[juliain702]

My cruel husband filed for divorce, wants custody of everything, kids are confused, I'm trapped w/$12 he's sitting on 3 million of assets & because I have bi polar, failed back surgery; he's painting me unfit, incompetent neglective & a junkie. All the lawyers are chasing the money & couldn't care less & I don't know what to to. His idea is $1,500/month continent on proof of 10 job applications/week! My children are scared, I'm afraid of his abuse & maybe someone of you who have gone down this path can tell me where it starts & how to stop being a pathetic victim. I believe he just bought our judge - NV is a no fault, community property state. His plan is for me to live in Government housing eating Government cheese. Anything from anyone?
JC in L.V.

[Leed]

Well, Since Nevada is a NO FAULT STATE what good is it going to do to "buy" the judge??? Won't the judge still have to go by Nevada Law???

And he's going to have to have some DARN GOOD PROOF to prove you unfit. I hope you have plenty of medical records to prove otherwise.

Do you have an attorney? I hope you have a good one because you MIGHT need it. If you don't, get one.

Being a no fault state, assets are SUPPOSED to be divided 50-50, but I don't know what this creep has up his sleeve -- whether he's hidden his money somewhere or what. From the sounds of him, I wouldn't put it past him.

You need a good attorney. I wish you the very best. God bless and please keep us posted! Hugs, Lee

[AvidReader]

My heart goes out to you. I too would suggest getting an attorney no matter what. I had to borrow the money from my father, which I hated to do, but there was no other way. I also was tempted to even get a loan from the bank. Do what you have to do, but definitely get an attorney. I believe there are legal aid groups that might be able to help. I would've tried that in my state, but the groups are all overwhelmed and couldn't help.

Good luck to you. Please keep us updated. Feel free to vent; I've done it a lot.

[eskielover]

A good lawyer's your only hope for getting as much as you possibly can.....sure he's hidden his assets so he doesn't have to pay you...but you need to have a good lawyer & DON"T agree on his payments with contingencies on them.....that's just BS.

No fault states.....it's just all divided & one has to prove the other incompetent to take away children......you need to have that part of your life covered to protect yourself as best you can

[JLarissaDragon]

In the end he can try all sorts of things, but most of the time the judge does what he or she will deem fair. If you are a community property state, it usually means 50/50 for all assets acquired during the marriage. Most likely in your case the judge will grant you spousal support and probably joint custody with child support.

You do need a lawyer though and help with your attorney's fees may also be part of the deal. I got screwed over by my ex husband. In our case I had family assets and he did not. Still we were pretty much subdivided in half, but I got custody of our daughter. It is not the same after divorce and it can be a real financial struggle. Fortunately I got a decent job teaching and put my life together, He still lives in some dump in Idaho shacked up with someone

People talk a lot of "trash" during a divorce and there is an awful lot of emotional pain. I would have done anything to not have to go through it but in the end I am truly better off. It never gets better as fast as we would like, but things do improve, It is important that you take care of yourself here and above all avaoid anything that sounds like a contingency that he can use to "shake your chain" in the future

I wish you the best