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#601
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I have experienced that myself and I have learned in very hard ways that being an honest loyal person isn’t as respected or reciprocated because some can’t.
There are a lot of takers and users in humanity. It’s important to realize that you can’t give others the power just because they can say nice things to you. |
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#602
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Last time I visited her, she had a paper on the table filled with daily affirmations that she had composed. The one that caught my eye was about me.
It read "chant these daily" " I cut (me, by name) out of my life, his mother and his entire family never to return. No more "reptillian" energy in my life." Still puzzled by this... @openeyes - if you wanna email at some point, I'll share the images with you. |
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#603
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I believe you. This woman has said several mean things. She wanted you to see that paper. It’s a reflection of her and what kind of person she really is. Nothing you can do to change that about her.
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#604
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#605
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This stuff is impossible to understand
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#606
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I can’t say enough how important it is to be patient with yourself. |
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#607
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I've never hurt like this. I'm shaken up. Confused. |
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#608
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You are probably experiencing some trauma. Your wife has said some very mean things to you. The desire to run tends to a desire to not experience the emotional turmoil. There is also grief and guilt where you self blame.
The best thing to do is distance and choose environments that expose you to nature and be around healthy happy positive people. Know you are human and will have normal human feelings. It’s ok to cry, crying is cleansing. |
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#609
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I'm a little better today, but my emotions still run back and forth, up and down. Sometimes, just a song, or the way a woman's hairstyle looks familiar, will cause me to just cry without warning. |
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#610
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I get to ask about her day, and share mine with her. It's really helped with the lonliness. |
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#611
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How are you doing?
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#612
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Ok, been busy with different things.
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#613
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Me too!!!!
Busy work schedule has helped my noisy brain |
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#614
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@openeyes: I went to a faith-based dinner last night with the boss. Very nice event. It's very informal with a lot of group discussion.
In a couple of hours, the band will meet for breakfast at the airport and then we'll spend about 4 hours rehearsing, which I greatly look forward to. Saturday night, I'll be watching a band at a very cool local venue where our band used to play. I'm looking forward to that also. Then Sunday, Taco Bell Girl and I meet for lunch on Catalina Island, our first face-to-face meeting in 33 years. I'm excited and nervous at the same time. I hope you are doing well. Blessings... |
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#615
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Hope you are having a good evening
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#616
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Sometimes when we dont have anyone too share with , such forums help to let out our deep thoughts |
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#619
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Did you get together with the woman you knew 33 years ago?
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#620
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I did and we had a wonderful, platonic day together. She's wonderful to be around.
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#621
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That’s good that you had a positive experience. I personally think that when ending a relationship it is best to spend time regrouping and reestablishing a healthy sense of self again. It’s really only then that you can be ready to consider engaging in another relationship.
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#622
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I have to have a woman that appeals to me visually. I would have to have a wife has a certain look and build and i doubt i will ever find the complete "package" of looks and characters, so I think I'm better off to just try and fill my life with other things, despite a higher than average sex drive for 57. This isn't based on magazines or porn or anything like that. It's very simply based on girls I dated in high school and what I find attractive. I prefer taller, slender women and I've seen several in their 50's that just so totally looked "right" to me. It's not about being physically "perfect," but it's about having certain qualities that just strike me and hold my attention, even if that woman ages, those basic things just have to be there. I've seen several 50-57 year old women here where I live in SoCal that totally fit the bill as far as looks are concerned, but I'm just not willing (neither have i the self-confidence) to start investigating/dating again. When I was 48, I dated a Latin woman 15 years older than me. She was petite, small-breasted and had birthed two children. Yet, to this day, I still regard her as one of the most physically beautiful women I have ever dated, and her personality was incredible. However, she eventually told me she was too worried about our age difference to continue our relationship. I work with an attorney who is 62. I would never admit this to anyone, but she is so absolutely stunning that I can easily get tongue-tied around her if I'm not careful. I guess I'm just too tired to go shopping anymore.... Last edited by JustTotallyLost; Sep 11, 2023 at 04:07 PM. |
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#623
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Hope you are having a wonderful day....
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#625
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I never got involved with Facebook. I felt it could potentially be toxic. I like my privacy. Also, I worked a lot and did not have time to engage like that. I also had so much social interaction with my business that I enjoyed having my own private space.
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