriended us from church, and they really seem like wonderful people. They are so sensitive to peoples' needs, and it is great to see them give of themselves to people at church so freely. They have gone through a ton of stuff themselves, and survived, so we have at anytime access to them and their love. That is what we are looking forward to--being a part of a family again. What a wonderful thing a family is. Have a wonderful Christmas and happy New Year too. Crys
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Dec 22, 2008, 08:34 AM
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((pugnose and her peeps))))))))))))))))))))))))
we have only recently met you, but want to let you know that bead do hear every word and her cares much we are happy for you that you are learning to move on, and we unnerstands that this is very difficult. here any time if you need to talk, just send us a pm bead
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