[MrMoose]

I could add optimistic, pessimistic, angry, sad, tearful, fearful. Every day seems to bring more opposing emotions. I have a stronger desire to stay married and a firmer resolve to get divorced. I'm afraid to stay married, petrified of divorce. I'm hopeful that I can forge a new path in life with my child if I leave but I'm sad that that I would be leaving behind the other child if I do. I have the worst trepidation of what it will be like to be a family of four except that it may always be better than a family of two.
I haven't changed my "mood icon" in a while--it's still on "rollercoaster"--
I'm just glad I can vent here.

[TishaBuv]

Having to separate the children is really tough.

[Skeezyks]

Hello MrMoose: The Skeezyks would simply like to send some healing thoughts your way with the hope that you will be able to find deep peace within...

[healingme4me]

It's ok to do what's best for you over the course of the long run. If it's a marriage that is salvageable, everyone can grow from that experience of reconnecting and evolving. If it's a marriage that isn't salvageable, at least you will be well and the kids can grow and evolve from that experience.

Being inbetween is a slow and steady process, in and of itself.

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[Whisper888]

I feel for you Mr Moose. It's a hard decision...and I think it should be. The first time I considered leaving my husband my kids were 1 and 3. I make a decent wage, I knew I could support us. But I would have to work full time. I only worked part time because I loved spending time with my kids. Ultimately I decided that I would stay...try my hardest to make my marriage and family work for the sake of my kids. And I believe it was the right choice at that time. I had many happy moments over those years that I wouldn't trade for anything. But now...now it's time to leave for the sake of my kids. I look at the last 2 years and think...is this what I'm etching my kids about marriage? Am I teaching them that if you are terribly unhappy in life you should just stick it out forever? Would I give this advice to my kids if they were in my situation?
These were the questions that have helped me reach my decision. But I guess you need to ask and answer ur own questions.
My mom and dad divorced 5 years ago. When I finally confessed to my mom I'm preparing to leave my marriage I said to her...he will NEVER change. Nothing will ever change. I feel this in my very bones. So if I stay..I have to be happy with what I'm getting for the rest of my life. There will never be more...
She was shocked...she said..I guess I was niaeve, I alway thought my marriage could get better.
So...ask yourself. Do you feel your wife has the want and ability to change? If not, could you stay in this situation forever?
I hope this helps. Hoping the best for you. It is scary and hard :-( hang in there!

[Mid-Life-Larry]

Mr Moose, I'm no expert but, I believe that rollercoaster is perfectly normal.
For me, being a father and a husband was my proud identity for many many years. Now, half of that 'identity' is being stripped away.
It hurts, it's scary, it's confusing... sometimes I thought it was just a bad dream!! But, i can feel myself healing. Not everyday, but slowly it's healing.

Know you aren't alone brother... and good luck with all of it !!