[Monty_girl]

Talked with my sister today. She was nervous and wanted to talk, said she was finually calling the T's number she's had for a few months. I'm really proud of her for getting help she's needed for all these years. I don't know why but it's just like bringing up a lot of memories of the abuse. I'm affaird she's going to start asking me questions and trying to fill in some of the abuse memories for her. I don't know if I'm making sense. I'm just scared and I don't know how to support her without getting to really triggered by the memories we have in common.

I'm just getting slammed by memories of abuse that happened to us at the same time.

[pegasus]

Sending hugs (((((((( Monty girl ))))))))

I'm sorry you are getting triggered but in a way it is good that your sister is getting the help she needs. There may come a time when you will both be able to support each other having both been abused.

[Monty_girl]

Thank You Pegasus, I'm starting to essy some with the flashbacks. I guess I'm just really scared for her. I know how hard it's going to be.

[Miracle1986]

(((Monty girl)))

[Miri]

Hard, yes, but a chance to heal!!!! I'm so sorry that this is going to impact you, too, but there will be a time when the two of you wiil be able to support one another. Does your T know about this, given advice to you about answering questions? Tread softly, there are two tender hearts that need to be taken care of. I wish you both all the strength you need to navigate through this. Offering warmth and caring.

[multipixie9]

I can see how scary this is for you to have your sis bring up memories by asking you questions and you will probably want your T to help you figure out how to help her without pulling you underneath. kinda like helping someone who is drowning, you want to help but you don't want them pushing you under to get their head above water.

Just a thought, though. You have shared history with her and at some point your shared experiences can be quite validating of your experiences and feelings. I was the only girl in a pretty awful homelife and both my brothers died young from wild living in reaction to our past. I never have anyone to validate my memories when they come back up and it is so lonely and painful by myself. All of those who abused me except one are dead and I do not have any way to objectively examine some of my memories to be sure they are real and not somehow twisted or inaccurate and that bothers me a lot.

My hope is that at some point you all can be a support to each other and a help to each other. i don't know if that is overly idealistic of me - in my home it was every man for himself - but maybe you and she can help each other on the way to wholeness. i hope so at least.

leslie and pixies

[turquoisesea]

I'm sorry too that this is causing you trouble. At the same time I agree that maybe you can turn this into a good thing - maybe you and your sister can get through some stuff together rather than having to do it all alone

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((((((((((((( monty ))))))))))))))))))

[Monty_girl]

Thank you everyone