[OnlyMeMe]

Hello-
I'm feelin very down right now. Don't know where to turn. My sister who's my only bestfriend passed away recently. What's hurting me very much right now is my relationship of 3 years just ended without closure. This is a long distance relationship. I saw him back in September after I came back from the trip, everytime I call he sometimes pickup/call back but within a day or two. Before this, he will call me every day, we'd talk daily discuss everything share ideas, emotions on our daily business. But now I can't even get a hold of him. Since last friday, I've been trying to get a hold of him, he would not pick up or call me back. I text him and no respond. I called his friends and family, they all said he's doing fine and don't know why he's not answering my phone calls. I am going crazy right now trying to find answer of "why, what's going on?"

This would not happen to me if it's a 3 days relationship, but this is 3 years of GREAT relationship and all of a sudden just silence. How do I find closure or get over this? I don't want to call him anymore because I know he will not pick up or call me. I just anger me more and more knowing that he knows I call and just "ignore" Please help me. I really don't know who to talk to or where to go from here.

Sorry it's a long one. Thank you for reading

[Leed]

I'm sorry this is happening, especially so soon after your dear sister's passing. You're still grieving, and then he has to pull this!

Sweetie, he's being a total jerk. WHY he's doing this is everyone's guess. But I think it's time for you to move on. I know you want closure, but sometimes we just don't get it.

Figure that you are the better person, and you moved on without any drama. I'm sure HE is feeling guilty for what he did, and he's probably thinking that he SHOULD call you and explain things to you. I'm sure he feels guilty. But don't let this bother you. Be a bigger person than that and find someone who will not treat you like this. And besides, long-distance relationships often end badly - at least that's what i've discovered in reading. It seems the majority of them just don't last. Find someone in REAL life that you can trust and that DESERVES you - who will treat you with respect.

Best of luck my friend, and please take care of YOU. You need to heal, so don't jump into another relationship on the rebound. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[kmeds70]

I'm so sorry you lost your sister and I agree with Leed. It's his loss.
Keep yourself busy and make small goals for yourself. If you are calling him daily or more you're just boosting his ego and destroying what's left of your confidence. First goal..tell yourself. I'm not calling him today. I'll call tomorrow. When tomorrow comes. I'm not calling today. I'll try tomorrow. Also, if possible. Change your phone number/keep it blocked so you wont know he hasn't tried to contact you. Its helped me with my separation.
time will heal this too.

[chalicat]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my sister 5 years ago, and going through a divorce at the same time. It does get easier with time, believe it or not. As far as the guy goes, he doesn't deserve you. I know it's easy to say because I'm going through a breakup myself and even though I logically know it's the right thing to do and everybody tells me so, I still love the guy. We'll both grt through it.

[avlady]

i've been through a sevaral relationships im 52 now had a son from an old fiance. who abused me to the nt degree. i am so happy it ended, looking back now after being in a 17 year marriage, still going strong, its a good relationship, he puts up with so much stuff and i have to say with my psychological problems, i'm schitzoaffective and depressed, he is my healer. i never would have met him if i stayed with the jerk i was with. there is so much out there for you, you'll get over your sisters death in time, but you need to think of yourself and healing from this guy you were talking about, tell him your not going to let him abuse you anymore -, it sounds like emotional abuse, maybe not but do you really want to go through the loneliness on your own when he tries it again? i remember going through emotional feelings of grief after a person i loved broke up with me, but in the end you're better off. put another notch in your lipstick case. you deserve it all the good in the world. i'll pray for you too.avlady