Holiday plans

Well I asked ex if I could have my son for Christmas, I don't think that was to much to ask. He said no, that he doesn't trust me and that it seems like my family doesn't really care about him any way. I don't think it was to much to ask to beable to spend time with my son ALONE for one day. He says that this decision is based on the fact that I have been in and out of treatment centers for mental health over the past year, and because I haven't spent any lengthy time with my son in the past year. So pretty much if I want to spend time with my son I have to do it with the ex present otherwise I can't be trusted with him. It wasn't even that I wanted him at my house for christmas, I wanted to take him to my family get together so he can see his cousins and aunts and uncles, but I guess I will have to make other plans. I have tried to call to speak with my son, but no one has been home when I have called. I am heart broken right now, thats all I can say. To me it seems like such a simple request and it would give ex a chance to have a day off, but I guess not.

I'm so sorry Melstar. I don't think you should be kept from your son because you were hospitalized. For God's sakes, you aren't a mass murderer! And you were NOT going to be alone with him -- Did you make that CLEAR to your ex?

I'm sorry your ex wouldn't let you take him. But you are going to have to make more of an effort to get ahold of your son. Keep calling -- try more often, because they can't be gone ALL of the time. Perhaps if you make more of an effort to talk to your son, your ex will be more lenient next time and let you take him. But right now, he doesn't think that you've tried hard enough.

I wish you the very best Melstar. I know this is hard on you, but I'm glad you have your cousins, aunts & uncles to spend the holiday with. Please take good care of yourself, and God bless. BIG hugs, Lee

I'm sorry your ex husband is an ***** . Sorry to be blunt but he's using your mental illness as a way to control your relationship with your son and he's actually wrong, unless he has a restraining order against you he really can't legally do anything to keep you from your son. If it's in the child custody order that he is in complete control of when you see the child, that's different but somehow without you mentioning it, I'm guessing this is not the case. Fact is, you have a right to see your son and if you really do want to fight this you can. Sure the court can decide based on how much you've been hospitalized but unless you've been neglectful (has to be proven) or abusive, most courts will NOT keep your child from either parent. You should fight this. He's your son and he needs his mother and father both! Regardless of your mental challenges, your husband needs to respect and accomodate you and your son's relationship. Even if he does have full custody, you have visitation rights and this should all be laid out in the custody order. I doubt it says anything about you ever being able to spend holidays with him alone or you wouldn't have posted this at all. Visitation with a chaperone even would be stated there.

This is bullsh*

I feel for you. I am a father of 3, one is grown up but the two boys are with me. Now I have them all the time but not because I keep them from my ex. In fact, it's only been because of my lack of transportation and her lack of transportation and a job that has kept her from seeing them. She has made little effort really to see them but that doesn't mean I can or want to keep them from her, and they are going to spend the Thanksgiving weekend with her.

Please do everything you can to fight this if you can! You deserve to see the boy.