Should I delete my ex wife from facebook?

I know this is a trivial question, but should I delete my ex wife from facebook?

Here is my history....

13 years together (10 years married)
2 children (now living overseas with the ex wife)

Separated for 13 months...soon to be divorced

She has moved on and seen many men, 3 months after the separation...so clearly not getting back together.

She does say she would like to remain friends....surprisingly we get along really well.

Facebook is great to see her pics of my kids as they live overseas, but I do not want to see her add her new 'friends' and see her posts.

What do you think?

Hi silver. Welcome to Psych Central - sorry you are suffering from relationship challenges.
Having a way to see what is happening to children is especially important if ex is in different country. I would ignore all her new friends and work with a therapist to go through the grieving process a divorce brings. Deleting your ex might mean you might not see how your kids are. Process anger and loss with a therapist, not by retaliating on facebook is my opinion.

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If seeing her with others is upsetting you I would delete her however you have to weigh getting to see pictures of your kids against how hard it is seeing your ex with other men. Maybe you could just be friends with your children and not her.

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Could you unfriend her on Facebook, I don't think the other person is told. Block her posts.
To see her new friends is upsetting and not helpful.

Then arrange times to Skype your children?

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She hasn't added new 'friends' yet. But I know it is coming. Maybe she is waiting until the divorce is official. I am getting mixed emotions about it all.

I might sit on it for a bit. It is too tough of a decision.

Thank you for replying

Yeah they are not told but she will notice quickly if she checks my profile. I am not sure how she would take it. She instigated the divorce.

It could turn my civil relationship with her, to a sour one. Tricky.

I do skype my kids twice a week

Thanks for replying

The wheels are in motion to see a therapist. I have plenty I need to talk about.

I appreciate your reply.

Blocking I find to be a relief. Maybe request other ways to receive photos of the kids.

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Hi there dear ''Silver'' and a big WELCOME to Psych Central and all of the positive things it has to offer.



Umm yeah, this is a slightly difficult challenge. Maybe for the time being leave things as they are, as you say, there's no actual pictures of these ''friends'' as of yet.
Being able to Skype with your kids is great, it's much more personal than just emails.
It may be somewhat painful (if that's the word) to see pics of the supposed ''friends'', so maybe before it gets to that point you could have already stopped contact/messaging direct to your ex. However, I definitely agree, it's of upmost importance to keep your relationship with your kids intact.
Do please let us know how things progress. HUGS. XXXXXXXXXXX

I have my ex husband on my Facebook. We divorced because he wanted more kids but after our son died, I just couldn't. He's remarried now and we talk every once and a while.

For me, it's amicable and doesn't feel like a thorn in my side. How it feels for you may be different.

If you aren't bothered by her potential future mates showing up in photos, stay friends on there. If you are bothered, better to cut the loss. It's just social media.

Really think on if you'd rather keep up with her and everything she does or if you'd rather just not know....

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Thanks for the support. I will keep you posted

Thanks for your reply. A part of me loves her so I will keep her as a friend and see how it goes.

My relationship with my xH is amicable but I will admit that seeing pictures of him spending Thanksgiving with his new girlfriend, as well as, at other events was unsettling for me. Part of that was because I felt like I was intruding on his privacy, and the other part was because I was told 'I hope you don't have someone waiting when the divorce is over because that will hurt the kids' only to see his pictures with his girlfriend posted months before the divorce actually occurred. I"m actually pretty sure he knew her a lot longer than it would appear.
The pictures of the kids was the reason I stayed friends on FB that long but my kids are grown and married and we are already FB friends, so there was no reason to keep him on my list. I blocked him and the girlfriend and feel much better.
Obviously it is different if your kids are not old enough to have their own accts, perhaps your stbx would send you pictures by email? Or let the kids do it. I wish you the best.